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How hurtful is this?

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chicagomum · 11/01/2006 21:49

DH works with someone who moved to London from further north 3 years ago. We have endeavoured to help them intergrate as much as we can. We have both our children in common (ie eldest 3 weeks apart and youngest 6 days apart). Obviously we were away whilst we were abroad (but they did exctly the same before us so know the score.) I have recently found out they are expecting again so phoned up tonight to say congratulations an the reply was "that's so kind and thanks for all the evenings out, lunche ,coffe emornings etc but through all of that I've got friend's now so don't need you any more. I'm sure we will still bump into each other at work do's.. BYE".

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bundle · 11/01/2006 21:50

thunk

fancyhat · 11/01/2006 21:50

are you kidding? did she actually say that?

WestCountryLass · 11/01/2006 21:50

Hurtful and plain rude!!!!!

puff · 11/01/2006 21:50
Shock
mummytosteven · 11/01/2006 21:50

Absolutely dreadful. Only advantage being that you're not going to waste any benefit of the doubt on this crew.

georginars · 11/01/2006 21:51

SERIOUSLY
I can't believe anyone can actually say that. Horrible

Katemum · 11/01/2006 21:51

Did they think that you were only doing it as a favour and didn't actually want their friendship? Maybe they have been feeling like a bit of a burden on you?

LadySherlockofLGJ · 11/01/2006 21:52

Hope all her teeth fall out, then you can refuse to treat her in the middle of the night when she is howling with pain,

Hulababy · 11/01/2006 21:52

What a horrid thing to say!

fancyhat · 11/01/2006 21:53

if she actually said that sounds like there's more to it...is there anything you might have said to a third party that could have got misconstrued as meaning that you befriended them out of sympathy. If she honestly said it like that I'd phone back and ask why, sounds very strange and like she might be hurting too.

Racers · 11/01/2006 21:53

Bleedin' nora the cheeky bint!

Rhubarb · 11/01/2006 21:55

Yup, I'd phone back and say "Have I done something to offend you? Only I think it's great that you have friends now, but I thought we could remain friends too?" There could be more to it you see. If not then I'd think well rid and waste no more time worrying about it.

georginars · 11/01/2006 21:56

yes maybe she has misconstrued something as it is a very odd thing to say. Possibly worth finding out fpr your own peace of mind. Surely one doesn't put a limit on the number of friends one has?

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chicagomum · 11/01/2006 21:58

Her hubby and mine work very closely together (infact are in the office as we speak ). The only thing I can think of (and this may be totally out of order) is that they moved to a "better" area whilst we were away (not going to say where) and perhaps through my conections and those she's found there, we are superflous (sp?) to her requirements.

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megandsoph · 11/01/2006 22:02

whatta cow!!!!!

She won't have her "new friends" for long with her attitude thats for sure.

Pruni · 11/01/2006 22:04

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Pruni · 11/01/2006 22:05

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Rhubarb · 11/01/2006 22:09

You bitch Pruni!

expatinscotland · 11/01/2006 22:19

for real? that's so far beyond rude i think i'd have fallen out laughing!

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chicagomum · 11/01/2006 22:21

OH megansoph, I feel she will have her friend's for a while as the area she has moved into is a "CLIQUE" (sp) "fashion label" area of london that will suit her down to the ground.

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Beetrootfultoyourself · 11/01/2006 22:21

blimey. well i am sure you wouldnt want to be her mate anyway. But jesus, how rude

VeniVidiVickiQV · 11/01/2006 22:24

oh sh*t!

What a nasty peice of work.

and ive made things twice as bad for you tonight too.

expatinscotland · 11/01/2006 22:24

chicago
i'm still gobsmacked someone actually thought that, much less said it!

ghosty · 11/01/2006 22:25

Am that someone would actually come out and say something like that!
Jeez, what a rude cow ...
If she wants to stop seeing you then there are much more subtle and kind ways of gently stopping a 'friendship' aren't there?
I think you are clearly better off without her ...
What does your DH say about it?

ScummyMummy · 11/01/2006 22:36

What a cow. Good gracious, what a cow. Poor you- I hope you felt gobsmacked rather than hurt, chicagomum. She's clearly not good friend material but I'll bet it was a real shock.