Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Other subjects
Original poster

Feeling so sad

54 replies

nutcracker · 31/12/2005 22:06

I haven't gone out (as you'll have gueesed by now).

I text my friend as soon as I left work at 6.45 to see if she'd had any luck getting a sitter.

She eventually texts back at 7.45 to say that she had one and was already out.

She wanted me to go join her (as an after thought) but the kids were already going to bed so no one to drop me off.

Am sat here now thinking she obviously never wanted me to go in the first place.

So actually the one friend I thought I did have, I obviously don't really.

OP posts:
Original poster
nutcracker · 31/12/2005 22:19

too late

OP posts:
trace2 · 31/12/2005 22:20

go out and enjoy, you will enjoy new year more because everyone would had to much

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 31/12/2005 22:20

I think you are similar to me nutty, got together with dp as a teenager and had kids young? I think friends just drift off after you cant be the same person you used to be iyswim

Original poster
nutcracker · 31/12/2005 22:22

Yeah i was thinking we were similar the other day.

OP posts:
starlover · 31/12/2005 22:23

no idea how old you are nutty, but i am the same. often think there is something wrong with me and the way i am with people that just makes them not really wanna be around me iyswim?

cept lockets... but she's just weird! even she calls me an old trout though!

i think the key (or so i have been told) is to start an activity where you know you will find like-minded people... ie, if you're into organic eating, saving the environment and all that earth mother stuff then get down to a yoga class or something!
not that i have done anything about getting myself out the house... but still

mummyhill · 31/12/2005 22:24

Nutty I would like to be your friend too. come along to the midlands post christmas meet up when we finally decide on a date.

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 31/12/2005 22:25

I sent you a CAT about a month ago but you never replied Nutty, did you get it?

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 17:46

It will depend if I'm working mummyhill, but thanks for asking.

Don't remember getting a CAT Tamba, but it goes to our main email addy and so dp could have deleted it.

Might change it so CAT's got to my private addy.

OP posts:
Radley · 01/01/2006 17:50

Where are you from nutty?

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 17:51

Sutton Coldfield, Birmingham

OP posts:
Radley · 01/01/2006 17:52

Too far away, i would have met you for an afternoon tea and LOADS of healthy cream buns.

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 17:52

Awww thanks for the thought anyway

OP posts:
mummytosteven · 01/01/2006 17:57

i'll be your friend nutty! I can just about get to central Brum (well if it's not the week before DH gets paid, anyway)!

seriously - I think that once you have kids you haemorraghe (wrong spelling I know) friends like crazy - once you fall off the social radar, it's so hard to get back on it, particularly when any outing requires mammoth planning/negotiation re:childcare etc.

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 18:02

THta made me LOL about just before dh gets paid, cos i always say that to my mom if she wants me to go anywhere.

I was feeling incredibly sorry for myself last night, ended up sitting up in bed in the dark crying at midnight

I have decided to though to make this year the year I sort it all out.

OP posts:
mummytosteven · 01/01/2006 18:04

you're carrying on working at Wilkos aren't you? that's a good start - should boost your confidence, give you a chance to meet more people and of course more CASH!. Is there any social side at all to working at Wilkos - staff outings, anything like that?

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 18:07

Yep i'm staying on. They do have nights out occasionally. I was asked on one the other week but I was working until 10 so didn't go.

I do get really nervous going out with people I don't really know, so will have to try and overcome that.

The staff are all really lovely though and are a laugh to go out with from what i've heard.

One of them said I was quite welcome to go out with them for new year, but i'd have a felt a bit odd tbh cos they are only 18.

OP posts:
mummytosteven · 01/01/2006 18:10

you see Nutty - people do like you and want to be your friend, otherwise they wouldn't ask you out! ok you may not have masses in common with them age wise or otherwise, but you IMHO you should grab the chance to have a bit of fun.

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 18:12

Hmm you are right but i think this particular 18 yr old had a bit too much fun in mind

I just have to make more of an effort in lots of ways I think.

OP posts:
mummyhill · 01/01/2006 18:33

Hope yu can come out with us if not cat me with your private email addy and I will meet up with you durring the day on your day of or something cause I am only up the road in great barr. If you need a reference ask ronnie, janh, wigwambam, carlk or whimsy what I am like I won't be offended I promise.

marthamoo · 01/01/2006 18:38

It's your dh who has done this to you, nutty - knocked your confidence and self-esteem. I'm sure your friend wanted you to go - she just assumed you wouldn't be, probably because she knows what your dh is like. Take up some of the offers here (not the 18 year old at work, maybe ) and get out there! Make 2006 your year.

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 18:58

You are right MM, although I have never had lots of confidence anyway, but dp has def helped chip away at what little I did have.

LOL at references mummyhill

OP posts:
Socci · 01/01/2006 22:02

Message withdrawn

mummytosteven · 01/01/2006 22:05

my references are essbee, wobblyknicks, wwb, and T . I'ld better not quote rhubarb as my reference as I owe her a drink from the manchester meet! Mind you wwb's DH was convinced I was going to be an axe murdered - I hope that meeting me helped improve his opinion slightly .

Original poster
nutcracker · 01/01/2006 22:08

I only keep in touch with 2 school friends really. One was my best friend for about 12 years, but our lives are so different now, we hardely ever see each other.

The other is a sort of ex from school. We email each other quite often but he doesn't want to meet up. Don't know if it's me or himself he doesn't trust LOL.

Have one other 'friend' who has drifted further and further away too. She text today to say Happy New Year but doubt i'll here anything again for a while now.

OP posts:
Socci · 01/01/2006 22:29

Message withdrawn