Fancy another man.

[izitacrush]

Over the past few weeks, I have recently had increasing feelings for a man other than my husband.

The first time I saw R I didn't like him at all and thought he was quite bolshy, arrogant and cocky etc, but, the more I have got to know him, the more we get on. I am 110% certain that this man has no idea how I feel, I don't see him all the time (last time over a week ago) but we stood and talked for quite a while. He is his own boss and I had a chance to have a few hours a weeks work, but I have declined this.

He is married (as am I) with two young children (as am I) and I am again 110% SURE rhat nothing would ever happen, and he probably doesn't even remember my name, only sees me as someone that he has dealings with due to his line of work, I WON'T change places etc as his company products are fabulous. If I were single, he would be the kind of bloke I made a beeline for, blonde, tall, green eyes, nice smile, quite fit, good sense of humour and a good business head, the total opposite to my hubby, (who I would NEVER leave, hurt or cheat on).

Basically I don't know how to deal with these feelings and find myself thinking about R quite alot and look forward when I have to go to his work and I ALWAYS make a point of looking out for him.

What do i do? I feel like a schoolgirl again

fien keep it liekt hat
remember he still has skid marks in hhis pants too

what are you on about skid marks?

Haha I think she means that you should stay clear and try to put yourself off from taking it any further !
Its perfectly healthy to "fancy" soneone else, just keep it that way, its not worth the risks or heartbreak. Good luck !

that men whos eema ttractive still fart dn do alt he unromantic things dhs do

You make a mature, adult, responsible decision to stop thinking this way.

You find other outlets for enjoyment etc (are you bored with life currently?)

Sorry to be harsh - but people do choose to fall in love / have affairs etc. It doesn't just happen.

keep in your head and out of your knickers

oh what a tangled web we weave .......

Yes I am bored HMC. Like I said I would NEVER hurt dh.

so dont then
go and buy a rabbit

but not a cat (ugh!)

Nothing wrong with thinking about it, just don't do it.

izitacrush,

so what can you do to add a bit of zest and enjoyment back into your life to address the current ennui?

it doesnt matter does it, as long as its just a fancy

Yes, a bit like Cod's philosophy, I always try to imagine attractive men on the toilet reading a newspaper - also works if I'm nervous in an interview...

and sit your dh down and try jointly to work at breathing some new life into your marriage?

PMSL Jewels!

Avoid him as much as possible since you already know you cant/wont act on it.

Unless you are asking for permission?

No I'm not looking for permission at all, I have never been someone who needs permission to do anything, I already have a cat and don't want a rabbit, so i'll have to think of something else. Can't think of what to do to add zest to our relationship, we very rarely go out together as we can't get a babysitter.

"I already have a cat and don't want a rabbit, so i'll have to think of something else. "

snort!

toot

spend the energy you are spending fantasising about R on looking for a babysitter

parp jools?
surely not

this 'R' sounds spookily like my dh (except that he's not arrogant or bolshy). Would be getting a bit worried if that hadn't been your opening description of him!

Good idea enid.

its richard madeley

am I Judy?

Nah, gsoh she said.