Does your DH take his wedding ring off to go to bed? Do most people?

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Dp, who will become my dh on Friday [excited emoticon!], wants to know. He doesn't wear any jewellery atm and thinks it'll feel strange wearing his wedding ring to bed and that he might want to take it off to sleep. I think it shouldn't be taken off except to clean and that he'll forget to put it back on again, end up not wearing it blah blah.

He does want to wear one but he also wants to know what mumsnetters think. So, tell me, what do you think and what does your dh do? TIA!

DH only wears his when we go out somewhere. He never wears it at work coz he's a roofer and it'd be dangerous. I NEVER wear mine - fingers have expanded since kids arrived - wear them on chain round my neck - will get them stretched one day.

Dh only takes his off to go to the gym.

He tells me it because it digs in when he's lifting the weights but I think it because he thinks he'll get lucky

I take my engagment and etenity rings off to put hand cream on. My wedding ring has a ring of diamonds that spins so the cream cloggs it all up but I still don't take that off.

Mine takes his off to go to the gym and that's about it really. He'd lose it or never remember to put it on if he took it off every night.

DH is not a jewellery person at all, but he wears his wedding ring (a titanium one in a masculine linear style) ALL the time. He never takes it off. I take mine off to do certain things (applying DD's Dermovate for one), mainly because it clogs up behind the diamond in my engagement ring and makes it go horrible and cloudy.

So long as you and DP have chosen a comfortable style then I'm sure he'll forget he has it on in no time. It'll just become second nature and it won;t even occur to him to remove it.

No - my DH never takes his off. I take mine off and put it on my other ring finger as a reminder to do something, if I can't get to some paper and a pen in time. Don't ask me why! I don't take it off to go to bed though...

Hope you have a lovely day on Friday!

neith dh or myself take ours off. He sometimes does to wash cos the soap gets under it.
One of my best mates got married 2 years ago and neither of them wear rings. She sometimes will put it on her ring finger on her other hand when we go out and she also lost her engagement ring 40mins after he bought it for her. I would be mortified if I lost mine seeing as I have had it 9 years.

We're not married but we swapped rings anyway and DP did find it strange for a while.

He shouldn't take it off though or else he'll never get used to it. Changing gear was worst for DP, he'd go f*$!king hell!! (We stopped wearing them after DS was born - I'd had to stop wearing mine anyway due to swollen pregnant fingers)

Congratulations again!! Where you going on honeymoon??

dh only takes his off when he is diying or painting around the house - otherwise it is on all the time. I never take my wedding ring off - rarely take my engagement or eternity ring off.

dh never takes his off but i can't cope once evening comes to keep either my rings or watches on.

Congratulations on the wedding

Dh and I never took our rings off for the first five or six years. Then we both went on a health thing, and dh lost a lot of weight, and his ring got very loose. One day it dropped off when he was cycling and he lost it. At least that's his story. Co-incidentally he was having an affair at the time. I stopped wearing mine after an operation a couple of years ago, and didn't put them back on because they upset me. Still feel naked without them! My wedding ring was dh's mothers (she died before we got married), so I always felt rather honored to wear it.

The only time I took my wedding ring off was when I was pg, cos I didn't want to have it cut off lol!

DH NEVER takes his off - he even had his ring on when he went for an operation!

my dh doesn't have a wedding ring (thinks that english gentlement just DON'T) but if he did I would leave it up to him whether he put it on, took it off, wore it on thursday mornings only, kept it in a glass of water beside his bed blah blah blah.
I wouldn't take kindly to my dh instructing me on how to wear/look after my jewellery so why are you being miss bossyboots to him over this one ?! he is a big boy, let him decide what he wants to do, save the control freakery for something that actually matters....!

DH never wears his as his line of work demands it. Am used to it now. However, I get a bit pi**ed at him if he goes out without it - especially on lads nights out.
I always wear mine. Only took it off after having DS as after 32 hours of labour my fingers looked like cumberland sausages (wore it on my chain for couple of days)!!
Good luck for Fri

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DH only takes it off for live electrics work (well you would wouldn't you?), otherwise it stays put and he loves it. me however- I have NO IDEA where mine is and cannot be arsed to look. I love it's symbolism but I'm allergic to it (developed allergy after wedding obv. Have requested a silver one from DH (yes I know I could have the gold one coated but IME the coating wears off and last time I scared from the reaction).

TBH though what's a ring? A marriage either exists in your soul or not at all. You can take rings off, move them around, whatever. they're not permanent. But a marriage is about how you act and treat each other and a commitment you feel. Nothing to do with jewellery. My ring-less years have taught me that. When I met DH I was engaged and I remember 'accidentally' taking off that ring for washing up and it never going back on again. I also remember throwing it at ExP a few times. That relationship was wrong and a nice bit of jewellery wasn't going to save it. Howevr, dh knows me well enough to know the whole me-and-jewellery thing and isn't fazed. if however he took his off, it would seriously concern me as I know what it symbolizes to him.

Scarred from the reaction. PMSL at the idea of being sared by a ring. Maybe it was The Ring? Or Lord of The Rings? Peachy, shut up.

My Dh never wears any other jewellery except for his wedding ring, which he never takes off. It did take him a while to get used to wearing a ring though and he would be nervously twiddling it for months afterwards (it is one way to spot honeymooning men by the hotel pool).
TBH I was surprised DH wanted a ring, my Father hasn't ever had one so I would never "expect" DH to wear one.

I would have been appalled if dh had said he wanted a wedding ring, he refused to have one also, so we are both happy that he is ringless.
I can go days without noticing whether i have my rings on or not - Putting my rings on is part of getting dressed to me, and waking up in them is a sure sign that a hangover will follow..
Don't get too hung up on symbols of your marriage, its the relationship you have that counts. I wonder how many beringed men wear their wedding ring whilst knocking off another woman, yet fall under the "i never take my wedding ring off" brigade.
Congratulations on your wedding and all the best in your married life.

Dh is not a jewellery person at all, but to him wearing a wedding ring is not decorative it is symbolic. I was very pleased he wanted to wear one too. He never takes it off (apart from when he was on steroids and put so much weight on he had to take it off, which he didn't like).

oh fgs, I don't care about it that much! It was a throwaway question. And I know a ring is symbolic! We have been together ages and have 2 children, there's no danger of not feeling married, we already do. Thanks for all the replies, dp was interested to see what other people do.

congratulations www and have a lovely day on friday
my dh takes his wedding ring off to go to bed sometimes or when it irrtitates him, painting etc

I make sure he puts it back on though

DH doesnt take his off unless he is working on the car etc.
I cant get mine off since I had ds!

My Dh only wears his at the weekends because of his job. I only take mine off when I have a shower.

Have a lovely day on Friday !

Your dp may find that the ring will feed 'odd' for a couple of weeks, but after a fortnight or so it will feel like a second skin so it won't feel strange to wear it in bed. I would advise he keeps it on at all times - less chance of it being mislaid