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[resentfulsecondwife]

hello,
I have been off mums net for several years, can someone tell me how to start a thread? I've come back on mums net because I need to talk anonymously and freely about problematic shit.

I need a hand hold, I am really feeling down today . We are a family of 5, with three kids under 6. My husband has been made redundant last week and tomorrow is his last day. I was on maternity leave and my company got closed and they made a collective redundancy. So we both are jobless with heavy mortgages and loans to pay. We both bought our dream house in 2021. However the interest rates raised so much that we are living so frugally even then was just managing the expenses, however from tomorrow we both are clueless. We have been applying for jobs since January and nothing working our. Applying a lot of jobs using various portals and directly on the companies website however nothing is working out. I want to cry and don't know how to fix these. my husband is in IT and I am in operations. Suddenly overnight I feel everything is upside down. How are we going to manage everything. We have some savings to run the mortgages for 6 months maximum.and.thats all we have. Sorry for.the.rant. i got married in 2017 and it's been 6 years span, in these years I had 3 deliveries and postpartums.to deal with, sustained the job till the third delivery so that we can get our dream.house, lost my mother in 2017, lost a baby in 2019, got COVID, lost my father in 2023 who was bedridden since my mother left. When I thought I can give myself a break from everything and spend quality time with my kids this happened. I do not know what to do. If there are any headhunters here in mumsnet who can help me please let me know. Feeling so broken after all.

I'm 4 weeks post medical abortion and on the low sensitivity test they provide with the pills there is still a faint positive line....is this just my hormones returning to a normal level ?

Hi @RoseDreamer - Women's Health is probably the best topic for this; start a new thread here and hopefully you'll get replies

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_health

Hi!
I am taking my two children on holiday to Turkey in June. My little boy will be 2 and my little girl will be 9 months. Looking at tips for clothing when out there. Never been in June before so just looking at advice as to what's going to be best for them to be dressed in.
Thank you!

Hi 👋
I am currently living in Harrow and my daughter is in year 3.

we want to move to Amersham/ lil Chalfont area but houses are too expensive.
I was also considering Chesham as another option as houses are bigger and nicer in Chesham but I see a lot of negative reviews about Chesham.

i need a lil insight about Chesham and which area we should completely avoid? Is there any Indian community there?

thanks a lot

AITA - my aunt has decided to rescue a dog which I think is amazing I’m so happy that she has decided to give a dog a loving home but here’s the problem, I have an almost 4 year old son who’s at hers regularly, I am not comfortable with my son being around the dog as it stated on the description that the dog is fine with secondary school children which is basically teenagers, he is a Siberian husky cross, and in the description it says due to not fault of his own he’s already been in a couple of homes, he’s 7 months old, I don’t want to fall out with her over this but I’m not sure how to tell her that I won’t be back in the house with my son and I’m happy for her to come to me but I’m just not sure how she will take it, anyone any advice on this and what’s your thoughts on this subject ?

Hi @MelissaJadexx - try posting in AIBU - 'Am I being unreasonable' - that's the Mumsnet version of AITA.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable

I don't think you're the asshole - you have to put your son's safety above all else.

@Antarcticant thank you, sorry this was my first time posting eventually figured out how to post 😂

@Tuxxox Try posting in Women's Health - and please add a sensitive content warning to your photo

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_health

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Have MIL who is acting the victim. Just had baby boy three weeks ago. MIL forced her way to come over two hours from being discharged from hospital. Then she keeps asking for photos to send her family. I’ve already told her we hardly have chance to take photos let alone send them. She then calls my mum and cries over phone saying she so upset that I refusing to give photos. She then says she had shingles a month ago and didn’t want to worry us! We have seen her last few months and I was heavily pregnant with an older child!!
I have lost all respect for her. She hast even asked me how I’m doing after birth and keeps demanding video or photos. I’m exhausted and still adjusting to life with two kids. I’m borderline depressed already and had PND last pregnancy.
She doesn’t understand and I just need space from her. She playing the victim that she lives hour away and too busy to visit. She wants photos to show her family behind my back. What shall I do?

