Stinking Crappy HV - how to 'sack' her?

[pfer]

Anyone know who you contact to sack your shitty health visitor who doesn't know her head from her.....?

You don't - u shoot them.

Do you want another health visitor? If you don't want any just ignore them. I refused point blank to take my dts in and that was the end of it - you don't have to see them.

What happened anyway?

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just refuse to see her

what's she done?

If you don't want to see her, you don't have to. You don't have to tell her, or give her a reason either.

What's she done?

Always at least 1/2 hr late for ALL appointments

Never listens - just nods and says mmmmm a lot then makes things up in her mind that bear little or no similarity to what you've just told her.

DS has a lazy eye that def needs treatment - dragged him to local hospital for tests - painful tests - then every 6 months to opthalmist - none of whom can find anything wrong - eyesight is perfect but she says she still thinks he has.

DS is deaf - went to hospital again - he's fine yet she still says he's deaf becauce my mum is. Apparently deafness though measles at the age of 5yrs is hereditery.

He's slower than other children the same age - yet playschool say he's not at all and I can't say we've noticed anything wrong.

He's got behaviour problems because he didn't sleep well as a baby.

It's VERY amusing to her that he was possibly being bullied by some boys at playschool "certain children just don't fit in with alpha males" - whilst laughing.

DH beats me because I once had a bruise on my upper arm.

I've got 'issues' as I've seen a hypnotherapist for a phobia.

Why don't we just refuse to see her? I've given her chance after chance but she's let me down everytime. I've not once received any helpful advice, all she's every succeeded in doing is upsetting me and making me feel like a misfit with misfit kids. I want a HV as it's nice to know you've got someone to turn to if you do need them, not that I will after this lot.

pfer I know you're local is at your loca or is it from Sleaford? MY HV is good... maybe you can change?

Piffle, mine is very local and I hate her. Wouldn't like to name names though. Apparently there is a new one who is very good, am going to see if I can change from the patronising bag I have to someone who actually knows what she's doing.

Piffle sorry, she's from a Sleaford Doctor's surgery as I'm still registered there.

I get mine from Riversdale and they have been delightful from the off.
Shock as I had a rokcy road down south with my HV at first.
You break them in eventually

Just don't see her. I'm amazed people are so intimate with their HVs. I would make an official complaint about her actually - esp the blind and deaf stuff - and simply not see her. Dd has seen an HV...um....once? She's nine months.

around here I've found that I need my HV to acces some of the special services dd needs like physio/SALT and stuff, if U did not get on with her it would be a nightmare, do you find this as well pfer?

aloha, ds2 has seen her once for his hearing test (he's 15months now). She tried to tell me he's deaf too! Which he is so obviously not and I certainly told her that she was mistaken. She's just incompetent and shouldn't be in health care dealing with first time mums especially who are more likely to take what HV's say as gospel if they have no other support.

piffle, yes, I've also found that you know the medical checks that the little uns have to have, well my GP only does a few of the checks and you HAVE to see the HV for the others. You've no choice.

They don't have to have anything actually. I decided it was perfectly obvious that my dd could see and hear fine, and was doing splendidly so I really didn't need an HV at all. She's not had an eight month check, but she says hello and goodbye, mummy, daddy, banana and a few other words and can crawl, pull herself to stand, stand alone and scoot all the way up the stairs so I think she's OK.

aloha, hmmm for some reason - given by HV - I thought they had to have these checks. DS1 and 2 are both in good health and developing normally from what I can see, so I think I may skip everything else unless there's something I specifically need. Will get HV changed just in case I do need something though.

I agree with Aloha. There is absolutely no need to see an HV. Bar the first couple of check-ups for my two I've never bothered. I've never gone to the clinic to get them weighed, let alone for something like the issues you are talkling about

Perhaps try your GP instead? Complain to the NHS trust re her comments/behaviour?

You know what. I think because a lot of people don't take their kids to check ups etc because they know what they are doing/trust their instincts etc (something I didn't do in the early days with DS1 due to PND) my HV feels she has to make up numbers and pick on the kids she does see. So many people I know don't take their kids to the HV at all yet she drummed it into me the importance of it all and since I've started trusting myself rather than her she's been really off with me trying to get me to attend all sorts of appointments which I've politely (usually) refused. I've used the phrase "with all due respect" a lot as well when telling her that I don't agree. She got really pushy and intrusive. Silly cow. Right that's it. No more HV for me. Will think about making a complaint about her though, she shouldn't be allowed to be the way she is a deal with 'delicate' people.

aloha .. your DD is more than OK, she's scrumptious

I made a complaint against my HV, and got a new one. I first spoke to my Doctor's surgery about my concerns, and it was then passed to the local primary Health Trust. She was AWFUL, she (like yours pfer) told me ds was deaf and I had to take him to a specialist, who told me there was absolutely nothing wrong with him, then when she was at my house to have first visit after dd1 was born, she started going on about how ds's speech was really unclear and he could have a problem. He was 2 and a quarter at the time, and at his 2 year check she had written 'speech clear' in her notes. There was LOADS of other stuff and I had just had enough. She offered no support whatsoever.

Bomper, I think I'll list all of my 'issues' (as she likes to say a lot) and go into my GP sometime this week to make a complaint and get a new HV. I do want a HV as unless I have them and you lot there's no-one to ask if I have a query about something. But I want one who actually cares and knows what she's talking about not some do-gooder who knows less than a cats bum does!!

Twiglett - what a LOVELY thing to say. She's run me ragged today! I'm not used to a mobile baby!

I always think that from my MN posts you'd think I had horrid, vile mannered thug children, but they aren't that bad are they?

She sounds dangerous.

D'you think she learned all this crap in training, or is she making it up?

My dd2 aged 9 months has seen a Health Visitor once when she was doing her home check (2 weeks).
We then moved practice and haven't met the new one so she's only seen one once.
I would complain about her if she has really upset you, she doesn't sound very good

I don't know why people bother with them TBH.

Good for you Pfer, why should we be expected to accept second-rate support for our families?!

I quite liked my HV but she would insist that DD1 was speech delayed, despite being told on numerous occasions that she didn't speak English yet!

I too gave up on checks after this. DD2 had 8 month check (primarily because we were still worried about hip dysplasia) but nothing after that.