Would you leave your kids for two weeks to heve fun with DH?

[HondaDream]

Dh and I are panning a two week trip around India on Motorbike (MIL has offered to have kids). Dh mentioned it at work and words like irresponsible and phrases like I would never leave the kids. Considering we are not novices having lived in asia I find this a bit wierd. Just wondered what you lot think.

Been to India before. I know my kids will be fine with MIL. You only live once but I cannot belive the negative responses we have had so far

Oh....I will retract my NO and say yes, do it.

I didn't realise your children were older than little'uns.

My mother is always encouraging me to go away with dh! My parents had a two week "honeymoon" once a year when we were children, leaving us with friends or grandparents. I think it's great for your children to have fun with their grandparents, and also good for the relationship between them. Are your colleagues thinking you are irresponsible for:
going away full stop;
for letting your MIL look after them;
or for dong something "dangerous" when you are parents?
Alternately all of the above? I think it's great, and will probably reinvigorate both you and your relationship with dh. I am definitely jealous!

oh my word! right lets do a list of positives and negatives

positives
you get to go on holiday
you get to have sex and scream as loud as you want without worrying about the kids
you get to see wonderful things
have great experiences
look back on it when your old and lonley in the folks home
you get to have two weeks without the kids
and you get to come back to an immaculate house becuase your MIL is a clean freak.

right negatives

....nope...

...am tying......
errr.... ummmmmmm

got one! maybe there will be a strike somewhere and you will get stuck...nope thats another positive.....

get going!

Yes, yes, go, have a fantastic time!

Got to go now but would love to hear more thoughts, perhaps a new thread is in the pipe line 'Dangerous Parenting`

Go for it and have fun!

WOW.. oh fab!! ... you must really go as this may never have this opportunity again ... have a fab time you lucky thing!

I might go but I would miss them and probably wouldnt enjoy it - sorry!

Go for it - definitely! Jump at the chance! As others say you may not have the opportunity in future.

We always left the boys for short trips since they were tiny,
and left them both with GPs for 10 days for a trip to Ireland when they were 2 and 4;
then again for 2 weeks whilst we moved house (when they were 3 and 5).

They had a FABULOUS time, as did my parents. I know they all have very fond memories of that second holiday, particularly, because my dad was diagnosed with cancer just a couple of months later; so since then (3 years) they haven't been in a position to have the boys to stay at all.

What I'm saying is make the most of the opportunities that you have today, and don't rely on them being there tomorrow.

With 10 year old kids - what are you waiting for?

I wouldn't leave ds for this long - but he is only 2. Your kids will have a ball and so will GP's (and you)

I think it would be more irresponsible to take them.

If your kids are 10 then I say go for it, definitely. I couldn't leave ds atm but he's only 2, so it's not quite the same. If they're happy and MIL is happy, don't see what the problem is really.

If I absloutely trusted the childcare, was always in contact and could get back 'quickly' and the children were of a more independent age than toddlers say, and used to more than an odd nights separation from us then, yes ... go & enjoy it.

Custardo - you forgot another positive - you get to make all your colleagues and MNers jealous

Think of it this way - you are allowing your kids and GPs to have some quality time together. Lots of GPs would love to do this but cant because of distance, ill health, disability etc. You dont knwo how long GPs will be around for ( sorry to be morbid ) - this might be the only chance your kids will have for such a holiday. Go for it!!!!

No I wouldn't.

Mine are 4.5, almost 3 and 12 months. Apart from anything else, I wouldn't want to go away without them. It's 1 night max for me at the moment. It might change as they get older but I wouldn't do as long as 2 weeks until they were independent or unless they really fancied 2 weeks with their grandparents.

I like doing holidays with them, as a whole family. That's part of the fun of having children for me.

Sounds like an excellent idea to me - your kids will enjoy being at their nanna's and you and hubby will have a fabulous time in India. Go for it.

DO IT!

I left Jess (13 months) with my dad for 11 days in August. He took her to see my grandparents in scotland and me and DH had a week at Butlins - not very exciting but best thing i could get being 34 weeks pg!

You will only regret it if you dont, so DO IT!

I'd do it! you need some you time as well, and I'm sure you'll still take your kids away for a hols to, so where's the problem?

I wouldn't like to leave my dd, but my circumstances are completely different. DP found his cancer had come back when she was born, so she had an unusual first year.

So I could not leave her.

But...your kids are so much older.

And - WOW! I hope you have a great time.

And - who am I to judge (but if I was, considering ages, grandparents, etc - nothing wrong!)

ENJOY!!!

Go for it!

Sounds like GPs are happy - kids are happy - you'll be happy!

On the danger aspect - you could be knocked down running for a bus! You and DH are presumably not young kids, know you have responsibilities at home etc etc. You won't be racing mad Indian bus drivers!

Anyone who comments negatively is just jealous!

enjoy!

I'd do it

My parents used to leave me and my sister with our gp's every summer. I loved it, so do it and have a ball

thanks for all being so positive. we will be very careful..I guess my dh just has very boring colleges.
Ordered my motorbike today an Enfield Bullet so I can get a bit of practise in before I go. Only it won't be ready until December

I hope you have a wonderful time.