Hi everyone, sorry I’m new to all this.

my period is like clock work every month since coming of the pill 6 months ago. Me and my boyfriend are not trying for a baby because I don’t want that stress or upset every month, but it’s very much a wish of mine as I’m nearly 32 with no kids. I’m 4 days late, but I’m so scared to do a pregnancy test to find out I’m not pregnant and go through that upset, all iv been thinking of in these 4 days is imagining me as a mum, you get yourself excited. I’m weeing a lot, and when I get to the bathroom I feel myself with worry that il see blood and that iv come on my period. I haven’t been sleeping well, last few days iv been feeling tired in the day and not sleeping at night, I was out working yesterday all day and I kept feeling a bit sick. Is this me over thinking? Iv always wanted to be a mum so I’m worried this will effect me. I keep getting the period systems, like lower pains but still no bleeding.

Hi @Jane1992 - try posting in the conception topic, use the 'start a new thread' button here.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception

I'm no expert on this but I think you should take the plunge and do a pregnancy test - then you will know where you are - and finding out for sure has to be better than worrying what you are going to see every time you go to the loo. You won't be able to move forward mentally and make plans until you're sure; at the moment you're going round in circles. Best of luck!

Thank you for your reply. I know, I need to push myself to get a test done so I can start ruling things out. I’m just so nervous because this is all iv ever wanted. I didn’t know if 4 days late was too soon to do a test ?

I don't think it's too early if you are overdue, many people start testing a couple of days before their period is due. There are folk on here who are experts at spotting faint lines on tests - if you're not sure of the result, post a picture of your test in the conception topic with the heading 'line eyes needed' and you are sure to get replies!

ah that’s amazing thank you, sorry I’m new to all of this, mumsnet, missed periods & pregnancy's etc. il do this right away. Thank you so much for your help.

Hi
i just wondered if anyone noticed a big mood change when weaning off BF? My baby is 9m and drinking less and less milk (eating more and more food) but lately I have noticed I feel very low, anxious and hopeless. Dont get me wrong I have had rough days throughout these months but there’s now a very flat feeling and I’m wondering if it’s connected and if anyone has any advice?
TIA XX

Hi @Amand34 - try starting a thread in the weaning topic - follow this link and choose 'start a new thread'

