CHIN UP TWINKIE....

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Life doesn't stink (xp does) because...

life is all those treasured moments with dd
life is all those treasured moments with dp
life is walking in the park and feeding the ducks wrapped up warm on a sunny winters day
life is sharing a joke with a friend
life is that memory that always makes you cry because the moment was so good

xp is a non-entity and you should just pity him because the only joy he has in life is trying to make you miserable... meanwihle you have a beautiful dd who loves you dearly and a wonderful, supportive partner who is always there for you in everyway.

And friends who love you, respect you, value your opinion and who want to be there for you - even if they don't live close by or are 'virtual' friends.

hugs and kisses xxx

salt you are lovely. I can only echo those sentiments Twinkie xx

What's up with Twinkie? ? ? ?

If you need to talk luv, you can always mail me

She's getting a bit of stick from xp and I thought we could (try) and cheer her up abit.

Being an arsehole again is he? ? ?
Well there's a surprise!!

Hope your OK Twinkie - read on another thread you were worried about something at work too!

Twinkie, you've been so impressive over the past few months - building your life again, and offering so much support to other women. I've been thinking that a lot, and wanted to tell you so.

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Twinkie, lots of love, it WILL get better. Am sure Aloha will have some brilliant advice re the below.

Oh hugs ((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))), I didn't realise you were feeling down. Have no experience of what you are going through so no advice, just hang on in there. Wish I was loaded, I would start a mumsnetter 'sort the b***ds out' fund.

SO... lets put our troubles behind us for 5 minutes, clear our heads and finish the sentence

Life doesn't stink because...

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Twinkie, what's the proposition?

lol Twinkie

• I was thinking more along the lines of

...because I buy a big bar of Bournville, make some real coffee and dunk the chocolate in the coffee until it's just mettling. Only when nobody's looking of course.

Better than sex!! or perhaps just a worthy substitute

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No, but have a problem with incoming e-mails today, apparently ... bugger. Please try again ...

Life doesn't stink because one day our kids will have to look after us when we're really old and put up with us trying to chat up men young enough to be our grandkids!!

As for now, life doesn't stink because we've got our freedom and live in a decent country with a decent NHS and a decent welfare state (that sentence sounds yeuch!!)

Ok, life doesn't stink because you're never more than 10miles away from being able to buy chocolate/biscuits/crisps/alcohol/all of the above!!

Quite right WobblyKnicks - there's a lot to be said for Freedom... can watch what you like on the tv, eat what you like, go where you like - when you like... but choclate and alcohol whenever you like and eat and drink as much of it as you like - yeay!!

Hi Twinkie - it's horrific how much these things cost isn't? I used to wake up in panic (not much help to you, I know!)
I am almost certain you won't have costs awarded against you - but then I am almost certain you will win your case. But please DON'T keep giving in to his requests to have more time with your dd at the expense of your time. Just say no. The more time he spends with her and the less she spends with you, the more of a parent he seems and he can claim that you are happy to see less of your dd. Stand firm and have every second of time in your agreement. Do not let him have extra days etc. It's not for your benefit and it's not for your dd's benefit either. Don't let him get you down.
Re the only communicating via solicitors - that's costing you too much money. Tell your solicitor that you want to stop paying for trivia and tell him that if he's got something to say that's not directly related to the residence issue, to discuss it with your or your dp and that your solicitor won't reply to every trivial matter. Don't ask your solicitor to do stuff if you think you can do it. When will the next hearing be? I can't believe how long this has all taken!

Hope you start feeling better Twinkie

Sorry that you are feeling so bad Twinkie, hopefully your troubles will sort themselves out and you can open up that dreamy bookshop of yours and just loose yourself amongst the pages of a book....take care

Hi Twinkie, thanks for your email. No time to reply properly today...if I explain that I started the day with waking up early and waking ds early so I could leave at 8.30 - one hour's drive to attend a funeral. Drop friends off at station and drive back via Asda. Home for 15 mins to put away frozen and cold goods and then go to dd1's school to collect her. Take her to clinic for therapy session then back to school. Now I am enjoying my 15 min lunch break with reading email and a quite look at mumsnet. At 2.45 I pick up ds from childminder then work till 3.45 when pick up dds. Then back to school at 5 for parents evening. Come home, cook meal and work all evening to catch up what I've missed. Aaargh! Am I forgiven for not replying properly then???

All I will say having read your post is that when we applied for costs to be paid by me ex we had to prove that we had incurred unneccessary cost due to his unreasonableness (which we did). I can hardly see your ex being able to claim he spent so much due to your forcing him to do so unneccessarily if he is the one insistent on using solicitors.

We won costs 'in priniciple' which means that we all know he should pay them but we can't get a penny because he is skiving off benefits - as well as his porno money. Scum or what?

Anyway, cheer up luv, soon we are going to meet in the flesh then you can really tell me what you f*g think of the f*g bleep! It will be most cathartic I think

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Good luck
Of course Janstar is right and he would have to say you were unreasonable in order to get costs, and of course you are not.

Good news, Twinkie, still don't have your mail, can't you spill the beans here or is it TOP SECRET?

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You spoke to social services - am glad you feel like they listened. Did they say what the next step will be?