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Formal complaint or not??

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Hyperquiet · 05/05/2025 20:59

So one year old had only been at nursery a month and was bitten really hard on the face by another child.

It has been a month and the mark is big and obvious so I am concerned about it fading and also find it upsetting to look at.

At the time I signed the accident form without reading it properly. I was expecting the mark to go within a week or 2 as I hadn't dealt with this sort of thing before (even though it was really bad at the time).

I was told the bite was intercepted within a few seconds but given the severity am I right to doubt this?

An additional concern i have is the child has bitten before and so is a known biter and it wasn't prevented.

I have raised my concerns about the bite with staff in the room and with a manager over email but the email conversation was a more general email and included that topic so we didnt delve into it much.

Perspective, similar experiences and advice is appreciated.

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Hyperquiet · 15/05/2025 08:52

Hercisback1 · 15/05/2025 06:32

If it makes you feel better, my 1yo bit my 4yo at home. I know the 1yo bites but cannot trail her 24/7. I was there within seconds too, once those teeth clamp down, that's it.

The mark is still on the 4yos arm a month later.

Thanks. This helps reassure that they may well have stopped it quickly but the damage can still occur very quickly.

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CaptainMyCaptain · 16/05/2025 09:55

Hyperquiet · 05/05/2025 21:10

So in my OP I wrote that the child had bitten before so I would think they would have kept a closer eye on the child already as they were a known biter.

Also to reiterate I'm questioning how quickly it was intercepted given the severity of the bite, so I'm interested to hear from other parents whose children have been bitten really hard and it has lasted months - and their perspective on how quickly a severe bite can happen too.

Some child only bite once though. It doesn't necessarily mean they're a serial biter. I don't know what the nursery could gave done. If they put the biter in another room he would just bite someone else.

CurlewKate · 16/05/2025 10:11

Communitywebbing · 12/05/2025 05:12

I’m so sorry OP and anyone else whose child has been injured like this at nursery. Understood that the staff may be unable to prevent biting , but it raises the question of whether theres an affordable alternative to nursery where such things can be prevented.

The only way you can be certain to prevent it is by keeping the child isolated from other children.

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/05/2025 12:39

CurlewKate · 16/05/2025 10:11

The only way you can be certain to prevent it is by keeping the child isolated from other children.

This.

JoyousEagle · 16/05/2025 13:05

Communitywebbing · 12/05/2025 05:12

I’m so sorry OP and anyone else whose child has been injured like this at nursery. Understood that the staff may be unable to prevent biting , but it raises the question of whether theres an affordable alternative to nursery where such things can be prevented.

Such as what?

A pp has described an incident where her own child was sitting on her lap and was bitten by a friend’s child.
I was once sitting on the floor with both my children next to me, and one bit the other quicker than I could intervene to stop it.

Communitywebbing · 16/05/2025 17:57

CurlewKate · 16/05/2025 10:11

The only way you can be certain to prevent it is by keeping the child isolated from other children.

That's so true. Employing a childminder with one or two other children would surely reduce the chances of a biter, but you can't remove the risk altogether without stopping small children interacting with each other.

Communitywebbing · 16/05/2025 20:02

JoyousEagle · 16/05/2025 13:05

Such as what?

A pp has described an incident where her own child was sitting on her lap and was bitten by a friend’s child.
I was once sitting on the floor with both my children next to me, and one bit the other quicker than I could intervene to stop it.

I worded that badly. Should have said she might look for an alternative where the chance of getting bittten is reduced.

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