Pros of having One child?

[Newmum26]

We have a DS who will be 3 in a few weeks. He is our world and I'm a stay at home mum so he gets slots of time and love and we get many comment on how advanced he is which I believe is partly down to me and DH being able to put time to him.
I'm really swaying towards just having the one child, I've been thinking about it for a while now we always thought we weren't fussed about having any kids then when we tried for DS and he came along we couldn't imagine our life with out him. Then we thought we would like two.
But now I'm just not sure, we are so happy as a family of 3, and we don't feel 'incomplete' like you hear so many people say with a second child 'our family is now complete'
But I'm worried about the effects of him being an only child, all the things you hear 'he will be spoilt, he won't have good social skills with others, he will be lonely' and I'm sure there are many others.
Can anyone share with me some pros of having only one and if the cliche comments about having one were true for your only?
Thanks so much 😊

If you are happy with one child that’s great, certainly lots of time & financial advantages that I can see.

We decided to have two children, and had them very close in age, they are very close brothers and best friends, which is really lovely.

This can’t be guaranteed though, many siblings just don’t get on sadly.

My two are 18 & 17 now, and if you asked me now if I made the right choice, I think I did, in our circumstances.

@qwertypie... yes agreed, i feel the same. Thanks for your post. Another dc would be unmanageable. We'd have to move house and we couldn't afford it. Also the sibling argument is the same for me as i have a half bro i only see once a year. All the reminiscing from our childhood just doesn't happen.

@Lemmings123.. thank you..yes i need to stop punishing myself too. Like you and your OH we play with DS and are silly with him! I often feel like a sibling as well as a mum!

@Nat6999..sorry to hear about your mc's, divorce and recent diagnosis.

I can really see clearly the reasons we stuck at one so thanks all.

@BlueEggsAndSpam.. thanks for sharing your experience. It's an interesting read tbh. I feel exactly the same in that i wanted more than anything to experience the whole pregnancy and birth thing again. I would def have had a C section as the birth with DS was traumatic and i ended up severely torn. But the pregnancy was great! I intended to do it again but age wasn't on my side! I was exhausted. I ebf for 2 years then AF didn't return for another year so i was 44 by then and we still were in an unstable position financially. We didnt get our own house until a year later.
Anyway life pulls you in all directions.
If you had a second Dc you would be too tired running round after your first and it would never be the same! Enjoy this most precious time with your baby. I just wanted that time with DS to last forever.
We feel truly blessed to have our DS

Blueeggsandspam you have basically describe me, apart from I'm 2 years further down the line than you with an almost 3 year old.

I can't imagine not being pregnant again, not having a newborn again and not breastfeeding again but the more I think about it I think that I want another 'baby' not another child.

When I picture what it would be like with 2 it's always my DD with h we baby sibling. The thought of a 2 year old and a 6 year old (if I got pregnant now) does not sound like my idea of fun.

I love our dynamic as a 3 and this thread has done a lot to disspell the worries that I had about having only one, which seem to just be the stereotypical things that people say (unfortunately one of these people is my mum, who I'm very close to and ask her advice on everything).

I’m an only, and I have an only. Of course there are cons but the pros are We can afford that-
She can do whatever activities she wants
We go on long holidays local & long haul
She can have a pony
She can go to uni debt free
She can have a car
She can have a flat/house
We spend bucket loads of time together and have a great time
She’s becoming highly independent & also sociable with others and is happy