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Teacher slapped my kid

63 replies

NarminM · 25/09/2022 21:00

Hi! My DS has been going to a nursery for a year now and he loved it. Until recently. He started to tell he doesn’t like one of the teachers. I didn’t pay much attention, thought it’s fine, he doesn’t have to like everyone. You always have most and least favourite teachers. But the situation started to get worse, he started to tell he is scared of her. Then he told she is always angry with him. I still thought he was imagining things, didn’t want to accuse anyone but yesterday he told she even slapped him once😳 I talked to his friend’s mom, she asked her son and he confirmed something really happened there. I have no idea how should I act now. I am going to talk with his key worker tomorrow for sure, but should I go further to the head teacher and complain or what?

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Cillery · 25/09/2022 21:03

Slapping a nursery child is not allowed, whatever our personal views on CP. Quite simple. You have every right for complaint. But I’d begin with a quiet word.

cstx89 · 25/09/2022 21:06

Oh gosh ur poor wee boy. Nurseries are meant to be a safe and loving environment. Absolutely speak to key worker out of respect for her role but u need to speak to head teacher as that is assault! Goodness who else she has done it to. The school will need to investigate and possibly interview your child and any witnesses. The teacher may be suspended during this period.

EspressoPatronumm · 25/09/2022 21:07

Are you sure this actually happened?

NC12345665 · 25/09/2022 21:08

but should I go further to the head teacher and complain or what

How are you even asking this?

Sandy89xx · 25/09/2022 21:24

My kid wouldn't be going back there ....

Shinyandnew1 · 25/09/2022 21:29

Is this a nursery that’s part of a state school?

Obviously this is an extremely serious allegation. Phone the HT and ask for an appointment as soon as possible.

Wolfiefan · 25/09/2022 21:31

How old are they? A nursery or a school?
Whichever I wouldn’t be sending my child in until I had found out what happened.

KeepOutingMyselfAnotherNameChange · 25/09/2022 21:54

Wolfiefan · 25/09/2022 21:31

How old are they? A nursery or a school?
Whichever I wouldn’t be sending my child in until I had found out what happened.

100% this

BadGranny · 25/09/2022 22:01

This is in the USA, right? It’s legal to use physical punishment from pre-school upwards in some US states. It’s not legal at all in the U.K.

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:06

EspressoPatronumm · 25/09/2022 21:07

Are you sure this actually happened?

Something has definitely happened, as he is quite a happy boy and almost never complains, enjoys being at the nursery and loves his friends there. Not wanting to go to nursery and telling he is scared is concerning.

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:07

BadGranny · 25/09/2022 22:01

This is in the USA, right? It’s legal to use physical punishment from pre-school upwards in some US states. It’s not legal at all in the U.K.

It’s in the UK

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Banana2079 · 25/09/2022 23:07

I’d call the police

Skelligsfeathers · 25/09/2022 23:08

This didn't happen

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:08

Wolfiefan · 25/09/2022 21:31

How old are they? A nursery or a school?
Whichever I wouldn’t be sending my child in until I had found out what happened.

He is 4 and half, it’s a public nursery, also a part of primary school

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:09

Shinyandnew1 · 25/09/2022 21:29

Is this a nursery that’s part of a state school?

Obviously this is an extremely serious allegation. Phone the HT and ask for an appointment as soon as possible.

Yeah. Its a part of public school. I think I am going to talk to the head teacher tomorrow morning and ask for investigation

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:11

Skelligsfeathers · 25/09/2022 23:08

This didn't happen

Why of a sudden should a kid be scared of going to nursery that he enjoyed for a year? Something has definitely happened.

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Ladybyrd · 25/09/2022 23:12

No. You need to see the nursery manager, not the key worker, and tell them you want to see the cctv.

Skelligsfeathers · 25/09/2022 23:12

If he's 4 and a half and at a state school in the uk, he is not going to be in nursery.

titchy · 25/09/2022 23:13

Skelligsfeathers · 25/09/2022 23:12

If he's 4 and a half and at a state school in the uk, he is not going to be in nursery.

Could be in Scotland...

quietnightmare · 25/09/2022 23:14

Do whatever you need to do to get to the bottom of this. Is there cctv ?

ladydimitrescu · 25/09/2022 23:15

Well obviously don't send him back there??

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:19

titchy · 25/09/2022 23:13

Could be in Scotland...

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We’re in Scotland, yes. He’ll be in Primary next year.

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JingsMahBucket · 25/09/2022 23:21

BadGranny · 25/09/2022 22:01

This is in the USA, right? It’s legal to use physical punishment from pre-school upwards in some US states. It’s not legal at all in the U.K.

Are you high? Or just xenophobic or ignorant? Of course that isn’t legal in the US. WTAF.

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NarminM · 25/09/2022 23:22

Ladybyrd · 25/09/2022 23:12

No. You need to see the nursery manager, not the key worker, and tell them you want to see the cctv.

I was thinking of head teacher of the school the nursery is part of. I will ask for investigation. I can’t see the cctv as I don’t know exactly when this happened. His fears started a while ago. But I hope they would watch?? Should I involve the police as mentioned above?

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toomuchlaundry · 25/09/2022 23:24

Unlikely to be CCTV.

Unlikely that the teacher was only adult in the room