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Would you go to the cinema on your own?

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 15:21

Yesterday, dh was out from 12:30 until after 8 at an international rugby match his work gave him a ticket for. I was left with the 4 children, so my day was pretty much like any weekday. As compensation, I had the idea of taking ds1 and ds2 to see the new Harry Potter film this pm, leaving dh with the 2 youngest, but the boys have chickened out of seeing the film and I am left without a treat.

I could go on my own. I know dh would babysit all 4. Trouble is, going to the cinema on one's own, and to a child's film at that....well, would you do it?

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Tamba · 27/11/2005 15:23

I would love to go to the cinema on my own - now kids to watch, no having to get up and take them to the toilet - would be fab!

Id also like to go for a meal alone too - being cooked for, no washing up and no having to make small talk with anyone else.

bosscat · 27/11/2005 15:26

I haven't done it, but I would love to. I would feel a bit stranger at an evening one perhaps but don't know why, loads of people go on there own. Oh I have been on my own! dh and I couldn't agree on the film so saw different one's at same cinema.

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 15:27

I suppose what makes it a bit harder is that dh would like to see the film too. If he wasn't interested, and the children are too young, then I could see the only way I was going to see it would be on my own, but I know dh wants to see it too, and it does seem rather selfish to go alone. Plus, I don't want to be out late, so I would have to go to an early showing and wouldn't the place be full of other people's children? Would that be enjoyable I wonder?

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Tamba · 27/11/2005 15:29

Go on a week day morning when the kids are at school - it should be quiet then and DH got to go out yesterday so you deserve a treat! Enjoy

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 15:30

No don't have any free time in the week as youngest is at home with me (only 2). It is today or never. Well, maybe not never! Today or next weekend.

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Aimsmum · 27/11/2005 15:31

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Milge · 27/11/2005 15:32

Yes, I went to see HP last saturday night on my own. Go for it.

Tamba · 27/11/2005 15:35

I'll come with you Lonelymom!! I wetn last week with dh but wanted to see it again so offerered to take my 5 yr old brother this afternoon cept he has a birthday party to go too - tut the kids got a better social life than i have!

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 15:37

Where are you Tamba? And are you pink with fluffy ears?

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Blu · 27/11/2005 16:16

I love going to the cinema on my own - it feels like such a luxurious treat, just me and the great big screen, and nothing else to interrupt.

stitch · 27/11/2005 16:17

ive done it. the alternative wasbleaker.

santabops · 27/11/2005 16:19

Yes definitely but then I have been on a fortnights holiday on my own too....

Tamba · 27/11/2005 16:51

LOL at fluffy ears! Im in Birmingham

misdee · 27/11/2005 16:52

oh i would, well with dd3 in arms of course. if dd2 was full time at school not just half days at pre-school, then i'd be going this week.

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 17:02

Oh well, just missed my chance.

Dh realised he would have to take ds3 with him when he took the other 3 to their swimming lessons and that, coupled with the need to pay for next term's lessons today, proved too much for him. Funny what men just can't manage to do, isn't it?

Anyway, there was also all the washing up from Sunday lunch to do (and only 2 yo ds3 wanting to help me!), the beds to make, ds3's hair to wash, tea to be given, and next week's school uniform to iron, so I am not going to have time to think about what I could have been doing.

There is still next weekend though....

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Lizita · 27/11/2005 17:17

ah thats sad lonelymum, was gonna say go for it too! i have a babysitter coming mon night so I could Serenity on my own (no other friends have yet caught onto it!) but it seems i have missed my chance & it's only on late at night at kingston! I was gonna love it going on my own...
have been once before on my own, I had a Donnie Darko moment at the beginning, absolutely no one else was there i was alone in the cinema and i kept thinking of the giant bunny!

BonyM · 27/11/2005 17:19

Years ago when I was newly single I used to go to the cinema on my own. I had previously gone every week with my then ex-boyfriend so decided there was no reason I should stop just because I wasn't seeing him anymore.

I saw some great films and the good thing was I could choose exactly what I wanted to see. You never talk to anyone in the cinema anyway, so in some ways there is no need to go with anyone!

ellasmum1 · 27/11/2005 17:20

I frequently go on my own.Do feel a bit of a saddo when i get the ticket but once in the theatre watching the film i find i enjoy the films more without worrying if the other person is enjoying it/bored etc!

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 17:22

I must admit the going on one's own bit was getting to me. Last time I went with dh in the summer felt odd enough as the place was swarming with young couples and I realised that was dh and me but about 10-15 years ago. I felt a bit out of place. But at least I was with dh. Going on my own? Definitely would need to wrap an imaginary wall around myself to do that! Which is daft when you think that the moment the lights go down, you might as well be on your own!

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QueenEagle · 27/11/2005 17:23

LM - what a shame you didn't go after all! I have been on my own ac ouple of times and really enjoyed it.

Why is it that us women always feel we have to do the things at home that I'm sure dh's could do if left to it but we have this guilt thing which prevents us from putting ourselves first?? I know my dh wouldn't think twice about leaving me for hours on end whilst he went off to do something for himself.

Make sure you treat yourself some other way, won't you?

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Lonelymum · 27/11/2005 17:25

Thanks QE. I might still go next weekend. TBH, it would have been hopeless if I went today. Dh might have done the washing up but everything would still have been covered in grease as he never gets the water hot enough, and there is no way he would have got the ironing done. As it is, he has gone off to the swimming pool without taking the kids swimming lesson renewal letters and he has switched off his mobile. If he gets back and hasn't paid for next term's lessons....(today is the final day to do it)....goodness there will be fireworks!

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fullofturkeymoonfiend · 27/11/2005 17:44

I often go on my own - my dh's taste in films is very different to mine,. And actually, many of my friends only want to go see 'chick films/rom coms' so after years of not having the nerve - and missing out on seeing many films - I plucked up courage and went. It's great, no-body bats an eyelid at you being by yourself, but I do tend to take a book if i get there early. Not good at looking self-suffient, and end up chewing my nails or something

moondog · 27/11/2005 17:48

A trip to the cinema on my own is the ultimate treat-ideally in the middle of the day when it is practically empty.
I am so looking forward to my mother returning to this country next week and therefore being able to sneak in a few visits.

I love being on my own-went to Birmingham in June to see a concert and stayed in Hotel du Vin on my own-it was bliss.

NotActuallyAMum · 28/11/2005 08:41

Go for it

Last year when I was single I went to the cinema on my own a few times, and I went for 2 long weekends away on my own too - you'll be fine

satine · 28/11/2005 08:57

I'm a volunteer usherette at a little independant cinema near me. They show all kinds of films - mainstream ones as well as all kinds of different ones - lots of foreign ones, quirky ones, independant ones - I just love it. Lots of people come to that cinema on their own and it's considered quite normal!

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