Nursery forgot to change nappy

[Flowerbob94]

Hey, first time posting. Just looking to reach out to hear how other parents would feel about this. My 2 year old daughter attends a council nursery 9am-3pm. Today when we picked her up, her key worker informed us that ‘they forgot to change her nappy’. They only noticed once the nappy had leaked all over her trousers! This was near enough at pick up time so they changed her. I am absolutely fuming. I don’t know how to approach this as I don’t want to annoy any staff members and it result in my daughter being singled out in anyway. The thing is this isn’t the first time the staff have ‘forgot’ something. She has had several courses of antibiotics for chest infections, all correct paperwork done by myself and nursery for administering - and a few times ive been told at pickup, oh we forgot to give her the medicine, she’s only just had it!! Another one which I need to take with a pinch of salt because of her age and how children like to make stories up or exaggerate, is that a certain teacher hit her in the head. How do I approach this 😭

I've never changed a wet nappy past 3 months in the night either! I mean they are asleep , they aren't drinking any fluids during the night so their nappies should be ok. Yes they may have had a bottle before bed but isn't that the whole point of the pampers ads? Leak protection?

Not sure why everyone is arguing about changing a sleeping child's nappy.

This child was awake in nursery and was being neglected. Not changing nappies is neglect. Would you want to sit in your own excrement? I don't think so.

Change nurseries. They are obviously not well organised and it's impacting the children in their care.

Yes absolutely my point being when asleep they shouldn't need a nappy change. During the day when child is eating and drinking they should absolutely be having their nappy changed regularly. Not to do this is neglectful.

Who on earth would want to look after other peoples children after reading this - thankless low pay and parents! - does no one make a mistake

Who on earth would want to look after other peoples children after reading this - thankless low pay and parents! - does no one make a mistake

I use cloth so this would be so uncomfortable to be in the same nappy for over six hours. Mine last two to four depending on how heavily boosted.

I'd be looking for an alternative setting. Repeated forgetfulness across a range of care needs over time indicates poor management and governance. Let alone the head incident.

That's awful. Imagine the weight and feeling of a wet nappy for 6 hours plus!

I would have a meeting and say that this is not acceptable.

I used reusable/washable nappies with mine and one of the things I noticed is that disposable nappies are very easy to spot when they have been filled as the layers of the material used swell up!

Mention everything in a factual manner. There job is to provide 100% care for your child and they are severely lacking.

Changing a nappy is a basic requirement of childcare.

Personally I would find somewhere else .

It's a bit weird....I worked in childcare until recently & nappy changes were done as part of the routine for all the kids. So mid morning/pre nap/post nap. All got done at the same time & obviously individually if they had pooed. It's hard to get how they could forget. Surely they would see it hanging down low!

Seems a bit odd that they don’t have a routine to make sure they don’t forget anyone. The nursery my sons go to have a clip board with a list of all the kids on and just work their way down the list at intervals throughout the day (unless they poop in between obviously) and then tick them off of the list when done.

It's a pretty basic requirement of their job though isn't it? And yes, we know it gets busy with toddlers. Surely the nature of that job?

Not one change in the duration the child was there is neglectful.

@thebestinterest my girls slept through from 10 weeks why on earth would I wake them to change their nappy that's bonkers behaviour. Only on Mumsnet.

I imagine it's because some babies urinate a lot to the point it leaks through their sleepsuit and sleeping bag. Even with the best non-leak brand. Alternatively, maybe it's done in periods of nappy rash like when teething. It doesn't have to be ridiculous or bonkers.

To not change a nappy all day is terrible. They should have a set schedule.

The nursery my son is in has a schedule where they change everyone's nappies at set times - on arrival, 11am, 2pm (after naps) and 4-5ish. Plus any additional changes in between if soiled.

This also means it's not on someone to 'remember' if a child has been changed or not that day. They are all done at set intervals

You need to move nurseries and report this one to ofsted