Left dd at nursery - heartbroken

[Midge25]

Have just dropped off 6 1/2 m dd at nursery for her 1st full day and feel like my heart is breaking. Have taken lots of the advice on here and spent the last 3 weeks settling her in - she's going to be there full time. I return to work next week but decided to give her her 1st full week whilst I was still at home. Everyone's telling me to enjoy my day of freedom but at the moment feel so awful - dd cries at drop-off and during settling in sessions she's refused food/milk from staff and seems to 'hang on' for me coming to collect her. Now she's there all day she can't hold out forever, but am worried lots of hard work with weaning etc and her routine is going to go backward. Gave the staff lots of info about her routine but they probably think I'm totally neurotic - cried when I collected her last week as she seemed so upset....

Thanks to all for your fab messages and support. Dd seems to have survived the week so far and even ate something yesterday!!! Managed to choke down a couple of glasses of wine on Monday and yesterday She seems a lot more relaxed with nursery staff and altho am clock-watching again til I can collect her today - and hoping I haven't spoken too soon - I feel much better already. Not sure about having Friday with dd; very tempting but am worried it'll disrupt things more?

Starting to eat at nursery is definitely a big step in the right direction.

I would play it by ear about Friday if I were you - maybe take her in for the morning and then pick her up early? If your nursery is anything like ours there will be a lot less there on Friday afternoon - I frequently rush to get DD 'early' (just before 5) on a Friday only to find that she is the last one there anyway

As others have said - there will be phases. DD is 21mths now and has a routine 30 second (literally - I have stood outside the door and listened) wail when I leave her but is then perfectly happy. She does enjoy making a fool of me by completely refusing to eat at nursery something she has wolfed down at home, though - I can see the nursery staff wondering why I pack stuff for her that she patently hates .