Why have children ? If they end up an nurseries.

[Wisewoman56]

I was an older mum and did try child minders and nurseries as I wanted to go back to college to boost my career.

Then I got a good dose of commons sense, and gave up college to stay at home with our beautiful son. I have since then done all the college I needed knowing that he didn't suffer.

We really needed me to go to work but we managed, we didn't need expensive holidays abroad or all the gizmo's and gadgets or bigger homes just to keep up with the Joneses, which lets face is mostly why women go back to work these days. I acknowledge the real need for some Mums to go to work just to be able to eat. Otherwise don't have kids if you don't want to spend time with them.

Is it any wonder that kids are running riot these days, if you can't afford to stay home you can't afford to have children, this also goes for the I must work or I will get bored brigade, bringing up a child can be infuriating at the worst but most wonderful at it's best. Once again why have them if you just can't be bothered, bored! They are more fun than traffic jam's rushing everywhere and being stuck in a boring office all day thats for sure.

We have a well adjusted, polite, and wonderful 22 year old son now, and I thank God that I had this wonderful opportunity to watch him grow and enjoy the world.

Something else we taught him was manners, which seems to be something that is lacking in today's society, and he doesn't swear at home his Dad and I don't so we don't accept it in our home, he probably does when he is with his friends, but if they come to our house they too are not allowed to use bad language.

Please people, just step away from the thread.
It is not a genuine post. It is about trying to come up with a new article, or have a fight, or wind people up, or all three.
Whatever you type isn't going "change" the OPs "mind" ...

Step away and move on.

This old bloody chestnut

Blackduck packs up a tin of brasso and posts to wisewoman56 so that she can polish her halo....

Think it was done a while back almost word for word. (bored emotcion)

"we didn't need expensive holidays abroad or all the gizmo's and gadgets or bigger homes just to keep up with the Joneses, which lets face is mostly why women go back to work these days" Erm no it isn't.

And most children don't 'end up' in nurseries. They end up as adults with any luck.

What an extraodinarily annoying thread. I would love to stay and say some more very rude things to you but I have to go home from work now and anyway I don't think you are for real.

Ooh and simondie

"as happy, secure children go on to make happy, fulfilled adults who make fewer demands of their fellow citizens. "

Excellent! TGlad to hear it. That will be my happy secure children who all went to childcare of one kind or another when and DH and I went to work.

is this wisewoman56? incudes picture!!

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I think she's trying to go viral on us.

Bumping this as I desperately want someone else to enjoy the link in my previous post

Riven

Oh come on- mabe some of us actually want or need to go back to work. (sticks out tongue emoticum)

Actually, OP, the SAHM / housewife phenomenon is a relatively modern invention. Up until the end of the second world war, only very wealthy families could afford to have the mother stay at home and the children would be taken care of by staff until they were old enough to be packed off to school.
I sincerely hope that you are a troll / journo of little brain because you seem to have missed the point that this is a website designed to support parents.

Very few people in history have been able to afford not to work.

Catinthehat - scary link! wtf is 'labyrinth coaching'?

Is David Bowie involved?

In agricultural communities the women have always worked, whether it was specifically paid work or not. If you look at the rural working classes in census records, the woman is often/usually doing something as an occupation -- straw plaiting/hatmaking, for example. It seems (this is my own observation based on looking at census returns, and I'd be interested to read around it) to be as people moved into industrialised work in the big cities that mothers stop reporting occupations. But according to the guides I was talking to at the Black Country museum recently, even then they were often doing something to bring in a bit of extra money.

Well here's another one Port, I was scanning through returns for the village where I was born and there was a surprising number - this was 1851 I think - of young lasses with a baby/toddler living with Mum & Dad, no changed surname, no husband.

So labyrinth coaching lady, guess what, there was no perfect idyllic past,there was just the reality of existence, getting on with things, doing the best for your children. You know, like it is today, but with the interweb.

If you are going to waste our time by trolling, could you at least try to be funny? Give a little?

Anyone with an ounce of common sense is aware that the world was a VERY different place twenty two years ago. Also, a person of your suggested wisdom would have learned the appropriate use of punctuation. Still, you've given us all a laugh, now off you fuck, there's a poppet.