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If you took your child to a party at someone's house.......

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QueenOfQuotes · 17/09/2005 23:47

and stayed there while the party was 'on', and the host was doing it on her own, would you sit and talk for the whole party, or would you offer to help (even if your offer was then refused)?

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SueW · 18/09/2005 11:24

Did you ask them to help? E.g. before starting pas the parcel, did you ask if one could do the music or someone tick off who'd had the parcel so it wouldn't get duplicated? It doesn't hurt to be a little directive!

weesaidie · 18/09/2005 11:27

Good luck with that GeorginaA!

Oh and when I grew out of sleepovers I started going out for family meals (before meeting friends)... rather expensive ones. I do not know what my parents are thinking! It's all their idea. Honest!

GeorginaA · 18/09/2005 11:30

Nah, I think I'll have to wait until they're a lot older and have very clear ideas on who their close friends are. I'm guessing secondary school at the earliest?

At the moment though, there seems to be so much politics around who you invite, when they reply, how many you invite, where to have it, what type of food/entertainment to provide, whether parents stay or go... it's amazing anyone gets to enjoy them! When ds1 was a baby I had these visions of being a real domestic goddess and having lots of sweet party games with well-behaved eager children at home. Then realism started to set in when I realised I couldn't organise my way out of a paper bag...

Ulysees · 18/09/2005 11:35

I had DS1's party recently and 3 mums stayed and sat. The only person who helped me was dh's secretary. She's close to the boys, babysits etc.. she never had kids so has a lot of time for them. Dh didnt do much tbh expect lugging stuff. I did have a magician for 2 hours so it was only food to organise but they watched their own kids struggle to reach stuff etc.. and let us do it.

weesaidie · 18/09/2005 11:35

Yes the whole thing is very nerve racking. This year at dds 1st I just had all my friends as I didn't know any other parents then...

however next year when she is 2 she will be at nursery (starts next week)... what do I do?????

Ulysees · 18/09/2005 11:37

Georgina, DS1 is almost 8 and still gets invites even though we go away for his now, Blackpool for weekend last year, Butlins this year.

Aimsmum · 18/09/2005 11:39

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Aimsmum · 18/09/2005 11:42

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weesaidie · 18/09/2005 11:42

Thank god... and thank you Aimsmum

weesaidie · 18/09/2005 11:43

I wouldn't have thought so. I'd be quite happy to get a couple of hours off.

35 kids! I think it is appropriate to use the word trooper in such a situation...

Aimsmum · 18/09/2005 11:45

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QueenOfQuotes · 18/09/2005 12:12

"I don't mind bolters either - it is fair enough with family weekend logistics."

Neither do I - the triplets dad left them and picken them up at the end, no problem for me. It was the ones who stayed and did nothing (and bragged about monetary stuff) that pee-ed me off.

"am i weird? i find it cheaper to do a party at a venue, than at home.."

Yes must be wierd, my entire party cost me £20

"I mean, the dad that left... is that 'frowned upon'"

Well I didn't frown on it, thought fair enough (and TBH if I had triplets as lively as those 3 I'd probably leave them too LOL)

"Did you ask them to help? E.g. before starting pas the parcel, did you ask if one could do the music or someone tick off who'd had the parcel so it wouldn't get duplicated?"

Have to be honest, and say no I didn't. But by the time we did pass the parcel I was alraeady really wishing they'd left, and thinking what snobby mums they were

Anyhow must go, got to take DS1 to a party, going to have to walk him there and back, which will probably take at least 45 minutes (one way) and it starts at 1. Don't want him to be late when we're making such an effort to be there.

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QueenOfQuotes · 19/09/2005 16:07

ooooo and just now (well 1hr ago) when I was picking DS1 up from school one of the snobby mum's came up and said "sooo did XXXX enjoy his party then"..

blurghhh well she was there so I would have thought she'd have seen she had a whale of a time.

Went to another party yesterday, and the mum's there were SOOOOO nice in comparison.

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mrsmoons · 19/09/2005 17:55

QoQ, I salute you - you held the sort of party I have always wanted to do for my boys, but a) they both have birthdays in winter so you can't do the outside stuff and b) my house is teeny! (So we have always done a party in a church hall type thing! I have done the games and food though)
My youngest's little lad's birthday is in a month's time and he only started school a fortnight ago. he wants to invite the whole class and I can only afford 10 kids (including him and his brother). What shall I do? He has been asking for a long long time to have i at the wacky warehouse, which I don't mind this year as I am knackered, but I hate the fact that only half the class can have an invite...

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QueenOfQuotes · 19/09/2005 17:56

mrsmoons - if it had been raining they would have all been indoors. I was just going to do more games, like musical statues, musical bumps, etc etc.

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