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Tea Room the Tenth: Tea and cake and rock and roll

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MadBadandDangerousToKnow · 07/09/2009 23:29

Welcome back to the tea room.

In the search for the perfect venue, we have now decamped to a rambling country estate. The once-decaying castle, now restored, is a boutique hotel, popular with rock and roll gentry and visiting bishops, and the tea room (which never closes) is located in a tastefully converted barn. The charming garden contains a duck pond and ends in a haha. We need the haha, of course, to stop the bison trampling the herbaceous borders. Mellors the gardener is, as ever, in charge of the grounds.

Please come and join us for a celebratory drink.

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daisy99divine · 09/10/2009 13:11

That's AMAZING - yup, the second tee meet must be on! And I suspect it's going to be a bit of a doozy with MaryBS, Orange and Ruby already in situ and Tea and MadBad going handbags at dawn for the Last Spot at High Table

MadBadandDangerousToKnow · 09/10/2009 13:23

Oh, Daisy, you have made me laugh out loud.

I am so glad that Viz has now been introduced to the tea room. Going back to the theme of style and beauty, I rather model myself on Millie Tant And Her Radical Conscience.

I am sorry, though that you have let yourself down over the matter of the dark and light blues. DaisyBoy really ought to go to the Fens, where he will meet Tea and MadBadBaby and possibly be recruited to be a spy.

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daisy99divine · 09/10/2009 13:45

Oh Madbad I was always rather partial to the Lady with the Singing Minge. It was the sight of her bent over with her fanjo going "tra la la" - for years there was a poster up on the edge of the M4, kew roundabout. It made me smile

You are wrong about the Dark Blue land of mist, spires, Aloysius and Harry Potter, but of course, we don't do fisticuffs in here so I shall just smile and offer you a cup of coffee and a slurp of bolly

MadBadandDangerousToKnow · 09/10/2009 14:03

and at gynaecological poster near the motorway.

OK, Daisy, you leave me no choice.

Your starter for 10. Which university has just been rated second in the world after Harvard? Eh, eh?

Your supplementary question. Which university, on the other hand, just slipped down a place in the world rankings?

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MaryBS · 09/10/2009 14:11

Nah, they wouldn't dump you in the Cam, they're very hot on littering in Cambridge.

Hi ruby, are you also rubyslippers? I get confused easily...

daisy99divine · 09/10/2009 14:22

What's odd MadBad is I never thought of it as a competition... but there you go

What is odder is I am really busy at work but have just spent 10 minutes googling stuff and oddly while C is better in the world O is better within the uk. Which clearly makes sense

Also, what is odd is in every article I googled the photos are of Oxford and Oxford is always listed first....

Heh ho, I offer this article which I cut and pasted cos I can't do links (cos clearly I'm not a mathmetician which is another thing I didn't realise until about 10 minutes ago)

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June 03, 2009
Which is better - Oxford or Cambridge? Two graduates exchange robust views...
The new Times Good University Guide 2010 includes a wealth of interesting, and very useful, information. It also includes a definitive list of the top universities in the UK. At number one, and keeping its position from last year, is Oxford, followed by arch rival Cambridge at number two. You can see the list of universities here, and read John O'Leary's view of the rivalry.

But here we take a more personal look at the top two universities. In one corner, we have Tom Whipple, Mathematics graduate of Churchill College, Cambridge and in the other, Will Pavia, who studied History at Lincoln College, Oxford.

Tom's view: why Cambridge is really number one....

"Let us be clear about what these figures mean. Coming second to Oxford for the 8th year running is a triumph for Cambridge. Look into the data, and you see that, academically, Cambridge outranks the Midlands Polytechnic in almost every category. It has higher entry standards, a better research rating and more staff. Where it loses out ? the only reason it is not top overall ? is in funding and facilities.

In other words, despite suffering such a paucity of swanky libraries and plushly-upholstered debating chambers that it drops a place in the rankings, Cambridge still produces the finest students in the country. Oxford is like the try-hard sixth former who wins the effort prize, but fails to write anything original in his or her exams.

It was ever thus. Oxford proudly lists 25 prime ministers amongst its alumni ? a roll call of academic mediocrities from the Earl of Rosebery, who quit his studies because the university would not let him keep his horse, to Tony Blair. Cambridge, conversely, has just 15 past British leaders. What it does have is 83 Nobel laureates ? more than France, Italy or Russia. And whilst 1930s Oxford students voted to in ?no circumstances fight for King and Country?; 1930s Cambridge students provided the core of the mathematicians who broke Germany?s Enigma code.

There is an idea at Oxford that there is a great antipathy between the two universities, that we are twin titans of education engaged in an epic struggle. The first time I went to a Blues rugby match, I was assaulted for 80 minutes by the dirtiest, most elaborate chants from the opposite stands. It was bemusing: if only they put the same effort into their studies.

On our side of the pitch we had no retorts ? not because we were incapable of finding half a dozen limericks including the words ?Oxford Scum?, but simply because we didn?t know we had to. We weren't aware they were qualified enough to be considered rivals.."

