sorry to bring this up again, but just wanted (briefly if possible for me ) to explain a little more about why DH would particularly want to be buried next to his mother (and yes we both know he's married to me).
When he was 4(?) maybe 5, his mum and dad split up, he stayed with his dad, and his two older sisters (who were from his dad's first marriage). He then didn't see his mum again until he was 11yrs old - when his dad remarried (and subseuquently had 2 more children) and for some reason he was allowed contact with his mum again(don't know all the details - he's quite a 'private' person as it is, and this is very 'private' in that he doesn't tell me everything).
On rediscovering his mum he found out he had a little brother.....she'd been pg when his mum and dad split up. Of course he was already at boarding school (paid for by his dad) so still didn't see her very often. On leaving school he went to college to do woodwork, and trained as a teacher (like his mum) - and was sent out to some tiny rurual school to teach. He'd only been there 3 months when his mum fell ill, and died very unexpetedly - with him having been told he was recovering well so had gone back to work - and was unable to get back to the hospital to be with her .
Unlike his dad, his mum never remarried - being a single parent in Zimbabwe, is nothing like it is here. But she worked incredibly hard to give her children everything she could (we had some of her beautiful furniture in our house - which had been left to DH - before we left Zim - but had to sell it to pay for flights and visas etc etc)
He's got precious few "things" to remember her with now, no photo's of them both together, a handful of books, and a couple of gifts he gave her - which we managed to salavage to bring back with us.
I think the whole thing affects him a lot more than he lets on - and I can totally understand why he'd want to be buried next to her.