I hate being nd

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Anyone else hate being nd?

I found a text message app ,called shout ,where you messaging a volunteer if your struggling,I'm going to give that a go at some point

I couldn’t agree more. Superpower my backside! I struggle so much when with too many people, so my world now is so much smaller. Of course, there’s times when this simply isn’t possible.

Does it bother you that your world is so much smaller?

Mines very small to
But I'm having counselling and I had lots of CBT to widen it

Yes and no. No, if anything in my life stays the same, which of course it won’t. Yes, because I need to expand to help myself from who I am. The latter does scare me.

Thanks for your reply, its interesting to hear others experiences. What do you mean by to help yourself from who you are?

Anyone else struggle with friends or relationships in general? As in you think they're being kind but actually they have other motives but by the time you see it, it's too late, it's gone on too long. And then when you end the relationship it's made out that you're being dramatic and over reacting. That's my experience, frequently throughout my life from childhood to now in my 40s.

Squishytail you sound like me.
A list of things to deal with.Ive had phobias, depression anxiety eating disorders and been diagnosed with hyperactive impulsive type ADHD recently with autistic traits.
My dh has distanced himself saying he doesn't want to do what whatsforteamum wants too.
Colleagues can be lovely I just feel alone.
I don't wish away my ND as my hyper active side gets stuff done I just wish others didn't try to control me.

I have always worked which has been a blessing.

You’re most welcome. I’ve no friends, well certainly no one I’m close to, more acquaintances and work colleagues (not so many of them if I’m honest). I’ve been used by people and then dropped when no longer required. I’ve a very small family and worry I’ll be even more alone than I am, unless my husband outlives me of course. So I suppose I need to start looking at new opportunities to make the odd friendship here and there. I look at other women and see them with their sister, their friend and I don’t have that.

Same window woman.

Same here too, except not married and live alone

Floopdifloo that must be difficult.

What I hate and what makes life so hard is being poor and having no family support or friends or anyone at all to depend on. People in my situation end up killing themselves or becoming addicts.

Also all the trauma from decades of child abuse and domestic abuse and there's no help from the NHS.

I even went to a peer support group for autistic women late diagnosed. All had partners, husbands, parents, they owned their own homes. They were secure and stable. One was going to pay for a private diagnosis because she hadn't met criteria for NHS one. She was moaning about her house taking ages to sell. Another one moaning about how she wasn't able to enjoy her holiday in Spain.
What was I supposed to talk about, yes I'm using crack and heroin as a coping mechanism.
So many people who are living in poverty and deprivation with terrible mental health problems and substance issues who have no idea they have Neurodiversity.
Prison, suicide, drug alcohol addiction, agoraphobia are likely outcomes for them.

People paying for their diagnoses and banging on about their 'titration levels' like it's some trendy club they are part of. Meanwhile poor and vulnerable are left to rot

I know what you mean, I've too been to groups ands it's the same as you said, they're married, kids, holding down a full time job. I know it's easy to assume that they have it easy but we don't see what goes on behind closed doors, and if they have support in place it might make it easier to work etc. But yeh, I felt totally out of place. And they were all talking about their "quirks" , none of them said they found being autistic disabling. How do people get assessed and diagnosed if they don't find it disabling, part of the criteria is that it impairs life.