Will's view: But Oxford is actually number one, and the best.....

"The stereotypical view of Oxford and Cambridge is that the latter is full of scientists and mathematicians and Oxford is the place for artists and humanities students. The figures often give a more nuanced view: I don?t intend to go through them here, because I went to Oxford and don?t really have a head for numbers, but suffice to say they show that Oxford is better. It has been better since 2002. That?s twelve years running.

Beyond the petty process of measuring the success of the two institutions, via a sort of academic accountancy, however, there is the more important business of measuring the spirit of a place.

Oxford is a bustling city, Cambridge is a small village in East Anglia. Oxford has nightclubs - they are mainly quite awful but at least they are there - and pubs where Tolkein and C.S Lewis once sat and debated great subjects, driving all the regulars to distraction. Cambridge probably holds the odd fete but there is not much else there to write home about.

This must be why Cambridge students spend most of their time plotting the downfall of this country. You might say that Kim Philby and his friends are all water under the misshapen stone bridge, but there have been further dastardly acts since.

In 2000, for instance, a group of students from Cambridge, kidnapped a Womble from an Oxford College and carried out several horrible acts of torture on the poor stuffed animal, posting pictures of it dangling by a shoe lace above an assortment of sharp objects. This is what these people are capable of, when they aren?t spying for the Soviet Union.

To outsiders ? who regard students of both universities as effete types who have elaborate affairs with their teddy bears ? this whole debate probably looks rather childish. The deeper reasons for it, if there are any, is perhaps that students make a very arbitrary choice in choosing to apply to one place or another, and afterwards defend it to the hilt, like children defending their own dysfunctional families. The fact remains, though, that Oxford is better. So there."

daisy99divine · 09/10/2009 14:23

oh I just see how long that made that post. Sorry

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amberlight · 09/10/2009 14:36

Living as I do a hop skip and a jump from Oxford, and working there half the time, I'd have to support that fine establishment. Though I do have friends and colleagues in and around Cambridge..

So many new people on the thread! Do excuse me, everyone. Takes me about a year to work out who's who thanks to being faceblind and ASC, but I'm very good with the washing up and making nice pots of tea all the same

Back from holiday. Washing starting (boo). DS has broken his phone in a wild party (arrgh) despite dsis supervising him for a week . Life as normal here, then (or as normal as it gets in this household)

MadBadandDangerousToKnow · 09/10/2009 14:42

It was meant as a joke, Daisy. Really. Truly. MadBadBaby will be sent out to work as soon as she reaches school leaving age, to keep me in gin comfort.

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orangehaze · 09/10/2009 14:47

Blimey Daisy, very good Googling I must say! But, how can you not love a city which publishes a story like this on it's major newspaper website?!

www.cambridge-news.co.uk/cn_news_home/DisplayArticle.asp?ID=454450

want one!!!

orangehaze · 09/10/2009 14:51

Although, I have to say, even if I do want a micro pig, would always be in constant fear of DH sticking it in a baguette. (Sorry if I offended any veggies out there, but it IS true)

CMOTdibbler · 09/10/2009 14:56

A big wave to our mums of many.

I can never decide who to support - I grew up v near to Oxford, but their rowing squad would never fish us lowly junior rowers out of the river, or indeed stop to enquire as to our need (in winter, fast flowing river etc), so am rather anti them in that respect.

I looked in the windows of the Konitorei on the way to my meeting this morning, and thought of you all as I dribbled down the windows admired the sachertorte

notquiteagymbunny · 09/10/2009 14:59

Goodness it's been a a busy day here! I've been asleep for most of it . I decided I would take day off after all and went shopping this morning straight from school. Didn't do too badly (top and two long swishy cardi thingies) but as usual dd did better . Home by 11 and slept til 2.30, twas heavenly. I have been feeling a bit shabby this week and it was just what I needed.

Have to do school pick up now but will return anon to see what's been happening.

I have family in Cambridgeshire - my Dad was from Colne, near St Ives.

daisy99divine · 09/10/2009 17:01

Ah MadBad of course pax. We're the tea room of love, remember?

And I do love Cambridge very much. And I really love the look of those one-bite-pigs Orange - what a great idea, snack size!!

I have just had an email from East - another shop oh overseas people. They have a sale. They do great exceedingly expensive clothes.

Gym your day sounds like heaven. Hope your evening is too

Oh, look, CMOT the slightly drooled on sachertorte has just arrived with a large pot of tea...

And MadBad her minge wasn't on show. Oh no. The poster was 1950s stylee. Very tasteful so you didn't really realise what was happening at first. A speech bubble from a checked skirt going "tra la la" I'm surprised nobody else remembers it....

orangehaze · 09/10/2009 17:17

Thank Crunchie it's Friday everyone!!!

((hands round Crunchies and G and Ts to all poor tired Mums))

Wonder if anyone has ever invented a Crunchie Martini?

daisy99divine · 09/10/2009 17:24

CHEERS MY DEARS!

My evening won't be tittering- drinking-balancingonheels-glam. It'll be traksuit and wine on the sofa watching tele

Have a good one and see you later YEAH ITS BOLLYTIME!

amberlight · 09/10/2009 17:26

Ooo, nifty! Bolly!

