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dd1's nursery teacher keeps calling her by the wrong name

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nailpolish · 09/02/2006 16:49

on the way home from playgroup today dd1 told me her playgroup teacher keeps calling her by the wrong name

its dd2's name, and the said teachers has mentioned to me she used to have another child by dd2's name who was very like dd1, so i can see why she maybe gets confused but dd1's been there over 8 mths now!

and dd1 is now getting upset

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coppertop · 09/02/2006 19:07

It sounds as though the teacher may well have a problem with remembering faces. I have similar difficulties and dh often jokes that if there is such a thing as 'face-blindness' then I must have it. It doesn't matter how often I see the person. Their face just becomes almost featureless IYSWIM. I've even been known to walk straight past relatives because I just didn't 'see' them.

It sounds as though the teacher is using visual prompts to help her to get round this. Name-badges sound like a good idea.

Blandmum · 09/02/2006 19:11

coppertop, facial agnosia.

It is rare , but real.

have a look at this site

agnosia

coppertop · 09/02/2006 19:17

I've just had a quick look at the link, MB. Recognising people by their hairstyle, glasses etc is what I do all the time. Interesting to see that it's thought to be linked to AS/ASD, especially considering our family history.

Blandmum · 09/02/2006 19:23

The person I knew with it was a research associate at Oxford, who had a Fullbright grant....amazingly clever and analytical. She was poor on directions as well

This teachers sounds as if she is using quite compex stratagies....I'm sure it isn't because she is wilfully rude over this. She sounds as if she is trying very hard to sort it as best she can

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nailpolish · 10/02/2006 13:07

i spoke to her and she was a bit embarrassed, upset, i told her not to be upset, nobody is perfect and i understand her reasons for getting confused. i just told her i wanted to mention it to her, etc etc etc

she didnt really say very much, just apologised

i hope i havent upset her too much

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nailpolish · 10/02/2006 13:10

they are doing letters of their name in playgroup next week, so i predict name badges etc, i just hope she gets the right name taught to her!

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getbakainyourjimjams · 11/02/2006 03:54

I do think it sounds as if she has a problem (espcially if she was upset rather than embarrassed). Writing down what children are wearing when there are 5 children is odd.

cece · 11/02/2006 07:22

personally when I can't remember the kids names I call them sweetheart! The boys love it!

cece · 11/02/2006 07:23

or I ask another child discretly what their name is.

julienetmum · 13/02/2006 23:18

I am awful at remembering names, and even worse at describing people. I hate it when parents start to talk to me and I don't know which child they belong to or even what they look like. I do only see them once a week though and by the time the children have been with us for about 12 months I know who they are.

I am also the same with new people at the NCT coffee morning. It takes me a good 6 months before I am confident with recognising new people.

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 13/02/2006 23:25

Everyone always spells Ds's name wrong...

Johnathan
Jonathon
Jonnathan

Its Jonathan - not difficult!!

littlemisspiggy · 15/02/2006 16:23

Tamba, my DH's name is the same and spelled the same as your DS and he gets the same problem!!

DominiConnor · 16/02/2006 00:05

My junior school kept calling me O'Connor, and due to a sad bit of Irish history, we had the O taken away a few generations ago.
With all the pedantry of that age, I was virulent about my initial. Turns out however that I'd been mis-spelling my middle name until the age of 19. My 13 year old sister had filled out the form wrong, and years later my A level certs had ended up in slightly the wrong name. The Uni had my birth cert and when it saw the error assumed at first that I was an imposter
We laughed about it afterwards.

bluebear · 16/02/2006 00:37

HIJACK - sorry

Coppertop - I have the 'face blindness' thing too - I recognise people by the way they move, clothes, and location..I find it most upsetting that I can't 'see' dh's face in my head - I know the general shape but it's all fuzzy. Dh finds it amusing to pause the video with certain actors on TV (ones I watch every week) and say 'who is that then?'
I wonder if I don't look at faces properly - or whether it is just a brain thing.

Back to the subject - there's an worker at dd's nursery (on Bank so not there everyday) who calls dd a hybrid name - part ds's name and partly dd's - it's not a real name..but even though I call dd loudly by her name in front of her, this woman hasn't cottoned on - so I'm going to have to talk to her....she's calling my little one Keegan! Does she think I named her after Kevin?

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