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painful question - need your views

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difficultquestion · 03/10/2005 08:19

I would appreciate your views on something. (I'm a semi-regular poster, but changed my name for this). We have finally chosen, after a lot of discussion, a name for our new baby girl - Tamsin. This morning I googled for the meaning behind the name and it turns out that it means "twin". The thing is that this baby was one of twins, and I miscarried the other twin earlier in the pregnancy. I didn't choose the name for this reason. My question is - is it too maudlin to have this name? should we start the discussions again?

thanks in advance

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Fio2 · 03/10/2005 08:23

its whatever you like. Tbh i never looked at the meanings of my kids names befiore I gave them to them

hoxtonchick · 03/10/2005 08:26

i agree with fio. we went for names that we liked rather than the meanings of them (actually i don't even know the meanings of my childrens' names).

SoupDragon · 03/10/2005 08:31

I@d see it as being fate rather than maudlin. You chose the name with no idea about its meaning. Stick with it.

Jenum71 · 03/10/2005 08:34

Yeah I see it that way too. You chose it because you liked the name not for the meaning!

Most names have a few meanings anyway so it may have another meaning not so maudlin that you could use.

anonymousforthis · 03/10/2005 08:35

This is my dd1's name.
When I chose it, I found that it was just the Cornish version of Thomasina - ie, a girly Cornish Thomas.
I've never found a meaning of twin for this name.

HTH.

tissy · 03/10/2005 08:39

I think it would be nice to use this name.

By the time your daughter is old enough to ask what the name means, she will be old enough to understand about her lost twin if you choose to tell her

Marina · 03/10/2005 08:52

I agree totally with Soupy. I think fate is lending a gentle hand here. I had never heard of that meaning for this pretty name btw.
I am so glad Tamsin arrived safe and well after what must have been a distressing pregnancy at some points for you all.

whimsy · 03/10/2005 08:58

I agree with SoupDragon and it's such a pretty name.
Congraulations on the safe arrival of your little girl

ggglimpopo · 03/10/2005 09:03

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difficultquestion · 03/10/2005 09:23

thanks everyone.
I needed a bit of perspective because I am feeling very fragile and feeling the loss more than ever.
thinking about it, I have no idea of the meaning of my name and have never thought to ask!
thanks again

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tigermoth · 03/10/2005 09:32

Oh yes, if you like it, use it. I love the double meaning of the name. It is a positive, not a negative. I have a feeling that if you don't use this name, you could always regret it.

Lonelymum · 03/10/2005 09:38

Why maudlin? I think it is remarkably appropriate. It is good to celebrate the existence of the twin without it being too overt.

ssd · 03/10/2005 09:53

It's a lovely name, I'd use it.

Angeliz · 03/10/2005 09:54

I think it's lovely and you'll be able to explain it to her when she's older.

morningpaper · 03/10/2005 09:54

I think it's lovely and a nice way to honour her sibling.

Issymum · 03/10/2005 10:00

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saadia · 03/10/2005 10:21

We chose names because of their meanings. I think it's rather lovely that you randomly came up with such an appropriate name. I don't think there's anything maudlin about subtlely remembering your lost baby.

AnnieSG · 03/10/2005 22:22

I think it is a lovely name and it will have a special extra meaning for you now. It is not remotely maudlin.
I like the idea that it was kind of 'meant to be'.
Hope you feel reassured by all these answers.

edam · 03/10/2005 22:28

It's a lovely name. Not maudlin at all - you chose it because you liked it. And the hidden meaning is rather sweet, IMO.

Wasn't Thomas the Apostle a twin? So the name got its meaning because the person in the Gospels with the name was a twin - there must have been people before him called Thomas anyway so you could always ignore that meaning if you wanted to.

We chose ds's names because we liked them and they are all family names - but I looked up the meanings too just to make sure they didn't mean anything too terrible!

Gobbledispook · 03/10/2005 22:29

In a way I think it's actually quite nice that it means twin and she was a twin. I know you didn't intend it this way but it's like linking the the other twin to her life forever.

Hope I haven't upset you - I just think it's actually rather nice.

Gobbledispook · 03/10/2005 22:30

Edam - yes, Thomas means twin. It's ds1's name

Octobernow · 03/10/2005 22:33

I think it's a great choice and in your position I would be so surprised by the unseen connection that I'd have to keep it. She will be pleased you did when she grows up, I'm sure.

vickitrickortreatmum · 03/10/2005 22:33

Its not maudlin.

Probably not appropriate to post but i picked my DD's name when i saw it on a headstone nearby when visiting my nans grave. Doesnt matter about the meaning so much or how you came by as long as you like it think she will too.

ScummyMummy · 03/10/2005 22:36

Agree. Nice name and meaning. Hope you keep it for her. Sorry Tamsin's twin didn't make it. That must be very hard sometimes.

Stilltrue · 03/10/2005 22:46

It's a pretty name in itself, and as others have said, it pays tribute to your loss and to your dd's, so I think it would be lovely if you kept it for her. I'm so sorry about Tamsin's twin; i haven't experienced anything similar, but my children are my life, and I'd want them to be acknowledged and remembered if the worst ever happened. Keeping that name might be a comfort to you.