Homelessness

[Bubbzie]

Hi this is my 1st time on here so don't no if I'm doing this right lol. I'm wanting advice/help etc as I'm currently homeless & my 2 teenage daughters have had to go & live with their grandparents. I haven't not got the financal resources or any family support of any kind to be able to secure accommodation & the area I live has no hostels or emergency accommodation & the council are useless, they want to put me into a homeless hostel over 50miles away & takes over 2 hours on public transport to get from there to the area I'm from & where my children live & it costs over £42 in travel costs which I can't afford. I can't take much more I've tried everything & everyone I can think is of for help (including several emails & a phone call to our now old prime minister) So please if you no of anything or anyone that can help me please contact me. Thanks for taking the time to read Claire x

Can you stay with children and grand parents too? Then claim over crowding?

You need your children to live with you so that you're a higher priority for council help.

Hi no it's my ex's parents I don't have any family, my dad was in the army for over 24 years & when he left he had a huge bleed on his brain & has to have 24 hour care, is paralysed & like a child now. If my dad wasn't the way he is I wouldn't be in this situation. But I have No1 to turn to. I've even tried every army charity I could find but because I'm not my dad's carer I can't get help off them which I think is disgusting as I hardly had a normal childhood moving all over every 2 years, checking under my dad's car for bombs isn't quite the norm is it ha. Rishi sunak was quick enough to bring every tom,dick & harry into our country & house them whilst we have more homeless people now than ever. & Because I live in Richmond north Yorkshire there's no accommodation here for homeless

Where are you living right now ?

It's a shit system but, if your council are anything like mine, then turning down the emergency housing means they'll take you off the list for help

I no but because I had nowhere for me & my kids to go I sent them to stay with my ex's parents & when the council spoke to them they told the council the kids could stay with them till I found somewhere to live. I had to put my kids 1st so now because I was truthful with the council I'm now not an emergency to them.

Don't be blaming immigrants for your problems. Many come here with little money or education and still manage to find a job and provide for themselves.

Why can't you rent your own place? Do you not work?

Get your kids and go and sit at your local council until somebody sees you! Tell them it won't work for your kids staying with the grandparents.
Tell the grandparents to say that it's not going to work with them there and they are kicking them out.
It's the only way you'll get help. They won't help you without kids

Well let's be honest.... a lot of the housing situation is due to the amount of immigrants in this country

I'm living on a friend's sofa for the next 2 weeks at least I'm in Richmond north Yorkshire & yes my council are absolutely shit. Honestly every time I come out of there I come out crying with temper & I feel like they tell I've got to do this that & the other & I go then then it's something else & they no I've got several health & mental health problems, which includs anxiety, panic attacks & being in closed spaces especially if there's a lot of people are about. It's like they are setting me up to fail. I mean come on sending me over 50 miles away from my kids! That's a joke x

Whoa I never tried to blame immigrants at all I blamed Rishi sunak so let's nip that in the bud right now. & What are you trying to say?? It must be my fault as to why I've nowhere to live, it must be because I don't work, am lazy etc etc?? I don't need to & nor am I going to write my story on a public social media platform. But believe me it's not because of any of them reasons why I'm in this situation & anyone who genuinely wants to help, give advice or genuinely wants to hear someone's story if you message me I'll gladly tell them what has happened. But as for anyone who just wants to look down on someone who's less fortunate then don't bother messaging me

Yes because like I said you no me & my story so, so well don't u?? I didn't & don't want any sympathy

You must go on sites like this all the time looking for someone who's going through the toughest times in there lives & think to yourself let me tear this person apart abit more & try & make them feel worse about themselves & there situations than what they already do! Because why else would you even bother to comment. Thought my life was sad at the moment well you've made me feel awhile better about myself because at least I'm not bitter like you obviously are?

What has me saying every tom, dick & harry got to do with anything? How does that make me blame immigrants for anything? I've worked from being 14 years old, had private education (because my dad was in the British army for over 24 years) I'm a trained level 3 hairdresser, colour & hair extention technician so I've paid taxes all my life. Like I said you don't no me, my story or anything Ive been through & this is no pity party.

Could you move in with your dad?

I’m sorry that you’re in this situation, OP. You’ve done really well ensuring that your teenagers are safe living with their grandparents and presumably can continue attending their school or college.

As they’re safe, I’d focus on getting yourself into work so you can eventually find housing. Could your friend put you up while you look for work?

That's what I mean OMG I didn't blame immigrants I blamed Rishi sunak. & It's not because of any desions I made as to why I'm in this situation. & Believe me I never thought for 1 minute that I would be living & being in this situation it can happen to anyone for many, many different reasons through no fault if their own. & I didn't want yours or any1 else's sympathy I asked if any1 could give me advice or help? It was my 1st time on this site & thanks to you it will be my last as I didn't come on here for judgement or thinking that I'm a benefit bum, who's never worked a day in my life, when the past year is the 1st year since I was 14years old that I haven't worked even when I had my daughter I went back to work when she was just 6 weeks old. Just remember we all have a story & EVERYONES IS DIFFERENT. & I apologise that I've got physical & mental health problems now & for the 1st time ever I've had to claim benefits for the last 6months. & I hope u have a nice life also

Hi thanks Hun it's nice to have a nice comment. Yes my girls are safe still going to college & school still see them everyday & they were & are my 1st priority x

Hi Hun no I wish I could live with him but my dad's in full time care now. Honestly this is breaking me I don't no how much more I can take I've never lived like this in my life it's definitely been a bump down to earth

are your benefits paying enough or are you struggling since going on them? Would you be able to find some remote work to top benefits up if this is possible? Something where you can work from home? If you can do that alongside a universal credit top up that might put you in a position where you’re able to private rent? X

Spend your energies applying for jobs

Are you on the housing register?
The place that's 50 miles away could you get a job there ?
Will the council not make a discretionary payment for a deposit & months rent in advance?
Just a few ideas, it's really hard out there these days

Hey, I'm so sorry your going through this. I'm homeless and I'm temp accommodation rn too. If you do what I'm about to tell you, they will have to help you. Tell them that your ex's grandparents have kicked the children out. They will phone them to confirm this so tell them to confirm it and stay firm on it bc they will try to bribe them with money ect to keep the kids a bit longer. But if they stay firm and say NO we can no longer keep them, then you and the kids will be a priority and by law they will have to put you in emergency housing. They will scare you at first by saying we will place you in another city, it won't be suitable for living ect ect but you just stay firm and say okay. Trust me they won't even send you that far esp considering your father. But be prepared for the worst and even if they do send you far you will have to agree to it. Ik it will be hard but it will be temporary. I was only in emergency housing for a week before they put me in temporary accommodation. But you need to keep your children with you only then you will get help.