Just told our new dog trainer about me. He hasn't quite fainted! He's now googling away and making desperate notes about dogs and ASC, which could be quite funny. Wonder who'll learn more - me, him or the dog?

UniS · 09/10/2009 20:48

Do you think you could suck choclate milk up through a crunchie? Gotta be worth a try sometime, the Kiwis recon thay can with a Tim Tam, which is just a penguin biscuit in a NZ wrapper.

I'm not in Hereford. I didn;t have to drive all that way, the gig was cancelled. It was cancelled AFTER I left home ( I had phoned and checked it was one before I left, but the decision was changed an hour later!). Ho HUm. SO I got to the yard ( 45 min drive) to pick up the truck and was told the kettle was on and I was going home again. Ho Hum, I'll be paid most of teh fee, didn;t have to drive home at stupid O'clock and got to chew the fat with production manager and set teh world to rights.

Boy wants to be a fire fighter ( this week) he wants to drive a fire engine. He has also wanted to be fly airplanes, he wants to be a daddy when he grows up and have little boy with whom he will share teh sweets from teh front of teh car ( unlike his mummy who doesn't let boy have sweets everyday after preschool.) When he is 10 he will be big boy and not need a booster seat... and so on, he talks and talks and talks.

Hi to RRR and any other newbies lurking in teh corners, come on in teh sofas lovely.

linserella · 09/10/2009 23:48

wow! busy times in here! been full-on in RL so no virtual time

random re-cap - estar - full of admiration & awe & wonder, it's nice to be gatecrashed by the multiples!

madbad - re the f word (was days ago i know) i'll blame nursery i am prone to road rage when pushed tho pretty certain that isn't the first thing i utter

catita - hope your mum's ok and all the best with no2!

bed's - desperately need new one so have also been "researching" - most expensive mattress i can afford - granite sounds good to me (ok not literally), on a low frame, i want to get back to being closer to the floor..

white stuff i love and love the gnomes too! all saints is my habit though i TRY to resist..

oxford / cambridge no comment! i live in scotland now so probably won't make the meet - boo!

birth stories - some horrendous accounts. i was lucky to have a problem free birth, however did tear badly and went through 3 op's to repair and have since developed an auto immune disorder linked to this (if that doesn't sound too bizarre) it's all true! so, so-called "perfect" birth isn't always as it seems!

night night

dangheckskuLLANDBone · 10/10/2009 13:44

I dare not reveal how I know this, but an innocent person can be put up to sucking hot tea through a Penguin biscuit. And live to regret it.

dangheckskuLLANDBone · 10/10/2009 13:45

Oooh sorry, didn't realise I was still using me halloween nickname but there is a clue in it

Catitainahatita · 10/10/2009 16:14

Morning/afternoon all.
I'm sneaking a quick cuppa and a biscuit in the lull of the storm that is the Hatita household this fine Saturday.

Basically Kittenito is ill again (for those of you not privileged to have followed the soap opera of the last 3 months; we haven't gone more than a forntight without the poor lad ggetting ill with something). He's got a nasty stomach bug with full on vomiting and diarreohea (? I can never spell it, it's [so much easier in Spanish).

He'll recover. After being up most of the night he's gone to sleep. Hurray. So has Mr. Hatita, hurray. I am failing miserably at the same (hence I decided on the tea and Mumsnet..)

The dr. suggests that it is a result of him going to nursery and from the wonderful position of one dipensing advice, suggests that I should think of alternative childcare arrangements. As if it was that simple. Am not sure really what to do; I don't want to have him being ill like this off and on forever (as it is beginning to feel that way), but I'm loathe to remove him from nursery as he is ever so happy there. It is a possibility seing as I will be on leave from 19 Oct (although was hoping for a wee rest befre Gatita arrived). Plus, it's not like there are mother and toddler groups in Mexico that could fill the socialising void. I don't have many (one!) acquaintances with young toddlers. I will have to go back to work in January etc etc.

What do you think fellow mothers with children in/or were in nursery (I think there's quite a few of us here).

orangehaze · 10/10/2009 16:44

Hi Catita. As I'm a newbie I'm not sure how old Kittenito is? I am no expert, but hope this helps, but when we first put DD in nursery, she was ill pretty much every week for the first year (especially over winter) I've read it's just because they have little/no immunity to all the bugs going around.

It's a real pain, but I figured if she hadn't been to nursery and built her immune system up, she might have been ill all the time once she'd started school, IYKWIM?

Hope this helps, and hang on in there!
x
((passes big bar of choc?))

Catitainahatita · 10/10/2009 16:51

Kittenito is 21 months old, orangehaze.
My gut feeling when he started nursery in May was that he was going to go through a period of catching everything that was going round.
I just felt a little caught off my guard by the dr. (who also managed to imply -I think in hindsight- that by sending him to nursery and working I was somehow ignoring K) and have being having a guilt trip about it all.
Plus, as you know it's heartbreaking to watch your child suffer.... it doesn't help you think sensibly.

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