Been told not to bring DD back to nursery - totally stunned

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I've name changed for this.

I am changing DD's current nursery from September mainly because I want to send her to the nursery attached to the private school I want her to go to. Out of courtesy I decided to let her current nursery know now. I told the nursery manager a couple of days ago and made it clear it was no reflection on their standards and she was lovely about it and completely agreed with me it would be best for DD to start at a nursery where she was going to school. She also said she'd tell the nursery owner.

So I went to pick up DD tonight and nursery owner was there and asked for a word. She said that since I didn't appreciate the care that DD was getting and since I obviously didn't care about her (owners) feelings I should pull DD out immediately and not bring her back in the morning.

She also gave me an envelope containing some cash which she says makes up the remaining amount we'd paid for this month. I tried to point out that if I wasn't happy I'd be the one insisting on pulling DD out now and that I was only trying to help by giving extra notice. She's adament DD won't be welcome tomorrow. I didn't take the money.

I'm totally stunned.what the hell do I do? Dp is away working so I cant even cry on him.

Is there anything I can do (not that I'd leave DD there now) and what on earth do I do about child care?

how do I explain all this to DD who will suddenly not be seeing her friends?

I think I would take her back.

It sounds like she's tried hard to make amends, and as you say, you have had no issue with the nursery or the manager up until now.

I hope it all works out ok

Glad you have got an apology and some explanation of why the owner was acting in such a bizarre manner (poor woman).

Do take dd back, she's settled there and enjoys herself - a week's 'holiday' is fine but better to go back rather than having such an abrupt end to her time there.

Fabulous. You couldn't wish for a better outcome.

sounds like she was having a 'moment'. Totally unprofessional, but thank goodness she did all the apologising.

Thanks everyone. I think its best to take her back.

Cargirl I hadn't thought of the idea that she might feel her job's falling apart as well as her homelife. If that's the case no wonder she over reacted.

DD will be glad to go back think she's bored to tears at home with mummy LOL even though we've had a nice time swimming, going to soft play, out to lunch and generally having big cuddles and stories

I gues we are ll human, and she is obviously mortified by how she reacted. She sounds like a good person, who just lashed out at the wrong person.

Yes, I agree, take her back. It can't have been easy for the owner to grovel like that.

I said she must have flipped and it's obvious now she did, it must have been an horrendous week for her personally.

Brilliant -you handled it well & she obviously was having a bad week & TOTAlly over -reacted (well we're all human!) but more to the popint she realised what a prat she'd been & has made amends in suitably grovelly fashion

You can now go back graciously with head held high & say nothing even though you are dying to!!!!!

oh great! so delighted to read your posts updating on the situation. i'd def take her back. phew!