oh god I have really screwed up....

[CountessDracula]

dd (just 3) is in the bathroom crying hysterically because I tried to put some eyedrops in - got in from work and she obv had conjunctivitis in one eye, stuffed her in the car and drove to the late chemist miles away, got the sodding drops and after about 10 mins of cajoling, bribery etc pinned her down to try and get them in. TOTAL screaming hysterical wobbler for the past 15 mins. I have left her now to see if she will calm down.

She will now have a phobia about eyedrops forever and will be off nursery for months, I will never be able to work again.

AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry I should've caught up with the rest of the thread so I'd know you've moved beyond eye drop trauma to mummy guilt.

We've all shouted. Or in my case I don't shout I (apparently according to dp) turn into a total chilly ice queen and scare dd to death.

Oh good! I made you laugh! Not that chilly after all then?

OMG no I can't do ice queen, I can do ignoring or shouting, invariably when I am in a hurry (like this am I had a 9am meeting which I missed anyway due to blubbing in starbucks on Eastcheap!)

I don't MEAN to do ice queen. It's just the way my rage turns inwards rather than outwards. I seethe rather than yell. Apparently seething is a horrible thing to witness. I try not to but it just happens.

If I try to yell I feel as though I'm putting on a bad panto version of an angry mum. Dd usually giggles. Fortunately I don't freeze over that frequently.

maybe I should try seething and you should try shouting!

I really hate shouting as my Dad used to do it and I hated it (though after a while it was water off a duck's back tbh) He used to yell and then 2 mins later it would all be fine, which I always figured was better than him sulking for hours. What I didn't appreciate was how horrible it was for him doing the shouting! I do manage to control it 95% of the time but just occasionally it slips out

My mum was an awful shouter. With a very short temper. AND come to think of it she was a bloody good seether too. I think though because her temper was so bad and her rages so fearsome both my brother and I are almost frightened to shout like that, as though it would go out of control. Hard to explain.

Gotta go now to pick up my little one. Have a fantastic, friendly tea with your dd. She loves you more than anyone in the world you know?

Oh god that made me cry again and I had just managed to stop aarrgghh!!!

Thanks Kleist xx

Could you tell her that after the first night, when she was so upset you put them in when she was asleep.
Tell her that if it hurt she would have woken up, but she didn't, because it didn't hurt.

This would definatley work for my Dsses.

Or maybe ask her to try some on you with just water and a medicine syringe?

Yes I may buy some innocuous teardrop things in a similar bottle and let her put them in me good idea, thanks#

If it makes you feel better, I've always been of the cruel and evil "pin them down, ignore the screaming and get the drops in" school. Makes me feel sh*t but at least their eyes get better. Used to get away with putting it along the lashes of a closed eye and waiting till they opened it!

Always rewarded them afterwards though.

I found a great trick with eye drops. The stuff that's best is the sort of cross between gel/drops (it's slightly thicker but dissolves once it hits the eye).

They screw their eyes up, so you gently ease down the lower lid with your thumb. Their eye is still tight shut, but you've got a little bit curled out as it were. Put the drop on the lid then let go. They then ram the eye shut and the drop goes with it to the inside of the eye - ta da!

I'm obviously an awful heartles mother bacause I have been known to pin ds3 down with his head between my legs and arm under my thighs.

He scraemed and wailed, but couldn't escape and the drops were administered no problems.

He's had conjunctivus loads of time s and this also works

I wrapped her in a towel tonight after trying lots of other things including her putting drops in my eyes first. Only minor whingeing so getting better thank goodness.

Hurray CD. And did you have a nice tea?