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If you were unsure about having another baby, but knew it would involve a 'turkey baster'...

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 18:16

would you be put off?

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misdee · 19/12/2005 18:31

nope.

are u trying?

nannyjo · 19/12/2005 18:36

no, good idea. means i dont have to go through the sex for a baby! Tee Hee.

misdee · 19/12/2005 18:37

yes the sex where if you donmt reach the big O u feel let down

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 18:37

nope

thinking

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HaveYourselfAKnottyLittleXmas · 19/12/2005 18:38

Lol!

My next attempt if and when it happens will include shoving needles in my thigh for several days, several visits to hospital for lovely internal scans, a GA and lots of tummy ache, and having embryos "returned" to me by a person in a green gown and mask whilst I lie on a bed with my legs up in stirrups.

So a turkey baster would seem a perfectly acceptable alternative, actually!

However, if my previous conception had been natural then, perhaps I would be a little daunted.

mancmum · 19/12/2005 19:14

my beautiful, funny, giggly DD was born as a result of an encounter with a turkey baster and the injections... my DS was a natural conception and having been through both types and seeing the outcome, who gives a about how you get them, as long as you get them?

AveyourselfamerryLITTLEFISHmas · 19/12/2005 19:24

Twiglett, we're in the same position. DD was conceived extremely unexpectedly after we'd been told there was no chance. If we want another one, given my age (37) we will almost certainly need IVF/ICSI.

I would love another baby, and at the moment, the idea of IVF, rather than several years of ttc with all the associated heartache and stress, seems a preferred option for me. However, my dh would rather try for at least a year and see what happens. We'll see!

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:32

thing is have had 2 'normal' conceptions (well 2nd conceived with help of clomid) and as DH not so keen it would take a lot to take that clinical step .. would be so much easier to just throw caution to the wind and see what happens

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:32

meaning DH not so keen on having a 3rd (not on sex IYKWIM )

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expatinscotland · 19/12/2005 21:33

no, not w/o some brilliant sex.

santabops · 19/12/2005 21:36

do you mean without dh knowledge?

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:38

no, I mean with DH's agreement .. if he gets through the 'I'll think about it' stage to the 'yes, lets do it' stage

Just not sure how persuasive to be .. I'm blowing hot and cold on the thought .. but have intense broody days followed by intense '2 is enough thank you' days

at the heart of it though I don't think I want to say goodbye to my pregnancy / new baby days because that will mean I am old

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HaveYourselfAKnottyLittleXmas · 19/12/2005 21:43

It's not the without their knowledge, it's just that deciding to embark on fertility treatment has to be totally 100% agreed by boht parties having been thought about at great length beforehand, rather than a romantic boozy night out followed by a drunken "Oh what the hell, let's see what happens" shag which hasn;t been thought out much at all

Which is how I would approach it if I could!

My DH not keen either.

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:44

'xactly

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PrincessPlumPuddingHead · 19/12/2005 21:55

but you have answered yourself twiggy haven't you? throw caution to the winds and see what happens. And if after 4 or 5 months nothing happens, sit back and examine how you feel. Are you devastated? If so, sit dh down and have a long chat about assisted conception and how you want another baby so much that you are willing to go down that route to get it. If you think "well, it obviously isn't meant to be" then maybe you know that you aren't ready/willing to step on that particular emotional and physically draining rollercoaster....

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:56

PPPH .. no we can't do that ..if only .. DH's on medication means we shouldn't conceive naturally

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thecattleareALOHing · 19/12/2005 21:57

caution to the wind, darling. You may well surprise yourself. Turkey basters are all busy right now anyway, what with all the turkeys and all.

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:57

I'd far prefer to do that then if it didn't happen it wouldn't be my conscious decision not to have another but just fate

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thecattleareALOHing · 19/12/2005 21:57

Absolutely.

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 21:58

but we CAN'T DO IT THAT WAY .. which is why its frustrating having to sort it out in advance

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misdee · 19/12/2005 22:00

oh twiglett. you were pondering this the other week werent you?

is dh on new meds since last time?

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Twiglett · 19/12/2005 22:01

he started on methotrexate after we conceived DD .. and it would be difficult for him to come off ... but we put some sperm on ice before he started IYSWIM

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PrincessPlumPuddingHead · 19/12/2005 22:01

oh I'm so sorry twig, I had no idea. just ignore me then!

I think if you are thinking about it a lot then you want to do it, so get the turkey baster out. but that is easy for me to say I know

thecattleareALOHing · 19/12/2005 22:03

Oh, sorry. this thread is so oblique and glancing and sophisticated I got all confused.
Oh, bum. I see your difficulty. I don't know much about medication you see. So you do need him to be consistently and pretty ardently pro?

Dotthehalls · 19/12/2005 22:05

Not entirely relevant, but just empathising with you on it having to be a Definite Decision - dp and I have 2 and to have any more would take the usual planning up to our armpits, plus syringes, turkey basters, the lot..! We're umming and aahing about a 3rd, and I really wish we could just leave it to fate/see what happens but of course there's absolutely no chance of that kind of wonderful 'accident' happening..!