Tea room 16 welcome to Shangri-la

[UniS]

Shangri-la = a hidden valley with beautiful views and crystal streams of course, and some inter-far eastern type of chalet things set around a Serene Courtyard with ever-blooming Japanese cherry trees, lots of refreshing fragrant teas, silk cushions, tinkling tiny waterfalls and bonsai trees, Gardens of Tranquillity etc.

Home to teh 16th Tea room, a haven for those with one or more or less children who like cake, tea, talking nonsense and oggling Mellors ( our handyman/ butler). If its your first vist, pull up a cushion .Mind out for the guinea pigs and other pets and do take care not to squash the teeny tiny naked mowhawk babies ( nmbs
, no longer naked and now toilet trained you will glad to hear)as they go about their duties helping Mellors.

Confused... come on, jump in and have a hot chocolate.

jolly bolly please.

evening all. the pavolova ice cream ended up being very similar to the raspberry one, I think teh meringue all sort of melted away. Maybe I should try dipping chunks in white chocolate before adding to the rest.

Walked boy off his legs today. he was zonked by bedtime. It was ONLY a 5 hour trip with a lump of rain at the point when we were furthest from civilisation. Ho HUm, we were all dressed and equipped for the conditions so no one got cold or hungry.

Choc box of requirements coming round....

Sea side pavilion sounds nice, a welcome change from the drizzle and showers we have had this week.

Hi ladies, just popping in quickly to say hi.

Oxeye - I know how you feel, I am guilty of it myself when under stress with life in general.

JM - dh was on AD for just short of ten years and is now totally AD free (has been for just under 4 years), it can be done, but he also did go off them several times in the past and had to go back on them again. So just keep a close eye on yourself and be honest with yourself about how you feel. He still does have anxiety issues though, but no more depression.

Amber - That's awful Amber. You are having such a hard time lately .

Better go, very slow mobile broadband here!

JM - thinking of you - I have no experience, but can imagine what a shock to the system it must be.

Oxeye - I got a sympathetic glance from someone I took to be a mother in the cafe at the rare breeds place we went to today (drizzly, so beach not ideal) when I came out with something like 'mistlechick, no, we can't have a packet of crisps with lunch, you get some with your lunchbox, I don't want any now stop asking because you won't get them....'. Had a difficult betime tonight which is really unusual - I think he's now unsettled because we're leaving tomorrow - and he wants to stay (forever!) but also wants to see daddy....

BTW Unis - he said that the day with you and boy was the best day ever!

(Scout whispers: Good night, Tea Room Ladies. Have a good sleep, everyone.)

oh meeskamooska - have a (((hug))) back for yourself! Wibbliness and mounting irritability are not pleasant.

Oxeye - I know your pain. THe only difference is that I don't do it when MrThumb is away, I'm more prone to doing it when he's here as he rather adds to my irritability levels some evenings.

Smallbunch - I prefer pruning for stress release - there is something very satisfying about snipping and lopping things!

"our" bird is getting bolder daily - he's now taken to singing at us to get attention too - he reminds me of British robins, the way he'll follow us around the garden and sing for us, cocking his head to one side to make sure we're paying attention!

They said oh by the way it's different guest houses but we're not telling you which ones, and different flights on different planes from different terminals...but we're not telling you which ones right now...
..and I'd spent months and months researching the original ones and contacting them to ensure I was safe to use them. And there's no time to re-research it. And the travel company said 'we can change anything we like, it's in our terms and conditions, so too bad'. But they knew I'm autistic and I'd told them my needs for sensory info and routine info...and they accepted the booking...and then the charity whose idea this tour is said 'well we can't give you one to one attention - there's lots of people going'. I didn't even want one-to one-attention or fuss - just wanted to know where I was going and on what.

That just sucks doesn't it Amber - for you, but there must be lots of people that would be v unhappy with not knowing the details either. I certainly get very uncomfortable if I don't know the travel details, and flying is unstressful for me and I'm not ASD.

Don't worry about it Oxeye - I think that a quick shout is the way we all go when stressed (are you eating properly btw), and much as I don't like doing it, I am certainly guilty of it. Hope you get some downtime this weekend. Maybe make some relaxation time for a long bath together ?

Anyone for a doughnut ?

JM - Is it possible to slowly slowly come off? Like take half a pill for a week, a quarter and then nothing? Rather than going cold turkey?

Amber - Eeeeeeeeeeeek!!! That sort of thing doesn't bother me in the slightest but I really get why it bothers you. What are you going to do???

Oxeye - You have been working too hard, missing dh AND bringing Oxeboy up... of course you are going to squalk!!!!

I have a confession to make... I had an out of character squalk at dd about an hour before our meet up because she refused to get dressed. I had been under a lot of stress in general and was quite nervous about meeting you and small and I tipped my stress onto her!!!

I really find chatting about it afterwards works. When I think I was being unreasonable I say "Remember how you . Well that is how I was feeling when I . I am sorry I was so hard on you and thank you for being grown up enough to understand. Usually she starts rubbing my forhead and saying "It doesn't matter my lovelies" which makes me feel even worse but gives me atonement and her a comprehension of what happens to real ladies in real life - which is useful for girls and even more useful for boys. Your future DIL will love you forever for every squalk - LOL!!!!!!

What am I going to do? Quietly walk away from trying to be a Christian before I embarrass myself and clergy and God any more, I think.

Don't walk away from it Amber - you aren't being fair to yourself by letting others thoughtlessness turn you away from a huge part of your life. If you have a list of the things you need to know about, I'd be more than happy to data gather for you once you know the guesthouses.

Tea, are you on FB with a nice picture of the dog as your profile pic ?

There's no time left to research it. I have to track down autistic people who have stayed there - it's not as simple as researching it online. It takes weeks because it's not even in a language I speak. I've had to cancel. But thank you for your kindness CMOT and all.

Amber it's almost as though they are actively discriminating against you. I cannot see why they felt the need to change everything with little time left - it makes no sense! Perhaps if you felt like it you could get a nice lawyer to write a letter to them on your behalf explaining that they are displaying discriminatory behaviour and this could have repercussions that they might not like. It won't help you directly, but it might help the next person.

I am so that you are having to put up with this, especially as you spend so much of your life trying to fight this kind of discrimination - it's outrageous.

I suspect that being autistic and part of the LGBT community and communicating in an autistic way has pushed a few people into wanting me gone, yes. And plenty of others into not feeling they can stand up for me.
If they won't listen to me, or my advocate, or my autism specialist, I'm not sure a lawyer would do anything at all... and I don't want to threaten people...I want us to be able to be loved without having to threaten. Not sure that makes sense, but it's how I feel and the best I can do to explain it...

Who's for a large whisky? I don't even drink the stuff . Pass me that straw...

It makes perfect sense, honestly - but perhaps they don't realise how discriminatory they are being. I wasn't thinking so much of a threatening letter, more of a "you do realise you are being highly discriminatory and there are laws
against this, don't you" sort of letter.

Anyway, I take your point entirely - here's your straw, here's the Glenfiddich and here's the mattress for when you fall over!

Whose turn is it to set up the new place? We only have 9 posts left to do it...

I can have a go...before I hit the virtual whisky...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/one_child_families/1008211-Tea-Room-17-The-Tropical-Beach-Hut?rnd=1279892460231

NEW TEA ROOM OPEN

See you over there Have just found you - have been away from keyboard for a while - in forn parts....

I see much has changed, will try and ketchup, as the big tomato said...