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What do you think of my wedding plan?

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Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 12:50

DP and I are getting married in March, we have both been married before. Mentioned to best friend and sister that I was making plans and they both gave very muted responses, other family don't seem too interested either. So, instead of spending our hard earned cash on the sort of wedding they would expect, ie civil wedding at hotel and reception (worked it out at about £2500) what do you think to this.

Send wedding invitations to the children, get married in local registry office with me, dp and children, literally get witnesses off the street, have proper photographer, nice meal after for us and children as our 'reception'. We hope to have a two centre honeymoon, will give children invitations at our 'reception' to first leg of honeymoon, week at Centreparcs, then second week dp and I go away on our own.

Just felt seriously cheesed off at the lack of enthusiasm for our big day (dp and I were childhood sweethearts and should have married twenty two years ago, but that's another story!) Now feel that our day should now be spent soley with the people who matter, our children. What do you think?

We get married in local

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beep · 21/11/2005 12:52

go for it !

Hulababy · 21/11/2005 12:54

Really sorry that your family and friends are not more enthusastic about your wedding.

I think you shluld have the type of wedding that you and your husband to be want, and let the others deal with it.

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 12:56

I'm pretty upset too but now it means that the children can come away with us for the week, don't know why I didn't think of it before.

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mojomummy · 21/11/2005 13:51

yes, absolutely go for it - it's your day & you're entitled to do EACTLY what you want.

let me know if you want a witness

have a fab day

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 13:53

Thanks jojomummy. Just hoping I can pull off the witness bit, what if no one wants to do it!!!

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GREATauntymandy · 21/11/2005 13:53

I agree.

mazzystar · 21/11/2005 13:59

would you really like sister etc to be there?

mancmum · 21/11/2005 14:00

think it sounds lovely -- so many weddings are geared towards the masses and their entertainment which most are ungrateful for... so I think to spend all the money on your family is fab.. esp the holiday... great idea... stick to it and don;t let anyone talk you out of it...

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 14:03

Thanks Mancmum. No one will change our minds now, have decided to keep it secret and phone after the deed is done! Can't wait to see the children's faces when they know they are coming on our honeymoon. We went to CPs last year, although dd2 was away and dd1 couldn't swim because of her operations, but they thought it was fab and keep going on about it. Guess we wil need the second week to ourselves just to recover!

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foundintranslation · 21/11/2005 14:08

I love the idea. Think it's romantic!
We had 2 weddings (civil and church) but I sneakingly love the idea of going off, doing it in complete, utter and gorgeous private and announcing it afterwards/turning up to the in-laws' with rings on!

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 14:12

Really loving the idea of springing it on everyone. Children know we are planning to get married so will go along with trying outfits etc, they just won't know when the big day is. Of course they will feel a little miffed as they think it's just me and dp going off on honeymoon but we will be secretly packing for them the week before so they will just have to pack last minute personal stuff, I just can't wait. Probably more excited about that bit than anything else, hee hee!

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Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 14:13

Meant to ask, any thoughts on outfit for the day would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.

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Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 14:55

Anyone?

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Jackstini · 21/11/2005 15:03

You should wear exactly what you want. I have been to 3 register office weddings - one had big dress, 1 had straight strappy number & one a gorgeous ivory trouser suit. Let all the kids dress up too - they will love it!

handlemecarefully · 21/11/2005 15:03

I think your wedding plans sound lovely. I'm sad for you that relatives and friends don't appear enthusiastic about your nuptials.

Only thing I would say is that witnesses off the street are a bit impersonal. Is there really nobody that you know who hasn't been a little more enthusiastic about the whole thing who you could ask, even if not your best friend or sister?

Kidstrack2 · 21/11/2005 16:23

Yes it sounds fantastic, your wedding, your big day! I don't like it when people marry and try and please the inlaws etc I'm all for making it yours type of thing! I don't get on with my side of family therfore dp and I are marrying abroad next year with his family there. I got my dress half price in Monsoon think it cost 95pound. There christmas sale will be coming up soon so you could get a bargain for March, they do plain, fancy, full dress or bodice and skirt! Good Luck with you Wedding Day

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 16:50

Was planning on hitting the sales after crimbo. Two dd's want the full bridesmaid and tiara bit so I'm going to let them have what they want. As for the witnesses, not too bothered that they will be complete strangers, hopefully it will make their day! Unless of course there are any mumsnet volunteers?

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Blu · 21/11/2005 16:59

LOL! I wouldn't rely on witnesses off the street - it sounds romantic, but who has time to stop and do that? You may end up with someone who starts singing 'molly mallone' off key in the most important bits!

MN volunteers would add a mystery element!

tbh, to be 'liberated' from every one else's idea of how a wedding should be sounds bliss!

Good luck!

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 17:04

Good point Blu, could end up with a right nutter! Need to re-think that bit, but would rather not rely on a friend or family otherwise will get into the 'you invited them but not us' bit! Will check if regy office staff can be witnesses.

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collision · 21/11/2005 17:14

Go to Monsoon. Beautiful things that can be worn again so you dont need to do the whole 'bride' thing if you dont want to. The girls can get their dresses from there too.

Where is the wedding going to be?

MNetters would be a great choice to be witnesses.

collision · 21/11/2005 17:14

Go to Monsoon. Beautiful things that can be worn again so you dont need to do the whole 'bride' thing if you dont want to. The girls can get their dresses from there too.

Where is the wedding going to be?

MNetters would be a great choice to be witnesses.

collision · 21/11/2005 17:14

Go to Monsoon. Beautiful things that can be worn again so you dont need to do the whole 'bride' thing if you dont want to. The girls can get their dresses from there too.

Where is the wedding going to be?

MNetters would be a great choice to be witnesses.

collision · 21/11/2005 17:14

sorry

Somanykiddies · 21/11/2005 17:20

Monsoon sounds perfect. Don't want anything traditional, not really a frock girl and would love a great outfit to wear again. We are in East Devon.

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crunchie · 21/11/2005 17:22

How about 2 mumsnetters?

Put a call out for two witnesses for a wedding needed

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