Sickness

[aliatalia2]

My nursery accuses me of deliberately sending a sick child there, however I didn't know he was sick because he was fine in the morning. The nursery manager tells me off all the time for something or the other. I pay £85pd to send him there and sometimes it feels like they pay me to take him. Are all nurseries like this?

Taking a sick child in to a nursery where they give the illness to others is kind of the same as walking in and slapping half the children across the face. You are deliberately causing children pain and distress, albeit indirectly. I hope you get asked to leave before you permanently hurt one.

OP, as a parent that spends thousands of pounds on childcare I can reassure you that I don’t give my child calpol and just send to nursery, hoping I’ve “fooled” the nursery workers. I used majority of my accrued annual leave after maternity to cover my DDs constant illnesses, and have had to look after her even on occasions when she didn’t look very ill to me but the nursery didn’t want to accept her back.
Your attitude is pretty irresponsible to be honest, and it’s because of parents like you that other children catch all types of illnesses constantly. Yes, we all want our children to acquire immunity, but I don’t want my child to be ill non stop due to another parents bad parental choices.

And how do you know that your child is not struggling during the day and do you not feel sorry for the poor little thing?The 4 hour rule that you’ve mentioned is ridiculous by the way so you are better off changing your methods for measuring how ill your child is.

I hope to leave too, but they are forcing me to stay

I don't give my child calpol and send them to nursery / childminder / school when they're unwell. No, not everyone does this. I would actually dislike you if my child played with yours as you're purposely putting my child at risk of getting unwell. It's similar to when you planned a play date on a Saturday, if your child is unwell, you cancel and I would cancel if mine was.

If my child has a temp, they stay at home because I wouldn't go to work when I have a temperature. Would you?

You shouldn't be sending your daughter in if she is that sick, the poor thing! That's horrible. Let alone, you'll also be passing the bug to others

In what way?

They make you still for the whole term even if you want to leave

Does 'still' mean 'stay'? They might charge you for the full term but they can't force you to bring your (sick) child to nursery.

And believe me, the staff absolutely know the 'Calpol' parents. That's why temperatures are always checked around 11am. We're seldom wrong and home they go!

Wow this thread is terrifying OP I really hope there are not that many parents like you. I'm thankful that I know many parents with nursery kids and I'm pretty confident none of them so this.

My son goes to nursery! We both work full time. If he is sick we do not cover it up. We look after him and make it work with leave / emergency leave or just juggling

My son brought home a sickness bug late last year it couldn't have been prevented and I am sure no one sent their kid in knowing they had it but it hospitalised my mother seriously so please don't assume adults have higher immunity and get less sick. You don't know who everybody lives with.

You're not fooling your nursery. We know our children very well, just as well as the parent does if they do a lot of hours with the setting. We know if a child isn't themselves. They might not have a temperature but they are sad and clingy or quiet and sleepy. Most of the time those children then get a temperature before lunch time.

The younger the child the quicker whatever they have spreads around their peers. A sick child takes staff away from other children and stops everyone doing planned activities because an adult is tied up with the sick one. If young children get temperatures over 40C it can be dangerous, especially if parents haven't brought in calpol or similar to give them to help bring the temperature down.

Staff also get sick with some illness. Yes, most have a degree of immunity but not every time. This impacts ratios and the care of the children if they have unfamiliar staff covering. Staff don't get sick pay. Staff pass it to their own children then need longer off themselves to care for their own children.

Parents of other children need to take time off.

Basically if your child is unwell be the parent and do your job and care for them. They just want to be at home and cuddled up with a parent. It's part of working when you have young children.

Are you really that arrogant and selfish?

You are fooling nobody. You’re masking an illness and putting everybody else’s health at risk. You’re the only fool.

By the way, children tell staff they’ve been given medicine. At nursery age they don’t lie. They will probably also repeat that you told them not to tell them. No wonder the manager is pissy with you.