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Urgent: My 15 month old kid has been bitten by another kid....angry

46 replies

wotuc · 10/05/2012 14:44

Just found out my 15 month has been bitten by a kid after he apparently scratched the kid. My question is where were they and why did they not stop this in the first place. Wheneevr my kid is playing with other kids I am there to make sure that these things dont' happen. what were they doing. No I have heard that I have to sign some kind of form which I don't want to sign

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monkeymoma · 10/05/2012 14:46

the form is simply to say you are aware, why wouldn't you sign it?

not enough info to say if there is a management problem or not

ripsishere · 10/05/2012 14:47

Get used to it is my advice. In a nursery setting, children can't be supervised as closely as they can by their parents.
Sorry it has happened, but I doubt it will be the last time.

LowFlyingBirds · 10/05/2012 14:47

What is the form?

SquishyCinnamonSwirls · 10/05/2012 14:47

You need to calm down and find out what happened. Children do these kind of things, in the blink of an eye, and regardless of the setting or who's caring for them they will still happen.
I'm assuming this is at a childcare facility of some kind? In which case, find out exactly what happened. Yes you will also be expected to sign an accident/incident form to say that you acknowledge what you have been told and that it happened there.

fuckarama · 10/05/2012 14:48

Well, your child scratched the other kid.

Bet the other parent is fuming too.

HereIGo · 10/05/2012 14:49

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JollyGoodFun · 10/05/2012 14:50

You can really make sure that these things don't happen when your child is playing under your supervision? In my experience, children are fast and the only way to avoid possible situations like this would be to stand between my child and all others.

The nursery are now aware that this child is a biter and will be watching them very closely and working with their parents to try to ensure that this doesn't happen again. Presumably they will also be working with you and your child to ensure that your 15 month old does not scratch other children again.

I can understand that you're upset about it, but you are being unreasonable.

Bucharest · 10/05/2012 14:52

Your kid started it.

YABU and hysterically precious, given the circumstances.

CaptainHetty · 10/05/2012 14:52

With all the best will in the world you'll never ever completely prevent things like this from happening. Can almost guarantee this isn't going to be the last time your child has a run in with another... Signing the accident form is standard, there's really no reason for you to refuse to do it. But if you have concerns over the safety of the childcare setting then you should find out exactly what happened. Calm down first, though, don't go in angry.

NagooIsBuildingAnArk · 10/05/2012 14:52

Ask your questions.

But they are 15MO, you need to calm down.

I am not happy when I see a scratch on my PFB, his is 5. At 5 the other child can take responsibility, and in my eyes there is 'blame'. At 15MO the other child is still a baby, and you can't go apportioning blame.

A nursery worker has 4(?) DC to watch at a time. These things can happen in an instant. They were aware of what happened, they drew your attention to it. If they had not noticed I'd say that there was more to worry about.

SarkyWench · 10/05/2012 14:53

A friend of mine got quite upset when given a similar form at nursery when her dd was bitten. Then she was given a second form to inform her that her ds had bitten another child. :)
(they are twins)

TheGruffalosbitch · 10/05/2012 14:55

You would have hated both of my ds's they were both biters and they were quick! What do u want the nursery to do? Put the other child in solitary or put a muzzle on him? Let's hope your child never becomes a biter and if he does then I hope the victims parents are more understanding than you are!

Eglu · 10/05/2012 14:55

I know it is upsetting but you do need to calm down. These things will happen in a nursery environment. The form will be an accident form that you sign to say that they have told you what happened.

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wotuc · 10/05/2012 14:56

sorry just to clear up confusion I don't agree with biting, pushing scratching, kicking shoving etc. If I were there I would have stopped my child scratching another child-this nursery is a very quiet nursery i.e. not too many kids why can't they handle the few kids they have?

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NagooIsBuildingAnArk · 10/05/2012 14:57

Do you never let your DC play at more than arm's length then OP?

monkeymoma · 10/05/2012 14:57

I don't think you can always prevent it even on 1:1 play dates! they're quick, what do you do? sit between them? at some point you have to let kids play together

DialMforMummy · 10/05/2012 14:59

Last week my DS bit another child. I am sorry to say that he is a bit of a biter, a tendency we are trying to stop with limited success.
Things happen quickly and I think you are over reacting about a quite common albeit unpleasant incident in a nursery setting. Not signing the form won't change what happened you know.

ripsishere · 10/05/2012 15:00

My DD had a piece of flesh almost taken out of her upper arm by a playmate. She has a lovely scar but that's what children do.

GooseyLoosey · 10/05/2012 15:03

Both my children got bitten at nursery. I do remember being very shocked the first time but on discovering my owb children were not the angels I mnight have hoped for, I learned to live with it. It is not nice hearing your baby has been hurt, but it does happen in any setting where children are left to interact with each other and you will have to get used to it if you intend to leave your baby at nursery.

CaptainHetty · 10/05/2012 15:03

You'll not be there to stop your child every time unless you're constantly next to them. Even less so when there's more than on under your supervision. Kids act up. It happens.

At least they noticed and informed you, it's not like they're not accepting any responsibility.

CaptainHetty · 10/05/2012 15:04

*more than one

debka · 10/05/2012 15:04

My DD bit my friend's son last month. We were both holding our babies. It happens!

Eglu · 10/05/2012 15:07

I'm sure the nursery do stop children from hitting, pushing scratching, whatever, but as others say it is not always possible to be on top of them.

I know how you feel as it happened to my pfb when he was 3. The same child did it to him 3 days in a row. I was incredibly upset, but until you have a biter you don't understand it.

lilbreeze · 10/05/2012 15:10

Dd2 has bitten dd1 several times, sometimes when I was within a metre of them, but it happened so quickly I didn't have time to stop her.

Neither of them have ever bitten or been bitten at nursery. These things happen and some children do go through a biting phase.

seeker · 10/05/2012 15:11

"-this nursery is a very quiet nursery i.e. not too many kids why can't they handle the few kids they have?"

Because presumably it isn't one adult per child? That's the only way you could be sure this would never happen. And even then.....