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a question about late abortions...

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 22:45

am genuinely curious, and don't want this to turn into a big controversial thread!!!

I have been thinking about some of the links posted on the thread I started about the lady who survived being aborted... and the partial birth abortion technique which just sounds hideous.

I don't think I could bear to ever do that..even if I was dying, although obviously I have never been in that situation...

but I just wondered how they perform late abortions over here, please tell me it isn't like that?
and also, what reasons do they do them for? I think they do it if the mother has cancer that needs treating? is that right? what else?

also, how late can a late abortion be up to? I mean, say you only had 4 weeks to go.. would they induce you? what is the cut off?

I am just being really nosy here, and hope this doesn't upset/offend anyone

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oops · 10/12/2005 23:13

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Pixiefish · 10/12/2005 23:13

38 weeks!!! Bloody hell-

snowfalls · 10/12/2005 23:14

My dts were born at 33 weeks, breathing om their own, theywere and still are perfect.

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jinglinggoblin · 10/12/2005 23:14

i know somwone who was offered an abortion at 38 weeks. she had a scan cos the baby was small and they found out her heart, lungs and stomach were all in the wrong place, she only had half a diaphragm amd her bowel was on the outside of her body. somehow they hadnt picked up any of it on previous scans. she chose to be induced and get the baby in an incubator to give her the best chance, but she only lasted about 4 hours. was awful, but i cant imagine giving up at 38 weeks. i would have to do what she did, otherwise i would always be asking what if? however i am not a great one to comment because i have never had to deal with anything like that thank god. i do know i am extremely lucky to be able to say that

OnTheFlossDayOfChristmas · 10/12/2005 23:14

There must be serious life compromising conditions with these babies though. But why discovered so late I don't know. NC are you oK? I feel really bad.

magnolianMistletoe · 10/12/2005 23:15

Can it still be classed as an abortion at 38 weeks I find it hard to associate the word abortion and a woman who is 38 weeks pregnant

sparklymieow · 10/12/2005 23:16

My dd1 was born at 31 weeks, thats so sad

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:16

yeah because the other thing was... if it's for feotal abnormalities.. then surely that would be discovered at a 20 week scan?

what could be the reason for a 38 week abortion? i can't get my head round it..

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OnTheFlossDayOfChristmas · 10/12/2005 23:17

Are stillbirths included?

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:17

jinglinggoblin... must've been something like that i guess... only picked up on a reallyt late scan

i think i would do the same... be induced and at least give it a chance...

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magnolianMistletoe · 10/12/2005 23:17

And surely they would prefer you to deliver the baby alive and have a bit of time with him/her to then die naturally and hopefully without pain. I am sure I would rather that than a 38 week abortion!!

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:18

agree, must've been absolutely devastating for the mother..

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:19

in 1998 89% of abortions were in the first trimester... and only 1% in the last

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:19

sorry, in 1999

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NutcrackingXmas · 10/12/2005 23:20

Sorry Floss didn't mean to make you feel bad.

I am fine, and no it wasn't a late one, I was 10 weeks.

I regret it more than anything ever and had nightmares for a while afterwards. Your post reminded me a bit of the nightmares thats all.

It's ok I am fine, have had a glass of wine now

OnTheFlossDayOfChristmas · 10/12/2005 23:21

Yeah I do. Just can't get my head around it, although on the other hand, when you bear in mind those figures are for the whole country, there are always going to be things overlooked, missed or scans not attended. Perhaps that goes some way to explain.

OnTheFlossDayOfChristmas · 10/12/2005 23:22

A whole world of a difference between 24 weeks and 10 weeks IMO. I nearly did have one last year, do understand how you must feel. Sorry for putting my big foot in it. xxx

MIstletAOU · 10/12/2005 23:22

Wish I hadn't opened this thread now, it is so sad

I have to go and look at ds now

NannyL · 10/12/2005 23:23

A friend of mine (well my godmothers sons girl freind) had a baby due in May this year!

In January this year they discovered a problem and it turned out she had a malignant tumor in her brain.

She had a couple of operations with baby inside, then baby was delivered 3 months early cause 'mum' needed to have radiotherapy etc.

Its all very sad because they cant cant get all the malignant bits out and sooner or later she is bound to die and will leave behind a 19 year old BF and a baby. (all were amazed that baby AND mu survied the treatment etc)

Baby is now healthy and 16ib. This make me think i cant belive that even is the mothers health is THAT bad (can you get worse then malignant brian tumour.... baby HAD to come out in order for mum to have life saving (or prolonging) treatment) would they really abort the baby?

Still all fresh in my mind as we had all the upsdate with our Xmas card just this morning

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:23

it just seems so sad doesn't it?

i am (obviously) not anti-abortion.... but a virtually full-term baby.. that's just awful

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followthestarlover · 10/12/2005 23:25

that answers one of my questions then nannyl! a baby can be induced so that the mother can get treatment...
amazing baby survived and is healthy, but so sad that the cancer is terminal must be heartbreaking for them all

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