Are you from a huggy family?

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Are you from a huggy family?

No one in my family has hugged me, ever, if I remember correctly.
I look at other people’s families and wish I was part of their family. Mine live away and I rarely see them anyway.

No, hugging is very much something I had to learn the social conventions of as an adult. My family show love in other ways and we are close. Just not big into hugs.

No.
That funny elbow thing in Covid was a relief for us all, after years of awkward half hugs and hand shakes!

Yes, we are incredibly huggy.

Young adult children still living at home give hugs at least a dozen times in the day.

When leaving my parents or siblings it’s a running joke that it takes a half hour to get out the door due to the many rounds of goodbye hugs (and we see them every week).

I’m sorry OP if your family don’t show affection the way you would like them to. Do they show their love in other ways? Do you have other people in your life you could get a hug from if you needed to?

Nope. Very much a ‘stiff upper lip’ family here.

We're all huggers and I love it, best bit is my teenage niece and nephew still give me a hug every time I see them no matter where we are

Yes my family is. I still hug and kiss my parents, so does my sister, I tell them all I love them. My dad’s mum was not affectionate to him and he vowed never to be that way with us.

Dh’s family are not huggers. I’ve never seen Fil hug any of his children or say I love you to them, even when Mil passed away no hugs of comfort were offered. Dh makes sure he hugs and shows love to our children now as like my dad he didn’t want to be that way with his kids.

No. I think DM used to hug me when I was a toddler but I don’t remember it. Me and my Dad used to gently punch each other and looking back it was our way of showing affection! We haven’t done that since I was about 11-12 though.

I hugged the DDs all the time but it kind of faded out when they were grumpy teens. Still hug them now if they’re upset and maybe it has more impact because it’s not usual for us.

When I was a kid yes my parents and relatives hugged me.

Now I am an adult I have had to go to fairly ridiculous extremes to avoid it. I loathe being touched by anyone and the ‘huggy’ types don’t ever take that on board. I have literally had to invent the need to use the toilet when they are leaving, I have avoided some situations where it would be awkward to say something etc.

Tbh, as shit as lockdown was in some ways, social distancing was amazing!

Not all but since I’ve had DC we are now all very huggy which is lovely

Same here - even if there is a death in the family. None of us are huggers.

Not at all. My mum loves a goodbye hug now but I don’t remember her being overly cuddly when I was a child, altho she was a lovely mum; all baking and reading etc. She had lots of children so was probably touched out constantly 😂 One brother is a hugger but the rest of my brothers and sisters, I could probably count on one hand how many times I’ve hugged each of them 😅
The family I’m raising though, my children, they’ll say otherwise. Very huggy, very openly affectionate and I tell them all the time what great little people they are and how much I love them, and their dad. I’m not a hugger generally though, and most people around me know that!

Not at all. Very close, very loving, but not physical. I don't think it's done me any harm.

No, but I’m affectionate with my own child.

Yes all through childhood. And has continued and I’m 58 now! My Dh family not huggy at all and I found/find it very strange.

My parents and sister all say “love you” a lot and Dh has no memory of this with his family. My Dc and I say “love you” multiple times a day. Hug them loads. Hugging is one of my favourite things.

Interestingly though Dh would describe himself as close to his family and no doubt that they loved him (his parents are dead now).

Out of curiosity, do you tell each other that you love them. We don’t really verbalise it in our family.

God no!!!
But different with my daughter - l tell her regularly and l hug her too.

Not a hugger, apart from DH, brother and MIL. Anyone else i dodge. Can't bear having hugs forced on me and will say " Sorry, not a hugger". If they still come at me I will move away. ✋️

Not from a hugging family and am not a hugger much. Although there are two people at work I have given hugs to when they got bad news and I was the first person they told.

Outside of that some of my friends hug me if we are all going home after a weekend away.

I had a nightmare at a recent wedding where the Bride introduced me to her extended family. They all believed in hugs over handshakes😫

With ‘my’ family, ie my husband and kids, yes, we love a hug and we say ‘I love you’ all the time and with ease. With the wider family ie siblings/in laws/parents - no never.

I’m happy to hug my closest friends, but loathe hugging the wider circle.

Absolutely not. Men shook hands, and women just fudged it!
Now I'm lucky, and I don't have a family, so it's just me and my husband, and we mostly hug or kiss our friends (altho a few of the guys still stick to handshakes - I think that's just a generational thing).

No, there was no physical affection at all growing up, I love a hug and being tactile with the people I love.

Very much so. I still give a kiss and a hug to my parents every time I see them. DD16 has always had physical affection. DP's family weren't huggy and he loves that we are.

Zero hugs. But I feel very close to all my family, know they have my back, enjoy spending time with them, just not huggers.

No I wasn’t from a huggy family, or a family that said ‘I love you.’

My mum hugged us, dad didnt. After he died, I found a letter he wrote to my mum saying as children they were encouraged not to show emotion. He didnt really have any extremes - he was never super happy or excited, but rarely lost his temper. Quite good or a bit disappointing were basically the standard.
I remember years after the event he once told me he was "elated" about something I did, and it meant the absolute world to me!
DH family are very huggy/tactile.
I love hugs, but DD has not like hugs since she was about 11. If she is extremely upset she might ask for one, but otherwise a rub on the arm or a heartshape with our hands is our affection. She finds it hard when we see DH family and she gets lots of hugs. Teen DS is very huggy. He gave me a hug in the street once when he was about 10 and my ndn was quite appalled! 🤣