Sad about DS's future

[BooseysMom]

I have an only DC and we had him in our early 40s and never could have another. I have had lots of support from people on this thread so thank you. I thought I had come to terms with it but something recently sparked off the sadness again. It was a family scene on Emmerdale when the old man passed away and all the family gathered together. That set me off and I started worrying again about DS and who will be there for him in the future? I can only hope he'll have his own family. It feels that lately everyone can't be bothered if they have larger families, they're sorted. Plus DS had lots of friends when we moved to a new house but they have disappeared since they started at high school. Apparently they're all playing Fortnight and DS is left out 😔
It's a hard world and I can't help worrying about his future.

It's also my future - well, not so much my future as my present. I do have cousins and we get on but are not close. I know one would be there for me if needed, but I wouldn't expect him to be, and he's not much younger than me anyway. I've had to put down a next of kin on a couple of forms recently and used my exDH. If he wasn't around I really don't have a nok. However, I'm not sitting in bed crying, I'm just getting on with my life and while sometimes I have a moment's worry most of the time it really doesn't bother me. It will all work out in the end.

That's a good positive way of looking at the situation. Thank you.

That's a positive story too. Thank you.

My best friends tend to be only children. They’re the best people and not without support.

My mum died when I was 21 and I have a lovely but distant relationship with my dad - obviously if I could change things I would BUT I am an only and I got through it. Being an only has made me incredibly independent and resilient and despite some unfortunate things happening in my life - I own a lovely house, have a nice husband and kids and for the most part have a very happy life. Obviously I hope similar never befalls your son but I just wanted to say how determined and resilient being an only makes you!

Btw I can assure you that in every family I know with siblings when there are deaths there is at least one who is an absolute nightmare and causes the other child even more pain with the whole experience. Easy to say but please don’t worry.

This is exactly what has happened with my family. Since the matriarch died everyone has gone their separate ways and there's a huge rift where once there was love. It's very sad.

Thank you for your post btw

Thank you to everyone for the replies and support 🙏 ❤️