dirty child alert

[lucykatie]

we are collecting a friend of dd today, so they can have a play etc.
i have decided to take them to a fun house for the afternoon....but...the kittle girl is always filthy dirty, when i say that i mean snot dried up at nostrils, which is so big its obvious to see by human eye, dirty face and neck and hands.

hair not brushed and clothes which are way too small for her.

i am not a snob and i know kids get into a mess at times but you would think that the mum would give her face a wipe at the very least.

my problem is this, i am embarresed to take her out and could not possilbly wipe her myself and dont know how to handle situation....help.

go on you can beat me up now.

What do you mean 'you could not possible wipe her yourself' ??

If it bothers you that much the wipe her face, hands etc.
Why agree to take them out if it bothers you thatmuch?

Can't understand why you can't clean her face with a wet wipe before you go.

Give her a snack - and then say "better wipe your hands and face after eating that" - and get the wet wipes out! you'll do your dd too so there will be no embarrasment - if that's wht you're worried about.

I would give her hair a wash and clean her up a bit. When you say her clothes don't fit, is the family poor? Might not be able to afford new ones, could you pass any on?

Also, everyone's standards are different, my children look like a Gap ad but my friends couldn't give two shites. Each to their own.

Erm, have to say i cant see why you cant wipe her face either.

If it embarrasses you so much i wouldnt offer to take her anymore.

Magic Bruno (friend of dd1's) looks like this often, poor lamb.

I clean him thoroughly when he comes round here, he loves it. I've even washed his clothes - his mum is so distracted I doubt she ever notices.

Why not give her a bath before you go out .... if mum says anything you could pretend you had to bathe them both because they got covered in something or other while playing.

its my own personal demons why i cannot do her face myself, i cant even use other peoples toilets, clean or not....my issue.

i am not at all slating this poor little girl, yeah the family are not that well off as we are not, but before anyone takes my dd anywhere i always ensure the face and hands are clean and she looks ok.....she comes back looking like a bag of rubbish but hey,,,thats kids.

i have agreed to take her out on this occasion as i have other kids round at mine so often and she was being left out, and thats not fair...is it?

i know that alot of you are thinking...what a cow, i am not, i care for this little one deeply, wish i couls tell her mum to wipe her face etc.

may try the biscuit thing and then give her the wet wipe.

do i sound like a snob???? my dh thinks i am.

Do Not Bath the child!

No way, I would be absolutely furious if someone bathed my DD - not for the cleanliness aspect but that someone I hardly knew had got my DD undressed, seen her naked and bathed her. That is not right and I would be absolutely furious

no, would not bath her as she has a history of child abuse!!!!

do not think it is a good idea for her or me.

I'm not saying your one of those wierdo's LK but just my personal opinion. Although I say hi to mums at DD's nursery I don't know any of them from adam they could be complete lunatics for all I know!

springchicken - no offence taken....i am a lunatic but not in that sense.

i would not want anyone bathing my child to be honest.

no baths!

I do warm flannel on Bruno. Face and hands only Idarent think what the rest of him is like.

lucykatie - you havent portrayed yourself in the best light perhaps but that is the peril of the internet - we only see what you post!

i do so hate to see achild with candlesticks under their noses too but i would wipe it thats all.

Sorry, who has a history of child abuse? Are you saying the child has been abused?

i do feel for the child, but her home is ok and parents always look ok, so why not ensure the child is ok.

i am a cleaning freak and admitt that and i suppose i am over obsesive with it.

yeah the child has history of child abuse done to her....poor little chicken.

All sounds a bit strange to me tbh.

play apple bobbing type game

or washing the dolls boats water pouring and measuring

water psitols

Bruno comes from very rich aristo background but they let him get himself ready and I think he's a bit neglected. Some parents genuinely dont care I think. I am terribly suburban so I do mind about general filth.

By the parents? I find this news more shocking than the fact that she is a little dirty!!!! If you are concerned about her welfare, then report it. The lack of cleanliness might just be the tip of the iceberg to possibly other things happening at home?

what do you mean, springchicken