Who puts there lo's in nursery - even if you are having the week off work?

[Ceebee74]

Just wondering how many people do this as I can't get my head round it.

Me and Dh are having a week off in early July and can't decide whether to still take DS (11 months) to nursery on the 3 days he would normally go.

I can see why people do it - time to themselves, you have to pay for the place anyway, don't disrupt their routine - but it just feels weird for me to let someone else look after my child when I am available to do it - but is this me being over-protective and should I relax and me and DH enjoy some 'couple' time for a change?

I'm a SAHM and put DSs into nursery for 2 full days a week from when they turned 2. No qualms at all!

I would do half and half probably. In fact, this very afternoon I am off for a nice prolonged lunch and wander round the shops with dh - dd will be in nursery thinking I am still at work

I need to do it to stay sane and for me and dh's relationship. However, it did feel strange the first few times I did it.

I also put her in nursery if we are decorating/getting carpets cleaned etc.

My dd goes to nursery 2 days a week - me and dh are on holiday this week and absolutely she's still going!

We're working on the garden in the morning, and tomorrow I'm getting my haircut and then having lunch and going to the cinema with dh in the afternoon! We've got to pay for her to go anyway, so we're making the most of 2 whole days together

DS has been going to nursery for well over a year for 1.5 days per week...and I don't work!

We started sending him when I was planning to return to work, but when I changed my mind about going back we decided to carry on with it as he enjoys going and it gives me a chance to do the housework, and go to butchers, veg shop etc. Now I am 33wks pregnant I am just grateful of a chance to put my feet up for little while

depends whether you and dp are having the time off to do stuff - decorating, gardening etc, in which case still send him - or to spend time as a family in which case keep him with you.
I have 12m and 2.5yo and no family support at weekends (or during the week as no one near) so the only time we can get anything done is taking a day off and sending them to nursery.

Treat it as an opportunity to spend some quality time as a couple - the benefits of this cannot be underestimated.

We aren't planning on doing anything round the house - we just decided we would both have a week off work when the weather is nice (hopefully) and I can watch Wimbledon .

So I guess we just need to reach a compromise and decide how many of the 3 days DS will go to nursery so we can have 'couple' time (although I have forgotten what this is and what to do ) - as another poster said, we have no family support at all so this would be the first time we have been without DS in 11 months!!

cb74 I just did a cat thingy. I get around so many playgroups and mums groups that you'd probably go 'oh no its her'
Wouldn't want to intrude on your first baby free time in 11m though!!
But hey back to the thread - I wouldn't agree the nursery 'timetable' in advance, just agree that each day you will take her in maybe a bit later than usual, if at all. I bet you take her there at least part of every day though!

Flibberty - I never did the baby groups because they all seem to be on a Wednesday or Thursday which are the days I work.

I don't work Mondays or Tuesdays so we could meet up then - or if you know of any baby groups on these days, I would be very interested - finding it hard to keep DS entertained these days!

Mine are at nursery Mon Tue Wed, I work those days and sometimes thursday (thanks grandma!!) but can let you know some playgroups etc lots early in the week. Or a meet up on Fri and let them all kill each other hee hee.
I dont' want to put my email here as its my RL name, can you cat me or put your email address?

I put DD in nursery for a couple of days when I am off work. I use the time to chill, sleep, catch up with house work etc. Enjoy your time off, you never have enough of it!

I'll put my son in for a short day and use the time to clean the house and just enjoy myself for a few hours.

I'll take him out about 3 and then we'll go to the park or round to a friend's for tea.

He really enjoys his nursery and I really enjoy being with him but I also like having a bit of time on my own or just with my husband.

I don't think having a more relaxed mummy does him any harm.

Yep, I often do - his nursery days are fixed while my work days aren't so often I have free day while he's at nursery and will use the day for cleaning, shopping, writing...or faffing on MN a bit :-)...then pick him up a bit earlier. He loves nursery, I couldn't possibly deprive him of it :-)

Ceebee,

Keeping your relationship with your dh strong and cosy by having a bit of time alone together can only be good for your ds in the long run. Don't feel guilty.