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Is this allowed? Nursery Workers Husband.

55 replies

PlumFairies · 08/01/2025 20:43

Hi,
An acquaintance of mine is married to someone who was found guilty and went to prison for historic abuse of an underage teenage girl around 8 years ago.
I’ve just found out she is now working in the local nursery. Would an offence like that show up on a DBS check? As although I know she committed no crime she is married to and lives at the same address as one.
I had hoped to sent my LO to that nursery but am having enormous doubts over whether I could put my faith in them to safeguard my child.

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PlumFairies · 09/01/2025 20:54

BeamMeTheFuckUp · 09/01/2025 20:24

The start of the op says it's a teenage girl.

Re-reading the news article I got the information from it says the abuse began age ten.
I understand that she herself has committed no crime but I am still wary that she would choose to associate and even marry this man. As others have said what does this say about her judgement?

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PlumFairies · 09/01/2025 20:57

VegTrug · 09/01/2025 12:59

I prob would have to confront her. Make her question her own decision making. I presume she knows about his conviction??

Yes. She married and had children with him AFTER his conviction.

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Sunshine1500 · 09/01/2025 21:20

you’d think she’d have sleepless nights worrying about her children growing up in a household with him.
what an odd choice of profession when you live with a child abuser.

Hhh97 · 19/03/2025 17:48

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 08/01/2025 22:57

You don’t think that it’s a problem that someone working with small children has the poor judgement to get involved with someone convicted for abuse of children?

Yet I know people who have been on the register for 10 years and then been proven innocent! Not everyone is a bad judge of character sometime it's the system that fails people especially men! It's sad to see as it ruins not only their lives but everyone around them!

MyHazelRaven · 02/05/2025 09:30

It is not her conviction to disclose. Disclosure by association was changed in 2018, so she has no obligation to speak on the matter. It doesn’t reflect her views, morals or character. Although, her partner has a previous conviction, this doesn’t mean she condones this behaviour and has most likely worked with the appropriate services to ensure no reoffending will occur. People have jobs and careers in childcare, they shouldn’t be expected to give up their livelihood because of someone else’s decisions. You have every right to feel uncomfortable, you can choose to not have your child at that nursery but this doesn’t guarantee this won’t happen again and that another school won’t have an association to someone who has committed a sex offence. The only difference is that you know about it.

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