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My son is not settling into nursery and I am really struggling

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Lxi29 · 10/01/2022 10:29

My DS (just turned 2) started nursery last week and my DD (3.5) already attends. He knows the teachers and some of the children already from 'stay and play' sessions which he has always enjoyed.

However, since starting it is just getting worse and worse. He will only stay for an hour and I hide in the staff room and it's only about 5 minutes till he starts screaming for me.

He hates other children coming near him, tries to smack and throw toys at them, especially if they are interested in something he is playing with and the teachers can't comfort him, he will scream and scream for me.

Covid had a massive knock on us as my DD went to play groups from being born but DS didn't get this chance. He is very much a "mummy's boy" and we have no family support so he doesn't really know anything besides being with family. DD isn't interested in him at nursery but luckily he isn't bothered whether she is with him or not.

I just feel mortified when he starts screaming and hitting children who even come near him 😳 how can I stop this? We always encourage "gentle hands" nd being kind but his behaviour doesn't improve. DD was never like this and she is so sweet and loving I feel so worried he will never settle

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Cornettoninja · 11/01/2022 19:59

That sounds like great progress @Lxi29, I’m really pleased for you both Smile

Don’t be discouraged by any set backs, he’s showing you what he’s capable of but we all have bad days.

Roselilly36 · 12/01/2022 07:22

That’s great news Flowers

ManchesterTartwithCustard · 12/01/2022 08:37

Oh I am so pleased your little boy is getting there. Early on reading your post and the responses it made me cry, why is that? I don't have any children so can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be for you. I am so relieved to imagine him settling in. I 'll stop crying now!

Prachiti · 24/04/2024 18:46

My 2 years old daughter is not getting settled in nursery as soon as she reached the area she started to cry and scream 😔.she doesn't want to go to school .when we take the name of teacher,school, nursery she says no 'i dont want to go and start to cry. It's been a month now she is still in same phase .Teacher take her in and within 10 mins I get a call saying she is crying.we trying hard to settled down but nothing works out. Do we need to try somewhere else and change the nursery or we give her another try in same nursery.
I am concerned about her social interaction with people.

Rabbitsarebraver · 24/04/2024 19:36

@Prachiti

you need to start your own thread and not comment on old ones, people won’t see it and be able to offer advice

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