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how can she afford this???????/ another possibly classist thread.

90 replies

christmaslovingbluealien · 14/12/2005 17:28

i am perplexed.
a woman i know, single mom with three kids. only income is child support, and the money the dadss give her, which comes through the csa, how can she afford december.
she has all her kids birthdays in december as well as christmas. she says she spends 200 pounds each per child on their birthday. and hten there is christmas on top of that. she also smokes and has fake nails. and she drives. how does she afford this lifestyle?

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charlietherednosedpussy · 14/12/2005 18:37

A single parent with 2 kids gets rent/council tax paid and 160 a week (more the more kids they have). That explain it?
Thats more than we have left after we have paid our rent/council tax.

FrostyTheRickman · 14/12/2005 18:37

I find these threads really irritating. It seems if you receive any sort of benefit then you aren't entitled to have a life, let alone money for treats. I'm sure everyone would feel much happier if people on benefits lived from hand to mouth, dressed themselves and their kids in tatty old clothes and never went out.

shepherdswatchedtheirflockets · 14/12/2005 18:43

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sparklymieow · 14/12/2005 18:45

I had false nails on last week, all painted and glitterly, they were fab, and cost me 1 pound from poundland.

Chandra · 14/12/2005 18:47

She may be saving through out the year to afford december?

Mercy · 14/12/2005 18:47

You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Appearences can be deceptive, people like to put on a good front and other such hackneyed phrases.......but true none the less

snowfalls · 14/12/2005 18:47

Surely she recieves 'Child Tax Credit' aswell, they pay out quite alot IMO for no or low incomes.

Are she or her children on DLA???

Epiffany · 14/12/2005 18:47

are any of the kids special needs
does she get some disability living allowance perhaps?

sparklymieow · 14/12/2005 18:48

and I am on benifits, and have spend about 150 pounds each on my kids, but I have been buying since september, lol

Mercy · 14/12/2005 18:48

Good for you sparklymieow

Mercy · 14/12/2005 18:49

Sparkly - forgot the was not meant to sound rude sorry

sparklymieow · 14/12/2005 18:50

hehe[grin, did wonder if it was a rude 'good for you' or a horrid one

zippimistletoes · 14/12/2005 18:51

dd2 and bf have missed a couple of weekly payments to provident and the bloke came to their work to find them

and offered them more money!

FrostyTheRickman · 14/12/2005 18:51

I haven't spent that much on mine but then I need the money to get my booze and fags!

sparklymieow · 14/12/2005 18:51

but because I started early, I did get some of the 'must have' toys that have sold out now also got lots of reduced stuff or on special in argos

NutcrackingXmas · 14/12/2005 18:52

Doesn't anyone think it is totally mad though that you can actually be better off on benefits ???

I'm not saying that people shouldn't have the money, just that where is the incentive to work.

bourneville · 14/12/2005 18:52

Haven't read the whole thread but will do, I'm a single mum myself, at 200 quid per kid!!! I only have one & struggle with Christmas!
btw she presumably gets all rent & council tax paid?
My mum pays for my veg box, my 3 zone travelcard & gives me extra cash here & there (though i try to stop her) and I still struggle to stay within my means.
Beats me.

zippimistletoes · 14/12/2005 18:53

I do dd2 would be better off not working and also not having bf the father of her son

sparklymieow · 14/12/2005 18:53

we are worse off by about 400 pound a month. Dh can't work atm, but I will be forcing him out the door as soon as the doctor says he can work again.

charlietherednosedpussy · 14/12/2005 18:54

When the rest of your neighbours are not working and are spending £££s on beer and taxis to the offlicence (no kidding) and your other half is out working 5am -7pm and your still skint its very hard to see where the incentive is.

snowfalls · 14/12/2005 18:55

I gave up full time work after having dts, AND WE ARE ABOUT £500 A month worse off.

Mercy · 14/12/2005 18:55

Not at all. When I was a child my family were very poor - no holidays, hand me down clothes etc. But my mum always made sure we had food on the table, a warm house, clean but old clothes, books from the library and her love. Oh and 20 fags between her and my dad mmost days. So what, it's all they had for themselves apart from the tv

NutcrackingXmas · 14/12/2005 18:56

Snap, same here Charlie. Next door don't work, have 3 cars, foreign holidays, exspensive clothes, etc etc.

NutcrackingXmas · 14/12/2005 18:56

Doesn't you partner work though snowfalls ??

merrycompo · 14/12/2005 18:58

zippimistletoes -
"I do dd2 would be better off not working and also not having bf the father of her son" eh? your dd2 breast fed the father of her son??????!!!! [confused emoticon needed]