following up old threads - what happened to....

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the person harassed and reduced to tears(by an assistant)whilst pg in Tesco was going to complain

the person not allowed to bf in Next

Just wondered.

I was taking the p* by the way, just in case someone takes offence! And I was one of those who didn't really want a chat section, and got involved in the whole Custy, M2T, et al argument. But that was eons ago and as grown-ups we should all let bygones be bygones.
It's too easy to take offence at a comment made on the 'Net, but by ignoring them we are making more of a point than if we took those comments head-on.

A 'pr' person at Next did tell me 'Well, of course, people could well have been offended by her (the breastfeeding mum)'!!! When I countered that, she got a supervisor who started backtracking desperately, saying 'Oh, she shouldn't have been asked to leave, she should have been offered a private place to feed..' ie, exactly the same point, she should have been asked to move. Very shocking I thought. They also said they had no policies on breastfeeding in store and that individual managers did have the right to ask breastfeeding women to leave. Outrageous, I thought.

That is dreadful - would they ask a bottlefeeding mother to move on?

I have had some bad responses to public breastfeeding recently - even had a table of four MOVE away from my table with the women tutting , giving me dirty looks and muttering!!

I managed to bf ds1 anywhere and everywhere with absolutely no comments, looks or anything. So felt 100% confident about feeding ds2 while out and about. Until I went to McDonalds (only food place open on windswept retail park) to feed him and sit down and have a cuppa. Sat in a quiet corner with back to the nearly empty "restaurant", all very discreet, but no, some disgusting greasy bloke and his vile fat family decided to sit at the very next table. "D'ya 'ave to do that 'ere love?" was the first comment. Was not expecting a fight so caught me on the hop and I just shrank into my seat, red with embarrasment. Then the whole family (teenage kids and mother too) joined in and made snidey comments, until the manager came over and suggested I use the toilets as it would be more private. Was so shocked I couldn't even speak let alone let off the mouthfull I thought of later in the car.
And if I ever see the fat, ugly bstrd and his fat, ugly, bstrd family again I'll shove his BigMac right up his big, fat, ugly (enough now, calm down woman).
Anyway, work's over, time to go home.

I know I should have done hehe the stupid thing was the women were behaving as if they didnt want their blokes to see but in all honesty they were revealing more breast in their tops than i was with mine discreetly lobbed out with a babies head covering 95%.

That is shocking the mcdonalds story - the manager should have asked them to sit in the toilet to eat their meal not your baby!! Where would you sit ON the toilet for gods sake?!

I always wonder what they're expecting, when they ask women to move. Are you supposed to stop mid-feed, and carry your screaming frustrated baby out of the cafe, with your milk still spurting down your front? And then maybe stop in the doorway and carry on?

Or what would they do if you smiled sweetly and said "yes, certainly! I don't think I can walk and breastfeed at the same time though so I'll just wait until shes finished". I do find that smiling nicely, pretending to agree and then "misunderstanding" tends to wrongfoot people so they stop bothering you...

Although I've only ever had a positive response to bfing in public (or people don't notice). Although there was the vicar at my sister's wedding who politely offered to show me where the loos were. DD was 4 weeks old at the time and I genuinely had no idea why he wanted to show me the loos and just said "oh I've seen where they are" and carried on.

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In defence of McD's. They are the only place I have found that will tell you every single ingredient so that you can eat on the run and still follow an exclusion diet. I always check the latest ingredient list with them and explain its because I'm bfing my ds and they are always really nice and impressed I'm so thorough.

awful comments about breast feeding but loved Zerub's responses

bobthebaby ... that is McDonald's NZ though isn't it? NZ is much more B/F friendly don't you think?
Whenever I hear of these awful attitudes to b/fing I really gnash my teeth in anger ... makes me soooooooooo cross! I didn't b/f ds for long and was not good at going public but when this baby is out I am going to b/f EVERYWHERE on purpose!!!!

Oh chinchilla.... it saddens me greatly that you think that I just get peoples back up. I thought myself quite a overall general purpose poster rather than a trouble maker.

C'est la vie!

If you feel I was directing my MN police comment then OOOOOOOPPPPSS...... It was a JOKE??? Did I offend you personally or have you put yourself in a position to speak for a number of Mumsnetter.

It wasn't directed at anyone, in fact I couldn't even recall any thread where I've conversed with you..... sorry..... but it seems YOUR trouble making now.

Cheers Rhubarb. So true.....

As for these Breastfeeding stories, I only bf my son for 4 days before it all went wrong, so no experience of this. But I find that totally disgusting that people (mostly men I presume) can be SO intolerant! I don't think I'd be as polite as you Zebra.

No M2T - you didn't 'offend' me, as I never had any truck with the chat section, so didn't feel that I was included in the 'Police' comment. No, I don't feel that I am speaking on behalf of any other MNer. I have wanted to comment on a lot of your other postings, but have never bothered, because I have either been beaten to it, or have decided just not to bother.

Yes, maybe it does seem like I was making trouble. Maybe you don't deserve it after all the trouble you have had in the past here. Maybe I'll just ignore the digs you keep making about the people here who did not want the chat section. It just annoyed me, so I made a comment.

Oh dear - Hello, Hello, what is going on here then

Jem shudders at the thought of her very bad police impression<

What's the problem with the chat thread? Was this before my time here.

In my opinion everyone has the right to say whatever they like on here as long as it is not directly rude or offensive to anyone i.e That M2T is a right bitch, you should hear all the things the other mums at school say about her!! (Only joking M2T, i don't even know you and i'm sure your very nice )

If you think she is being rude or offensive Chinchilla then my opinion is to just ignore her unless it's directly aimed at you!

CHinchilla - is it personally ME who you pisses you off or are there others?

I really don't see what you were trying to achieve. These 'comments' you're talking about are more than likely on the Chat section that you don't go into.

Why do you feel the need to concentrate on a few jokes I've made (perhaps in bad taste to more sensitive MNttr's!)? Am I the ONLY Mumsnetter to do this?? I do believe you said it's like a group of school girls.... so I'm curious as to why you have singled me out????

Seems at tad unfair.

Thanks Jemma7.

m2t who didnt want the chat section, just curious.

Not Zebra, M2T, that was Zerub who was polite! Don't saddle the poor girl with my reputation.

Zebra is, let me assure you, too oblivious to would-be manipulative people for her to need to be polite.

Doormat - I can't even remember now. It seems like years ago!

Just dont understand why people would object to the chat side of things.
It has helped alot of people here myself included when been feeling down.

I don't think it was so much that they didn't want a chat section..... they were just bugged by the MN Chatters hogging the other sections. So some reuqested they be deleted and others suggested a special Chat section.....

..... and so it was born!

God, i thought this was meant to be a place for all different types of people - how can some pople object to chatters or a chat section.

RIDICULOUS

M2T - I've already explained my reasons. I made a comment which I felt was appropriate at the time. I am 'singling' you out because it was you that made the original comment. Perhaps the people who were against the chat section might have felt singled out by your reference to the MN police?

It was just a snide comment having a dig, which goes on here fairly often. You are not blameless in this respect either I'll keep my big mouth shut in future, but I thought this was a forum where people could say what they felt.

Anyway, at the risk of sounding like Vic and Bob, let's just agree to differ and let it lie.

I think it all started on a thread about the best Mumsnetter or something, and some of us thought that was cliquey. So it was suggested that it be put in a 'chat section' as some of the threads on Other Subjects had nothing to do with parenting. Good idea really, but some thought that this would only increase the cliqueness felt and alienate others. However it hasn't worked out that way so all's well that ends well!