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OMG. how do you NOT care when your child is not invited to a party?

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bosscat · 01/08/2005 13:23

There was a party on Sunday to which ds1 was not invited to. I didn't think anything of it because he doesn't particularly like the girl who was having the party anyway (he is 3 and a half). I arrived at nursery this morning and one of the other boys Mum's asked me why my little boy wasn't there. I replied "he wasn't invited". She looked really shocked and said "he was the only one". Despite being quite a calm person most of the time, I do pride myself on being able to not get over emotional, I felt a huge lump in my throat. Then I felt really cross that this child's mother would be so petty as to leave 1 child out of a class of 37 for goodness sake! They are 3-4 year olds. I then felt even crosser at the nursery for letting this happen, they actually give out the invitations on behalf of the parents. So I saw the principal as I was entering and asked to see her. I really really really meant to stay calm but ended up bawling my eyes out. I just kept thinking of ds1 in his little dennis the menace top being the only one missing out on a party. Then she told me this was all rubbish and actually only 20 were invited out of 37. So there actually is no problem. I am sooooo mortified and wondering how on earth you get past all this party invitation rubbish. I have GOT to stop caring about it! ANyone else been through similar and come out the other end?

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bosscat · 01/08/2005 18:16

Lunarsea, I completely see your point however putting myself in the other mothers position was not really an option because I was told that 36 out of 37 classmates were invited! So no excuses over price, venue limits or what have you would have washed in that situation, to deliberately leave one person out is just downright mean and something I would absolutely never do to someone's child no matter what my own child might have wanted. I just am not capable of being that mean I'm afraid. As it turned out the person who gave me this information was quite wrong and only 20/37 were invited so I didn't mind so much. Can you really say that in the same circumstances you would have been able to stay calm and not get upset if you thought yours was the only little one not invited?

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