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/weaning

My 9 month old baby boy is at full time nursery and I am struggling with whether I should keep him there. I’ve gone back to work full time Mon-Fri and work long hours and I feel like the incidents have been nonstop, but don’t know if I’m overreacting?
Mon- in the accident book for bumping his head (small faint bruise). Wasn’t made aware until I picked him up in the evening even though it happened midday. Bumps his head all the time at home with being so active but it never bruises. Had a scratch on chest that I found when changing him (looked like an adults, definitely hadn’t scratched himself). Was not told anything about this. Mild nappy rash which I was told about, however I was told another child’s metanium had been used because there was no nappy rash cream in the bag- I was never told to bring any on either the settling in sessions or his first day and it does not specify on the paperwork that I need to provide nappy rash cream. Clothes a little grubby including socks- my baby is crawling but not walking so no idea how his socks became dirty.
Tues- came home with severe nappy rash which was peeling. I was told he had nappy rash but did not realise it was that bad- looked like he’d been sat in wet/soiled nappy for hours, was in pain when wiping him and we ended up getting a prescribed steroid cream from the doctors- no excuse for this level of nappy rash as I’d provided them with a full tube of metanium that same morning. He was also wearing someone else’s spare clothes even though he had 2 sets of spare clothes in his bag from the Monday. When I mentioned this, was told his clothes were soiled. They asked me for more wipes. I got home, checked his bag and there was a full pack of wipes and 2 spare CLEAN outfits still in the bag. Also noticed that evening his stools were slightly smelly and looser than normal- he seemed fine so put it down to change of diet.
Weds- he was fine in the morning, dropped him off at nursery and as I was getting him out of the car I noticed his leggings were wet and a little yellow and assumed nappy had leaked a little. Told the staff and they said they’d change him and I went to work. When I picked him up, I was told he’d had poos ‘like water’ all day that were described as ‘slimy’. I was asked if that’s normal for him and told them no it definitely is not. Only told about this when I collected him in the evening. There were updates on the app that he’d had loose stools but I wasn’t able to check with me being in work and nobody called me to let me know/pick him up. I wasn’t told anything about keeping him off the next day. Dr confirmed stomach bug and he shouldn’t be in nursery for 48hrs from last episode of illness as that should be their policy.
Thurs, Fri, Mon, Tues- kept off nursery- he had severe projectile vomiting and diarrhoea, off his milk and barely eating. I was very surprised that nursery hadn’t picked up how unwell he was on Weds and had asked me if his stools are usually like that. The smell was so strong it made me feel unwell.
Weds- First day back- no incidents but had an unexplained red mark on his chest again (not a scratch this time) but this had faded by the morning so I didn’t mention anything. Was asked to provide teething gel as there was ‘none in his bag’. Again have never been told to provide this.
Thurs- in the accident book again, exactly the same story but this time had a purple/red coloured mark/bruise right near his eye. I was a little shocked when I saw it as again he has bumps at home which never mark or bruise. Ended up talking to the manager with staff member present but don’t feel like some things were answered and it was almost an excuse to say that the kids keep pulling themselves up on furniture then falling. What are they doing to solve the issue then if it keeps happening? Also noticed when I got home that one of my babies toys is missing from his bag which he has grown quite attached to.
On top of all of this I don’t get many photos of him playing with toys, looking happy or getting involved in activities- I know he’s only been there a short time but I don’t feel very reassured while I’m in work that he’s happy there. I also feel that a lot has gone on in such a short space of time. I am usually not one to complain and don’t want to come across like a whiny b*tch but he’s my baby and I want to make sure he’s well looked after. It’s also difficult as I like the staff members and when I spoke to them about this, they were very professional and reassured me, however I still feel like questions aren’t being answered and communication isn’t the best. Am I overreacting????

@ScorpioMama31 oh I’m so sorry this is happening. You’re not over reacting at all! My baby is the same age and personally I would take him out. Could you look into a childminder or smaller setting? X

Thanks, this is reassuring to know as I don’t know what’s normal and what’s not with being an FTM and not knowing what to expect from nursery. I think communication is the biggest issue. I am looking into childminders and hopefully I’ll find someone suitable x

Hi all,

I'm due to be going on a very close friend's hen do abroad 15 weeks pregnant. Not worried about the hen do itself as it's very chilled - restaurants and bars, no clubs etc - and I'll just sit out whatever I need to/go back to the room if necessary and take it very easy (I've obviously confirmed this is okay with the bride and my friend I'm sharing a room with has offered to sit out whatever I need to with me so I won't be on my own).

I'm just concerned over the actual travel. It's only a 2 hour flight to Europe. Was told by my doctor this isn't a worry as I'll be in my second trimester and just to have lots of water and move around a bit, however I had a small implantation bleed at 6 weeks (no pain and only a few spots then brown discharge, private scan confirmed small haemorrhage which has now passed and since had 9 week scan showing baby that seems to be progressing well ☺). I also have PCOS so not sure if this makes it high risk?

I haven't got a midwife yet and at the booking in appt when I asked, they wouldn't give me an answer either way and just told me to do my own research.

Just wondering if anyone has a similar experience i.e. flying during second trimester after implantation bleeding/with PCOS?

TIA x

@JW1997 Try starting a new thread in the pregnancy topic - I'm sure you'll find someone with experience of this. How unhelpful they were at your booking appt

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy