oh god I have really screwed up....

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dd (just 3) is in the bathroom crying hysterically because I tried to put some eyedrops in - got in from work and she obv had conjunctivitis in one eye, stuffed her in the car and drove to the late chemist miles away, got the sodding drops and after about 10 mins of cajoling, bribery etc pinned her down to try and get them in. TOTAL screaming hysterical wobbler for the past 15 mins. I have left her now to see if she will calm down.

She will now have a phobia about eyedrops forever and will be off nursery for months, I will never be able to work again.

AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

spent nearly 3 hrs recently trying to administer worming medicine to dd1. talk about battle of wills...

oh god I think i must have PMT, we went through this again last night and this am culminating in me REALLY shouting at DD and telling her that if she was going to be so vile I didn't want her What a shite mother. Then I snivelled all the way to work, spent an hour crying in a coffee shop with one of my mates at work then came home, I just can't deal with this today Am feeling so so bad for having said that to dd.

We've all had moments like that, often medication-related, CD. You are not a shite mother. My view on these fraught moments is that it does not hurt an adored child to know occasionally that they can push their parents too far.
So you don't feel like schlepping swiftly across town to Spitalfields then?

No I wasn't going to be able to come anyway as I had a work lunch (which now I will not be going to either as am at home blubbing pathetically and trying to pull self together

Thanks for your words of comfort!

I found the drops just as effective put on a closed eye btw.

her behaviour has degenerated this week (eye drop related I think) to refusing to do anything (get up, get dressed, go to nursery, eat etc) without screaming and crying. Is 3 too young for PMT? This morning was just the final straw. God how embarrassing work must think I am a total wuss

Oh CD, we really all do have those moments. I told DS1 once, "I quit." It was after an unjustifiable poo incident, in public.

Yes but I picked her up and shouted in her face

We will raise a glass to you in absentia. Have you a stash of chocolate you can raid?
Aloha is right, dribbling them on to a screwed up eyelid and a swift dab has worked for us in the past.
I was so vile to ds last week about losing a hat at school he burst into tears of relief when it was found . Hope you feel better soon.

Poo has been a major previous flashpoint for us too NQC

Maybe she feels a bit ill - hence the eye infection - and that's why she's so emotional?
Not trying to make you feel worse - just casting round for an explanation!

I have been horrible re poo. Not a nice mummy at all.

Yes maybe

Am going to pick her up early from nursery and take her out for tea and try and build bridges

Oh good well I have not been horrid re poo so feel a tiny bit better

I was really horrid though. I feel so mean. How can you shout that at a 3yo?

When DD1 needed them, DH ended up driving her to A and E and telling her she'd have to go to hospital if she wouldn't "just do it now"!! As she sobbed in the back of the car, and wailed for mummy ( I was at work) , she evebntually agreed that eye drops were better than hospital.

She was 3. Bit extreme, poor DH was so stuck!!!

And when she had to have cream for some dry skin, DH got the pharmacist to tell her that she had to make sure mummy or daddy put it on her every day. That worked too!

Good luck!

Oh honey, honey, I'm so sorry. I do think that sick children push one of those instinctive trigger-points where one loses all rationality.

She will really enjoy that, I bet. Some of our nicest times have been after ds and I apologised to each other.

Agree is normal. I once nearly reported myself to social services after spending 90 minutes trying (unsuccessfully) to get dd1 (then aged 3) to wee into a jug or a potty for a urine sample.

I think it is defo PMT though

Once or twice a year I get it so I can't stop crying, today is one of those days

May go and raid dh's valium that he has for his bad back

Posted on the meet-up thread, but remembered & wanted to add here too that once I found ds (aged about three) having a weep "because I thought that I wanted a new mummy"

We got over it!!

You will say sorry and say you alway love her and want her, she will forgive you (having probably forgotten what you said anyway) and you will have a lovely tea.

shit I must stop crying the cleaner will be here soon and I look like a nutter

I said "That's it, I quit" quite calmly, which is (I think) in some ways worse. Like I really meant it, rather than saying it out of anger.

Dealing with a poo incident, in the street, which wasn't the runs, and he was totally toilet trained (but too busy to stop and go to the loo), without any real supplies, in one of those horrible automatic toilets, with a baby as well ... it wasn't good.

CD, I often describe my 3-year-old as having PMT!

We've had awful troubles with my dd's eyes and she's sometimes had to have drops for weeks on end. She hates it too. The best way was for her to lie on the bed with one After Eight mint in each hand for each eye (her FAVOURITE treat and I know one shouldn't offer them before breakfast but we were desperate), get her to look up at the ceiling and sing a song and whip the drops in super quick.

What kind of drops are you using? Some of them are very stingy. Some not. Go for the not ones. It helps a lot.

I have now got the ointment so am putting it in with my finger, pretending that I am just wiping something out of the corner of her eye which is a bit better. Don't think it stings.

PMSL @ after eights before breakfast! I was offering a Fab at 7.20 this morning.