Is this stealing?

[themoraldilemma]

DS has lost two school sweatshirts this term. Both were named (sewn in). I have taken the school apart looking for them (they are not cheap) but no luck. However, I did find a large bin liner full of unnamed sweatshirts. They have been there some time.

Is it stealing to take two to replace the ones we have lost?

Have done it myself, how else can you clothe your kids without going bankrupt?

i'd say borrow two and carry on looking for your ds sweatshirts. then dump the borrowed ones back in the box.

Sorry but I wouldn't, who else is going to claim them? Only the same person as moraldilemma. She has lost two at school so why not? Don't think there is any problem at all.

Strictly speaking, yes, but at DSs school I think these get dumped eventually so "borrow" 2 until you find your own.

I would also try to sort out with the head/PTA etc a system for lost property in conjunction with a second hand uniform sale for unclaimed items.

I never did have any morals though

No morals? snurk.

Whats your normal name Doesntchristmasdragon?

dazy, think dragons...

I knew it had something to do with dragons but couldn't think of a name I knew with dragon in it.

Am I being thick?

moraldilemma, Id take two tbh, as misdee says, you can always return them if you find yours.

Is this a disadvantage of being in a uniform school? I never lost anything at primary school, neither has dd or the dses, also at non-uniform schools. Everyone's stuff is different, so its obvious whose is whose.

try soup then.....

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i was told by the school to take some from the lost bin, after DS wreaked his, as they were going to dumped that evening.

End of every term we get a warning that all lost property will be displayed then for one week then sent to secondhand uniform shop.

Amazing the number of watches that are in there. Decent ones too.

I think it is perfectly acceptable.

SueW you've just made me realise where my Ds1's watch could be I never thought of looking in the lost property at school.
Our school also has a "system" whereby all lost things are dumped into black bin bags outside the office, and parents have to go and look. I got annoyed last year because one of my ds lost his school sweatshirt, which was named, so i "borrowed" a lovely new one with no name in it which was in the lost proerty bag. My son's has never turned up yet.

What i don't get though is that some kid has obviously gone home with the wrong sweatshirt, clearly labelled with my son's name, so why has his parents not returned it???

The same reason that there are kids walking around in T shirts and pants that say "Bob" on them, after Bob has played switcheroo with his basket at nursery, or they have put things out on the lost property table without checking them for names first.

Take the sweatshirts - if they are unamed then nobody else can claim them either. If yours turn up, put them back in the bin liner. Put it this way - if you don't you'll be a worse position than if you had not named them. You could have just said "this looks like ours."

Snort! I thought my name was one of the more obvious ones

I did this once when my ds lost his sweatshirt and was lent one out of the school's supply of spares. I just held onto the school's one until ds's one turned up which it did after a ludicrous length of time.

The continual loss of school sweatshirts and the dilemma surrounding how much fuss to make and whether to replace a lost sweatshirt is one of parenting's little mentioned nightmares.

My DS has also lost two sweatshirts this term, they were also named,with sawn in tabs, but I think people pull these off then take them. So I've written inside everything with indelable pen.
There are also loads of unnamed stuff in our schools lost property and I must admit I've been tempted to take two myself.
I was speaking to one of the child minders who pick up from school last week, she said that one of her mindees was sent out without a coat,when she went into school to ask where his coat was, they just said,"Don't know, it's missing,"and were no help at all.As she said to me, her mindee had arrived at her house that morning with a coat, and now she was bring ing him home without one, she felt responsible and annoyed.

DSs school encourage parents to take unnamed stuff as they get so much. ANy left over each term gets binned.

The joy of MN - not really the kind of conversation you can have in RL (just listen for those pins dropping).

I'm actually wondering whether it's the fact I've sewn the labels in that is the problem - last year I used iron on ones and we didn't lose a thing. This year I used sew in ones to make handing down the uniform easier .

Thank you for your responses = I shall sally forth to the bin bag with no shame .

To make handing down the uniform easier, just put your surname in. Unless it's common of course.

I did something the same (accidentally) with DS1's kagoule last year.

Basically, if the clothes in the bin liner are going to be dumped at end of term if unclaimed, I would not hesitate to take two.