So I've been with my wife for two years we recently got married and ive got three kids from my previous straight relationship.
We moved in together last year and I moved 1hour and 20 minutes away from the where I was originally from.
When we first met she use to drink a few cans most night only two or three and it was never an issue, she smoked weed and it never bothered me. She comes from a drinking family. I don't. I do however and have done in the passed go on nights out and drink more than I should with the girls.
But I don't drink in the house and never when I'm with my kids. Never took drugs ever
Slowly I noticed that her drinking got earlier in the day. And more regular over time.
If we didn't have the money to buy beers she would just go and it from her mums or sisters or worse lend money to buy it.
I've always been open about the fact I have bpd and suffer with depression a lot and since I've been married her drinking has become a lot worse and it has effected my depression much more.
We live out the way you see
And I can't drive so I can't go anywhere unless she takes us out and she prioritises drink on her days off. I worked it out that I've left the house other than the school run with is a hop skip n a jump from my door
2 times in 22 days
And it's getting really frustrating.
I clean up make tea and lay in my bed when the kids r at school
Nothing else to do
So lately last few months it goes like this
She drinks about 2-6 per night mon - Thursday and the Friday- Sunday it's 8-12
She doesn't eat until she has had a drink
So she finishes work at 5:30 through the week
Weekends she will open one at 8am
She drinks then eats then sleeps then wakes up really angry and takes it out on me
Her temper is awful her tongue is vile
I've been called all the names under the sun
She leaves me wel threathens to leave me all the time and comes back or turns it round and refuses to leave
It's never her fault
I'm to blame because of the way I am
I don't know what to do?
I've spoken to her today after work she hadn't had a drink she was in pain because she wasn't drinking
She admitted she has a problem with drink
Then later on the iron fell on me and I was crying she was asking if I was ok and I snapped because I was in so much pain and crying
Well it caused world war three she tried to smash my sons tablet up
She doesn't have a drink problem now 😯
She packed a bag after throwing the fruit bowl over my kitchen and waking my oldest child up
Minutes later returned to begged me not to kick her out but by this point I'd had enough and I told her I was scared and she needed to leave
I thought she was going to hit me
She said if she left she will never see me again
Minutes later she bagging my door down
She needs her charger
She's at her mums house my guess drinking
Ringing and texting
I've lost the best thing in my life apparently and I'll see that soon to I'm sorry I'll make it better
I'm just like wtf do I do
Someone please help me
Is my wife a alcoholic? Am I over reacting?
Chapman198 · 22/11/2017 00:49
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