I need advice please if I have to raise this to the nursery.
It’s my daughter’s first day back at the nursery after being toilet trained. It’s been days of easy and smooth communicating with her about toileting. She was absent for a month because of sickness. When I picked her up, I was told by the staff that my daughter asked to go to the toilet many times but did not go. I was told by the staff that she told my daughter “it’s enough” at some point, and that she has to wait until they are back inside (because they were in the garden) - she said that was about 20mins. And when they’re back inside, she offered the toilet but my daughter did not go.
I did not know how to react to it until when we got home and my daughter had an urge (she said poopoo) but she did not want to go to the toilet. She was saying “no” and that she was scared. So I did not push her, until she had an accident a few minutes later. A couple of minutes later, I noticed she has an urge to poo, but she did not say anything. I had to ask her and invited her to the toilet (it was successful but with lots of reassurance). And then a few hours later, she said “poo poo” but resisting again to go to the toilet. This time we reassured her and calmed her down and she’s managed to do it.
The incident at the nursery surely had made an impact to my daughter’s confidence in toileting.
I do not think telling a toddler to hold the wee or to wait is appropriate. She is only 2y8m old and she has only been toilet trained for a month. She must be feeling anxious as well because it’s a new environment.
What should I do?