CHIN UP TWINKIE....

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Life doesn't stink (xp does) because...

life is all those treasured moments with dd
life is all those treasured moments with dp
life is walking in the park and feeding the ducks wrapped up warm on a sunny winters day
life is sharing a joke with a friend
life is that memory that always makes you cry because the moment was so good

xp is a non-entity and you should just pity him because the only joy he has in life is trying to make you miserable... meanwihle you have a beautiful dd who loves you dearly and a wonderful, supportive partner who is always there for you in everyway.

And friends who love you, respect you, value your opinion and who want to be there for you - even if they don't live close by or are 'virtual' friends.

hugs and kisses xxx

That's so nice of you. I'd love to another time - at a wedding this Saturday, wasn't going to go but have bought myself some new clothes and my dds - youngest is two on Saturday so double celebration - something and am going out dressed to kill with my beautiful daughters. Well, that's the image I have in my head - it'll probably end with wailing over the bride saying you can't trust any of the bastards, don't do it. I am joking, I hope. No, it's her special day and I'm sure they've got a great future. I'll try to contact you anyway, but probably won't get your e-mails until tomorrow. Thanks and would love to meet up some other time.

Good news re social services.

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Big hugs, Twinkie, and an echo of what Aloha says about not letting him have a MINUTE of extra time: it could enable him to establish a precedent. (apart from the most important thing, the preciousness of your time with your DD)

I'm sure they will listen and the nursery will be able to say if she's not tidy on the days she's there or whether he just does it on the days you have her. (IYKW I'm getting at)

If he's nastier than normal just bite your tongue give him a huge smile and be extra polite to him, it'll really annoy him. It would my ex anyway!

Thinking of you twinkie.
From reading your messages you seem in such an unjust position. I have not the experience to give advice, but I am so sorry the money thing is causing you such stress and look forward to the day when your ex picks up all your costs.

Just to say that I am so sorry you are having such a bloody awful time of it Twinkie. If you fancy a moan over a Rocky Road and coffee one lunch time let me know. I have broad shoulders as well as hips Big hug

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Twinkie thinking of you

Things can only get better for you

hugs
xxx

Would be lovely to hear from you whenever.
Hope the Rocky Road didn't do too much damage !

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Hi Twinkie. I've been thinking about this business of claiming costs. Since he has insisted on using solicitors at every turn and has refused to use the mediation service, couldn't you perhaps claim costs from him?

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4lbs Twinkie well done that's brilliant. Think you've found a new diet - Rocky Road cake and a good deal of aggravation!

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Twinkie, sorry it's been getting to you, hope it starts to finally go your way soon.

In our case it seemed the judge was anxious to help us with our application for costs. (He could see what a s**t ex was.) Eventually he used the fact that ex had made some proposals to us before the case to try and reach an agreement, including allowing him contact by email and phone. The judge picked up on this as being outrageous considering the circumstances (the internet porn), said that I had been quite right to refuse, and since I had had to pay my solicitor to correspond with him about this, hung the costs of the entire case on my ex on the strength of that. (If only we could actually get the money).

I would have thought that what you have told me about the mediation appointments and the refusal to talk except via a solicitor would be plenty of demonstration that you were trying to keep costs down and he made this impossible for you.

Seems a bit unfair Twinkie if you have reached the target you had written in your book. Not really sure how it works re target as having done slimming world on a number of occasions have never got anwhere near target.
Keep at it and i won't try and tempt you into wicked ways. Maybe a jacket potato and baked beans next meet up ?!!

How are things, Twinkie? Anything eventful happened at the weekend?