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feel horrible about this.... need some perspective!

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 21:29

I got banned from my favoutite site ever. Its mystic familiar - im always posting links to it on here.

Its a chat room and message boards thing and they do classes, i was doing about 4 classes a week. and my favourite one is on now

I was always logged in there and got on with everyone, would even go as far as to say i was popular on there

anyway i committed the terrible sin of.... exchanging details (msn) with someone and meeting up with them off site (no msn/emails are to be swopped, no meet-ups - site rules)

and now ive been perminatly banned by the owner

cant believe that i could be upset over a website, but it really felt like home (in a website way) i guess how many of you here feel about mn. you build up relationships with people and get to know them.

Well, that was the reason given anyway...

anyway, please give me some sense of perspective - its only a website at te end of the day... so why am i upset???

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aloha · 16/10/2005 21:30

I'd think of it as a lucky escape tbh.

bubble99 · 16/10/2005 21:33

Because it had obviously been a regular part of your life, I suppose.

Also, it's not nice to be kicked out of anything. Much better to flounce with your dignity intact.

Is it worth contacting the site owners to explain that you realise you broke the rules, but would like a second chance?

Earlybird · 16/10/2005 21:33

How did the owner find out about your rule breaking? Was it an honest mistake, or did you think it wouldn't matter? Was the person you met also banned?

Aimsmum · 16/10/2005 21:36

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CreepyJess · 16/10/2005 21:36

Oh Huggy!! That isn't fair!! Email them and talk to them..!

I once got told off for posting a link to Amazon before I had read all the rules and regs. But I didn't know you weren't allowed to form friendships..which is basically what you are saying about no details being exhanged.. no meet ups.. how does that work then? And why?????? it completely goes against the whole concept of the place.. the spiritual essense of it!!

marthamoo · 16/10/2005 21:37

What kind of website tells you you can't meet up with people? Free country and all that.

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 21:37

Its a site rule but everyone does it in pm. The site owner is very close to some one i was close too. we had words (me and my friend) and the next thing i know the site owner knows... and nope the other person was banned. Nothing at all has been said about it.

I did email the site own and say sorry and it wouldnt happen again. got an email back saying dont go on site and dont email her again

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 21:39

wasnt banned*

they record your Ip addy so new name/email wouldnt get round it.

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CreepyJess · 16/10/2005 21:41

Huggy this sounds like something personal then.. not about breaking MF rules per se, surely? I have just re-read the rules and regs.. it states about not POSTING personal details.. not that you can't pass them on privately.. at least that's how it reads..

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 21:42

I think its a personal reason to.... but then i just might be paraniod.

I had words with someone close to sol and then this happens... hmmmmm

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CreepyJess · 16/10/2005 21:45

I would email again stating your concerns that it is unfair and unprofessional to ban you from a site because of an argument that was not connected with the site. Remind her of how much input you have put into the site.

Earlybird · 16/10/2005 21:46

Sounds strange on several levels. First - why would your "friend" who is close to the owner be so indiscreet? Second, why would you be banned but not the other "culprit"? And lastly, why would they care if you meet up privately off board?

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 21:51

My 'friend' was jealous that i met up with someone she was close to. and because we spent more time chatting now than they did. Shes a host on the site so has a huge influence and is close friend with the owner. The person i met didnt get banned cause my friend wanted her still around with out me in the way.

sounds mad doesnt it?

I think im either very paranoid or am breaking rules i didnt no exsisted!

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Earlybird · 16/10/2005 21:55

I'm sorry it's upset you, and it does sound unfair. But, tbh, the people you describe don't sound nice at all. Maybe it's not typical behaviour (and they must have redeeming qualities or you wouldn't be upset), but not sure I'd want to be around such petty, controlling, manipulative people!

CreepyJess · 16/10/2005 21:58

I don't understand it. I don't know the people but I know the site... it just totally goes against the who essence of the place which is about spiritual awareness and love and light!
Do you think your 'friend' has told Sol something that isn't true Huggy? Can you ask her to clearly define her reasons..? Tell her how upset you are!

Blu · 16/10/2005 22:00

Sorry Marthamoo, I have to laugh - there's always some ridiculous element like fig rolls, isn't there?

Blu · 16/10/2005 22:00

oops, wrong thread!

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 22:00

Most of the people on the site are really lovely. have been there for about 4 months. I always got on well with my friend - we even swopped details and she is a host!! we talked on the phone alot to.

but when i did something she didnt like she turned really quickly! even told me to delete her number from my phone a little while before i got banned.

I will miss the classes alot too, theres not another site like it

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marthamoo · 16/10/2005 22:01

PMSL Blu

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 22:02

I think sol has heard some stuff which isnt true and whilst her and my 'friend' are still really close then she'll not reconsider - im not sure who runs the site sometimes!!

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CreepyJess · 16/10/2005 22:03

I was wondering how the hell fig rolls could have any bearing on Huggy's appalling mistreatment!! (Sorry Huggy).

Email Sol again.

Blu · 16/10/2005 22:04

Huggy - would your friend be a man, at all?

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 22:06

i did earlier just thanking her for the opportunities the site has given me, and apoligising for breaking the rules. no reply yet but like i say her best mate dont want me back and she usually gets her own way.

whats nice is that sol has posted that i was banned on the * and ~ boards and the other hosts have said how surprised they are and that i was never causing any problems.

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HuggyBear · 16/10/2005 22:07

Nope both my friend and the person i met up with was female - but my friend does believe that her and the person i met were married in past lives and are spiritually connected very strongly.

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Mummyvicky · 17/10/2005 10:04

Oh No Huggy !! MF are REALLY strict on their rules its ridiculous. Tere was a big debate last night because they were banning people left right and centre for just talking !!!
I almost got banned for just saying the word mumsnet!!! WTF! but I know how you must be feeling I know you loved that place
Vicky xx