Why have children ? If they end up an nurseries.

[Wisewoman56]

I was an older mum and did try child minders and nurseries as I wanted to go back to college to boost my career.

Then I got a good dose of commons sense, and gave up college to stay at home with our beautiful son. I have since then done all the college I needed knowing that he didn't suffer.

We really needed me to go to work but we managed, we didn't need expensive holidays abroad or all the gizmo's and gadgets or bigger homes just to keep up with the Joneses, which lets face is mostly why women go back to work these days. I acknowledge the real need for some Mums to go to work just to be able to eat. Otherwise don't have kids if you don't want to spend time with them.

Is it any wonder that kids are running riot these days, if you can't afford to stay home you can't afford to have children, this also goes for the I must work or I will get bored brigade, bringing up a child can be infuriating at the worst but most wonderful at it's best. Once again why have them if you just can't be bothered, bored! They are more fun than traffic jam's rushing everywhere and being stuck in a boring office all day thats for sure.

We have a well adjusted, polite, and wonderful 22 year old son now, and I thank God that I had this wonderful opportunity to watch him grow and enjoy the world.

Something else we taught him was manners, which seems to be something that is lacking in today's society, and he doesn't swear at home his Dad and I don't so we don't accept it in our home, he probably does when he is with his friends, but if they come to our house they too are not allowed to use bad language.

Dont neighbours always describe serial killers as 'nice well adjusted, polite boys who are ever so close to their mums'?

Would try to type a "balanced" reply, but my mind is too busy boggling!

Of course, you are so right, OP! Those 5 years I spent at Uni were a ridiculous waste of time- I would no doubt have been better doing a sewing course. How deluded am I to think that the 2 days a week my children spend at nursery are fun and beneficial to them, and have stood my eldest dd in great stead for going to school. I should be ashamed of myself to think that my happy, well-adjusted, sociable and non-swearing children might even grow up to think that having a career is something they too could do (or allow their wives to do)

Thank you for enlightening me about my terrible parenting

LOL chegirl.

Maybe this is th OPs son!!!!

WW56 - its all gone quiet over there... you're not pontificating any more?!

DON'T FEED THE TROLLS!

bradsmissius hmmm maybe, I think he would be somewhat less attractive. Go on find me an ugly serial killer

I've got too much time on my hands - I just googled "ugly serial killers" !!!!

Didn't find any!

Gosh, Wisewoman. Am so glad that you're so incredibly fulfilled in your 'golden years' that all you can think to do with your time is to post bilge like this. Really, how those hours must fly by in the warm glow of misogyny!

It is regrettable that Wisewoman has adopted an unfortunate tone of voice for her otherwise quite sound point: children benefit from the one to one attention that being at home with a parent provides during the first three or more years of life. Most expert opinion seems to be in agreement on this. The reason that most women go back to work though is economic. I read one report which said that 94% would prefer to stay at home or work part time given the choice. Many children are sent to nursery before they have found their own voice, and consequently are not able to object. Whatever the economic circumstances of mothers, these should not be allowed to obscure the evidence for the essential needs of infants. Bonding takes time, and if we want more time with our children, we will have to change our society and demand this from the prevailing Government. It does in fact make economic sense in the end, as happy, secure children go on to make happy, fulfilled adults who make fewer demands of their fellow citizens.

Wisewoman; do you ask men this question too (or tell them that they shouldn't have children if they intend to work) or does this only apply to women?

I bet your son is secretly running a lap dancing club.

quelle surprise - this is wisewoman56's first and only post.

[yawn]

I dint go back to work to keep up with the Joneses, I went back to work to keep up with the bills!

And why is it on these threads the only person to stick up for the OP is also someone with no posting history

OP clearly wasn't ready to give up college. She can't spell or punctuate.
How awful to bring up a child when you have no basic writing skills

The reason your son is well mannered and polite is because his name is Susan at weekends.

Or he likes putting oranges in his mouth while wanking.

OP, for example, is a twat

The op's son is called simon obviously.

Obviously - and his MN name might give a clue to how he feels about his Mum's parenting

OP is obviously a troll who is a disgruntled ex-employee of a certain nursery.

My mother never swears, and I mean NEVER. Had no effect on me.

is your son married yet?

does he have any children?

if so, what a lucky lucky luck daughter in law

My first born wasn't planned. I couldn't afford to give up work.

Jeez.

Oh and my parents looked after her.

"By simondie on Thu 25-Jun-09 19:56:56
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Many children are sent to nursery before they have found their own voice, and consequently are not able to object."

Please explain. My DD has been quite capable of "objecting" since she was just weeks old. And regularly does (at nursery and at home).