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Children peeing in the street...

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Poshpaws · 30/09/2005 16:27

I'm not a great lover of this activity, but when DS1 needs to go and I am too far from home and not near anywhere with toilets, such as McD's, I try and find a drain or some appropriate place to let him relieve himself.

DS1 was nearly caught short a few days ago walking back from nursery, so I found a drain and shielding him as much as I could, let him wee.

Anyway, a girl of about 13 came past, did a double take and shouted 'Eurgh'(sp?) at the top of her voice. My instant reaction was to tell her to grow up .

However, it did get me thinking whether other parents walk past scenes like this and are sympathetic or secretly thinking that it is disgusting.

Like I said, I'm not a big fan, but understand when children are caught short.

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trace2 · 30/09/2005 16:30

i agree but little one are still learning, and have not got the hang of holding it.

PrettyCandles · 30/09/2005 16:31

I think that anyone who has toilet-trained a toddler will sympathise. I feel exactly the same as you about it.

PrettyCandles · 30/09/2005 16:32

It's a bit like dealing with a toddler-tantrum in the middle of Tesco.

tarantula · 30/09/2005 16:32

lol PP that would have been my reaction exactly. tho would prob have added 'and get a life' too.

Just think shell be doing it all when shes older probably [evil ]

When a kids gotta go a kids gotta go and there isnt much that can be done about it at that age really.

cupcakes · 30/09/2005 16:33

I think other parents (who've gone through potty training) would be sympathetic.
Obviously a 13 year old has no memory of ever being that age plus is not going to have any empathy for mothers!
She did need to grow up imho!

marthamoo · 30/09/2005 16:34

I always try and find somewhere off the beaten track when ds2 gets caught short and there isn't a public loo available - and I try and find a drain to aim into! It's not ideal - but as the alternative is wet pants, it has to be done.

13 year old girls say "eurgh!" a lot I believe.

marthamoo · 30/09/2005 16:35

The only time I've thought "Eurgh!" myself was a man holding a little boy in a squat position over a drain so he could pooh in it - right in the middle of a shopping centre. Poohs can generally be held on to for a few more minutes than wees and there were toilets not too far away.

desperatehousewife · 30/09/2005 16:35

I'd rather not do it, but needs must. My 3 yr old boy does it a lot. I don't think it's it's a big deal to be honest.

nailpolish · 30/09/2005 16:35

i find most shops let me use their toilets (esp ones with mumsy looking assistants, who can sympathise with your plight)

but i have let dd pee in the street (its more difficult with girls too)

Jenum71 · 30/09/2005 16:36

I would be inclined to let them pee like that - as said - when you gotta go you gotta go!

Only today actually a little boy I look after had to go and no toilets to be found, so took him round back of the carpark by some bushes! He thought it was hilarious! I'm watering the tree he said - bless!

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Poshpaws · 30/09/2005 16:37

Thanks, guys.

I think I was annoyed at the girl because it was not as if DS was doing something un-natural.

And then DS1 asked me why she had said that, and I was trying to explain to him in a way that he would not develop a complex about it...or maybe I'm just thinking too deeply now

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Jenum71 · 30/09/2005 16:38

Yeah, I'd just let it go - shes not worth worrying about!

I'm sure shes at home now wondering about squeezing her spots - Eurgh!

ninah · 30/09/2005 16:39

the worst one ds wanted what he said was a wee and we were in a churchyard, so I made him go behing a holly tree - he did the biggest turd you have ever seen (this was Sat night, too, pre Sunday ..)
Meant to go back with a 'doggy bag' but it started raining SO hard and was bedtime I just hope it got washed away, it was certainly gone next morning ...

trace2 · 30/09/2005 16:39

its beter than paula doing on a marathon, in front of camra

bambi06 · 30/09/2005 16:39

my two pee evry where[well only if its drains or bushes etc and well hidden so nobody can see us but like you say ..they cant hold on so what !!

Niddlynono · 30/09/2005 16:54

When I was toilet training DS I'd put an empty juice/smoothie bottle (obviously with a lid) in my bag when we went out in case he needed to go. It worked a treat.

WigWamBam · 30/09/2005 17:00

13 year olds find a lot of perfectly acceptable things to be "Eurgh" ... don't let the opinions of a child who knows nothing about babies and toddlersit worry you!

MascaraOHara · 30/09/2005 17:04

I wouldn't let my dd go in the street and she's only just fully toilet trained.

Would it be deemed equally acceptable to see a girl squatting over a drain? I've never really thought about it until I saw this thread. Not sure what I would've done with her if she couldn't hold it - shoved her behind a bush or something I suppose???!?

WigWamBam · 30/09/2005 17:06

You either hold her out to pee on the floor or she has wet knickers, Mascara ... and given dd's hysterical reaction the only time she wet herself when we were out and away from a loo, peeing on the floor is the lesser of the two evils. I've only had to let her do it a couple of times, but sometimes there's no other alternative, like it or not.

MascaraOHara · 30/09/2005 17:08

WWB - wasn;t attacking anyone! just asking a question like I said - I've never really thought about it before as the situation hasn't happened to us!

but I think I would think 'eurgh' if I saw a 3yo girl squatting over a drain actually. Different for boys though I think - more sociually acceptable in generaly but that's only mho

marthamoo · 30/09/2005 17:11

I wouldn't think anything different for a girl or a boy - just that I'd be thankful I have boys because it's far easier when they do need to do a wee in public (well, ds2 invariably wees on my hand...)

WigWamBam · 30/09/2005 17:12

Sorry, I didn't think you were attacking anyone - didn't mean to make it sound as if I did!

But what are you meant to do when your dd suddenly says "I need a weeeeeeee" and there's no loo around - particularly when they're not long trained? When they've got to go, they've got to go - boy or girl!

MaloryTowers · 30/09/2005 17:13

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paolosgirl · 30/09/2005 17:13

Up til I had kids, I was uptight and not very maternal (I'm ashamed to say) so I would probably have thought "eurgh" too. Having had 2 toddlers, when they gotta go, they gotta go! Poos and wees have been deposited all round the country by my two! (Poos only up the hills though!)

MascaraOHara · 30/09/2005 17:15

don't know tbh. DD was always asked can you hold it and she did. I was v. lucky.. but then she potty trained late as would just not do it, had terrible trouble with the toilet so by the time she started toilet training she could hold for England! lol!