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Hurrah! I'm getting hitched - but a question for MNers..!

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Dottydot · 16/01/2006 21:22

Hurrah, hurrah - dp and I have decided to do the civil ceremony thing! It'll give us each parental responsibility for the kids, make us a 'proper' family and all that. I'm getting horribly excited even though it's going to be a small 'do' on a teeny weeny budget..!

Anyway, the dilemma is, we're just sorting out the date and July 29th looked good - a week before our holiday, which would be lovely timing. I told my Mum tonight who reminded me that's my brother's wedding anniversary - he was only married 3 years and his wife left him - all v. traumatic.

Sooooo, I told dp we'd have to sort out another date and she thinks I'm bonkers as my brother's now with someone else and his wedding was about 6 years ago.

What do you think? I still think it's probably best to find another date - it feels a bit doomed if nothing else..!

(and apologies in advance for a million boring threads on how to organise a wedding over the next 6 months)

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motherinferior · 29/01/2006 12:07

So come on, have you sorted it? What are you both going to wear? Will you match? Will the boys be flower boys? Does the registrar say 'you may now kiss the bride' to both of you?

expatinscotland · 29/01/2006 12:10

Why not ask your brother how he feels?

Is the date specially significant?

I think I'd go for something closer to your holiday, so it'll have a proper honeymoon feels.

Most important of all, what is everyone wearing??

winnie · 29/01/2006 12:13

Congratulations dottydot and partner!

What have you decided to do about the date?

NomDePlume · 29/01/2006 12:14

Congrats, Dot & Juno !!!

I'd ask him whether the date will be a problem, if you are close. TBH, it might be nice for him to associate 29th July with something happy

SoupDragon · 29/01/2006 12:15

Can you set up a webcam if you're not going to invite us all?

hewlettsdaughter · 29/01/2006 12:26

Just seen this - congrats dot! (and juno). Have you asked your brother yet? (it's what I'd do).

tamum · 29/01/2006 12:31

Oh, I missed this! It's wonderful news. I agree with NdP, that your brother might be pleased to have the date taken over by something happy. Definitely a new frock, I would say. Congratulations

WideWebWitch · 29/01/2006 12:36

Congratulations! I haven't read the thread but could you ask your brother what he thinks? And if he's not bothered stay with that date.

expatinscotland · 29/01/2006 12:39

What, she was considering marrying in an old frock?! NOOOOOOOOO! There are crimes of fashion, and then there is capital crime of fashion, a la Kirsty from Locationx3 ,
punishable by a massive deluge of Britney Spears posters.

Where's FrenchGirl when we need her?

SoupDragon · 29/01/2006 12:52

I was being polite and ignoring the "shall I wear this old frock" suggestion. I mean, really!

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Dottydot · 29/01/2006 13:07

ooh - I love talking about this!! I phoned my brother and talked it through - he said he'd be OK with it, but it would feel a bit strange - he was really lovely about it and then sent an e-mail saying go for it, but we've changed the date anyway! Sooooo, it's July 22nd - that's if we get our act together and actually produce all the paperwork and stuff..!

Ds1 is horribly excited 'cos we've given him the job of holding the ring pillow!! He's been practising with 2 of my rings on a Moomin (small stuffed toy - roughly about the size of a ring pillow!). Every now and then he throws them all about the place just to see the terrified look in my eyes!

Dress.... Hmmm... It's just that the dress I've got is so lovely! And it's a challenge to get in it! But I'm kind of changing my mind anyway and thinking about something quite dramatic?!

We definitely won't be wearing matching clothes 'cos I do dresses and dp doesn't (don't go there..!). So she's probably going to wear a white linen suit. I fancy something in deep red myself..!

right, got to go but will witter more later if anyone's interested!

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edam · 29/01/2006 13:39

Ooh congratulations Dot (and Juno), how exciting. Bless ds, he sounds lovely.

You can't possibly get married in old clothes, however lovely. If getting married isn't an excuse to go out and shop for a gorgeous new dress, what is?!

expatinscotland · 29/01/2006 16:34

Can you get a ring pillow here w/ties on it, so the rings are tied down on it? That's what we use in the States, it'd be easy enough to get one. Let me know if you need one and I can order one and have it sent across.

Just beware. My first cousin who was ring bearer when he was about 4 managed to untie the rings during a ceremony and they fell clanging on a tile floor right during the ceremony!

Well, if you don't want a new dress - and what's most important about any dress, of course, is how you feel in it! - there's always the rest of the outfit: shoes, accessories, etc.

Rings! WEll, all sorts of fun options there.

On the most slender of budgets, there are plenty of good ones to be had in pawn shops. Then there are interest free plans in jewellry shops, antique shops, etc.

Or, if you have a creatively inclined friend or relative - maybe even you or your partner - who can design on for you as a gift.

motherinferior · 29/01/2006 18:27

I think a white linen suit and a deep red swirly bias-cut frock, myself. Not that it's any of my business or anything

TambaTheInnocentPrincess · 29/01/2006 18:30

Congratulations

I love hearing about stuff like this!! What sort of flowers will you have? Will you both have flowers? How old are your boys? Will they wear matching outfits? [over excited emotion ]

LadySherlockofLGJ · 29/01/2006 18:38

OK OK

Am I going blind ??

I see no reference to Juno and then all of a sudden, you are all congratulating Juno.......~~~~~~~~LGJ walks off scratching her head.

tamum · 29/01/2006 18:57

Oh yes, something in red would look marvellous with a white linen suit, much better than cream. It's handy that you don't want to compete in the meringue stakes, isn't it? We want more details though- have you a dress in mind? Can we see it???

Juno is Dot's partner, LGJ.

Tortington · 29/01/2006 18:58

many congrats.

is it a free bar at the reception? [hopeful emoticon]

seriously though hope you have a fab day

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Dottydot · 29/01/2006 21:13

Yes, Juno's my other half - that's her Mumsnet name but she doesn't post as often as me!

Flowers - I'm thinking dark red roses? Not loads - not a big bouquet or anything, but just a small rose thing to carry??! (can you tell I've not thought this all through yet?).

Organising weddings are more tricky than I thought! Have been trying to find some nice but not expensive invitations - it's impossible! I know we could make some, but I was hoping to find some decent ones that wouldn't blow the extravagent £200 budget we've got...

Dress - no, I haven't seen one in particular yet - need to get looking. But I love deep colours, so hopefully dark red or maybe even dark purple? (or the cream dress in my wardrobe if I lose 2 stone- ha, ha).

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tamum · 29/01/2006 21:36

Deep red flowers sounds lovely It's not worth asking any of the crafters on here who make cards if they have any ideas for invitations is it?

bea · 30/01/2006 23:09

Dottydot!

found you on this thread.. too late to call you now (doing some surfing before i turn in!) ... but how dare you not ask me to make your invitations!!!!
Will call you tommorrow (if i remember !) in a huff!!!!

bea · 30/01/2006 23:09

... or my big sis will make them (you know how arty farty she is!) and can do it on a very very very small budget too!!!

mummytosteven · 30/01/2006 23:28

you might find a nice cheap vintage dress in Afflecks Palace?

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