Posting for help/advice & not acknowledging

[Melly]

Just something that irritates me a bit about some who post here on mumsnet. They start a thread asking for help with a problem, a few or lots of people post with help/suggestions/advice but there is no feedback from them. I know this is a bit petty but when people take the trouble to share their thoughts etc it seems only courteous to acknowledge it in some way....even if it is only to say "I think your advice is pants, but thanks anyway".
I've always been really grateful and amazed by the wealth of help and support by people here on Mumsnet.
Anyway, that's got that off my chest

Ha ha at this thread, especially sobernow Look at how awesomely polite this all is - quite impressive I think. I think I mostly say thanks for people's thoughts but IKWYM sobernow about not wanting to be queeny and too 'this thread is mine' about it - hard, innit? Actually, I don't think I did say thanks for all the ideas on my hundred quid inheritance thread so I'll say it here - thanks! - but in my defence I wasn't here for a few days. Also, sometimes if you ask for advice, get replies and then post to say thanks, people assume you don't want to hear any more and it kills the thread. So I have been known to leave it to see if anyone else has something to say. Eefs, IKWYM about the paranoia, maybe melly did mean me then? (joking)

Ha ha at this thread, especially sobernow Look at how awesomely polite this all is - quite impressive I think. I think I mostly say thanks for people's thoughts but IKWYM sobernow about not wanting to be queeny and too 'this thread is mine' about it - hard, innit? Actually, I don't think I did say thanks for all the ideas on my hundred quid inheritance thread so I'll say it here - thanks! - but in my defence I wasn't here for a few days. Also, sometimes if you ask for advice, get replies and then post to say thanks, people assume you don't want to hear any more and it kills the thread. So I have been known to leave it to see if anyone else has something to say. Eefs, IKWYM about the paranoia, maybe melly did mean me then? (joking)

I really find it hard to understand how people can get 'upset' if posts are ignored, or hurtful comments are written.

This is cyberworld. We don't know each other, never have to meet one another (unless we chose to)and some people may even be pretending to be something they are not IYKWIM. I have far more important things to worry/get upset about in real life.

I meant eek, not eefs, and sorry for double posting.

I know this is cyberworld, but I still get upset! It never occurred to me that anyone would be pretending to be something they are not, what's the point??? I guess I am an idealistic virgin about all of this. I had never been to a chat room before, I thought they sounded so gross with people wanting to prey on you or have sex with you or something. Mumsnet is so warm and friendly and I really could identify with it--I guess that is why I let it get to me. It feels like a community of Mums. In the states I find that people are much more self centered and they don't have enough "openings" for this kind of honest, fun sharing of information and feelings. I understand that there are many more things to get upset about that are much more important than a Mumsnet exchange, but I have enough upset feelings to go all around!

Know what you mean Northerner about people may be prentending to be something they are not, Countess asked me if I owned horses this morning I was sooo tempted to say yes

oh yes sunchowder but my dh thinks I am going to get abducted by a Munsnetter!

I feel awful now sunchowder. You are right. Mumsnet is a lovely, welcoming place to come and chat. Don't let my cynical views put you off. I was just trying to say don't take it personally if someone doesn't respond to your post etc. We are all busy Mums, and are probably too busy with our kids that we sometimes miss things!

Melly - you started this thread and now you've disapeared. Tut, Tut. I am SO upset.

I always try to say thanks when I have posted with a problem. However, I do agree with whoever said that it can seem as if you are saying 'Thanks, I'm ok now, no need to post any more.'

Don't let it get to you Melly.

BTW THANKS...just in case I have offended anyone in the past

blimey, that got you all going, thanks for the responses :0

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To be honest Melly I think that's a bit harsh.. I am now living in fear that I have transgressed some mumsnet convention!

But ummm - no offence ! (trying to be nice and conciliatory)

LOL Fio2, when I went to the SW London mumsnet meetup my dh reckoned I was going to find a bunch of lorry drivers who got off on milky tits and sore minges (purple or otherwise!)

I used to find it easy to reply to threads when I was SamboM cos I could just look up SamboM or Sam, now I'm Countess Dracula people call me Drac or CD or Vamp or all sorts of thing and I post so blimmin much that I can't keep track of it all so SORRY SORRY SORRY if I have been rude.

Sorry - yes, just looked back at my posting on the pg symptoms and I didn't make it entirely clear. But, yes, the smudge meant af was on her merry way. She's come and gone now so off we go again... sorry for being rubbish and pathetic-sounding about being "ignored". Embarrassed now.....

Don't be silly Moomin! That is part of the problem with these forums, you think you say one thing and someone else thinks you say another.

Anyway, sorry it didn't happen this month.

I think I'm guilty of not always following up my posts. I'm going to have to do a search later to see how many I haven't done.

My reason for not replying though is that once a message goes off of active conversations, I think people have moved on and don't want me harping on about the same old stuff. If someone has asked me a specific question I always try and answer it, but sometimes I think it makes me sound like I'm me me me all the time.

Sorry

Alrighty then? Group hug! Loved the visual Drac! Thanks Northerner, I am assuming we can all forgive each other and move on for another day?

I'm sorry too. I usually reply effusively, but then I get embarrassed because don't know if it's the Done Mumsnet Thing. Will continue to be effusive in future. Very sorry if I've omitted the gushing on some...

Have to admit, Melly, that's something I've felt a bit grumpy about recently too - and it is only recently, I've been on here about 2 years and not really noticed it before

NOOOO! I knew it - "threadkiller" is my middle name!

Somebody PLEASE without a threadkilling complex say "Amen" to this thread and make me feel better ...