Do you like "holidays"?

[EmmaH2022]

Curious to know how others feel about these

I am much like the Miranda Hart episode about holidays...except I wouldn't want to stay in a local hotel either! (Though I would likely to accidentally end up hosting a party in my room). I haven't been away since 2016.

I have been abroad in the past but can no longer cope with the journey. Every so often I think I'll try again but it doesn't seem worth it. I'm not a routine person but the comfort of home and familiarity means a lot to me. I also get bored when I'm away!

I don't cope well with crowds either, so while there's several paintings dotted round international galleries that I'd like to see I don't think I'll see any more. Have been lucky enough to see loads. Recently they have been surrounded by people taking selfies.

My sister was hoping we could go on art tour of the Netherlands but the last few times I went abroad, I was either ill (stress related I reckon) or just really didn't enjoy it.

What do others feel about holidays?

I like planning holidays but I don’t always enjoy them. When I do find somewhere that I enjoy I book it again….and again…and again until I no longer enjoy it. We only holiday in the uk, I like visiting different places but the stress of preparing to go and preparing for every possible situation that could happen is pretty stressful.

My ex husband was on the spectrum and hated going away, he was always I’ll when we got there and his anxiety was off the scale so I started going away without him.

I have adhd so the novelty of new places is a big draw. My brain loves travel; my tummy not so much and I’m hyper sensitive to new surroundings, strange beds, and air conditioning systems.

Right now holidays include the dc, and ds has autism and finds too much novelty a challenge. Our compromise is a motorhome, so he always sleeps in the same bed, we can stock up on his safe foods and we can control the pace of the holiday or head in a different direction if it’s too hot.

It’s worked out well so far. We’ve done a lot of weekends away and we can take advantage of the low season to avoid crowds.

No, I don't like it, I get so homesick and usually end up crying about going home early, I'm very noise sensitive, I worry about hearing other people, talking or in the hotel corridors, music, doors banging makes me so stressed
Everything is stressful, it starts at booking, I hate decisions and there's too many, destination, hotel, flights, car park or taxi, arranging the money, packing I hate it all
I do like, the sun, the food and drinks, the pool, I wish I could go on holiday to my own house but with the bits I like
I have asd and waiting for adhd dx, I get bored, I don't do relaxing, and all that laying around makes me think of home and my own bed, and the flight is terrible, sitting still near strangers, nightmare, the airport especially security makes me stressed out, so in answer no, I don't really like them at all!

Mummie oh yes, noise is the worst bit. There's enough of it in daily life I find....in my block of flats, the noise is predictable to some extent.

I never sleep much when away and now I'm older, I can't manage much without sleep. I do have occasional pills but obviously the doctor limits them.

I have cried from homesickness as well.

I’ve got ADHD (only diagnosed in recent years, I’m in my 30s) and I hate holidays. Always have. Find them incredibly stressful and anxiety inducing. I don’t know if it’s connected but this thread has got me thinking.

I love a holiday. I love sunshine and swimming and beautiful new places. I do stress about them a lot in the run up though

I love holidays, but hate the run up! I’m going away next week and am already feeling anxious, just thinking about the packing and getting to the airport, and of course passing the obligatory Covid test! Also I think it’s being out of practice for the last couple of years. Always though, the last couple of days before I think, ‘why am I doing this, I don’t want to go!’. We’re going to a familiar favourite place, so at least I know what the deal is, but the run up is just so unsettling. I have ASD so find change hard to handle. As soon as my bum is in the plane seat though I relax!

@BurnDownTheDiscoHangTheDJ

I’ve got ADHD (only diagnosed in recent years, I’m in my 30s) and I hate holidays. Always have. Find them incredibly stressful and anxiety inducing. I don’t know if it’s connected but this thread has got me thinking.

It's interesting because this describes me, while of course many will be like LadyCordelia like going to new places.

I don't know exactly which box links me to not liking holidays. It may be separate anxiety issues. The world getting noisier, busier, more crowded etc is a big issue for me. I've had problems with sensory overload since I was a child. There are places I'd be happy to visit if I could be magically transported there, but airports, planes....argh.

ADHD and autistic. Love love love holidays ! The researching and planning just as much as the holiday (maybe more so actually)

I do stick to one country and type of holiday though, but different hotels and areas, so I have the novelty factor plus familiarity.

I also read the whole of TripAdvisor and join Facebook groups for the hotel, so feel very prepared when I get there (plus communication with hotel beforehand so I can check where our room is… )

I can't cope with holidays. I'd love to go away, but I'm always stressed and unwell when I'm there. I just feel so physically uncomfortable and out of my depth and I struggle to deal with chronic health conditions that get worse with stress. I forget how to control them and to follow the self imposed rules I need to follow to keep myself together. I also worry incessantly about the house and pets even though the pet sitters visit twice a day. The weather is always too hot and I get heat exhaustion really easily. This even happened in Wales 🤦‍♀️

I can just about manage a trip out.

Barrow I can just about manage a trip out these days... but the duration of what I can cope with is getting shorter and shorter.

I'm supposed to be having a bit of a trip out at the weekend - the kind that's just part of a normal weekend for most people - and already the train times etc are stressing me out!

I'm supposed to be having a bit of a trip out at the weekend - the kind that's just part of a normal weekend for most people - and already the train times etc

I hear ya. Honestly, I think meds can help with these things, even just a short course for the duration of the trip. I don't think there's any avoiding the stress feelings and they get worse with age.

Barrow I no longer do any trips that would require meds just to do them if you see what I mean.

This is more just annoying rather than stressful - it's only the transport that's bugging me.

@BananaPlants

ADHD and autistic. Love love love holidays ! The researching and planning just as much as the holiday (maybe more so actually)

I do stick to one country and type of holiday though, but different hotels and areas, so I have the novelty factor plus familiarity.

I also read the whole of TripAdvisor and join Facebook groups for the hotel, so feel very prepared when I get there (plus communication with hotel beforehand so I can check where our room is… )

Pretty much the same as me, me and the DD’s (both ASD) tend to stick to the same places but different hotels/camp sites etc.. and we have to research with trio advisor before booking 🤣. I think I kind of forced the kids into enjoying it in the beginning after their dad left as he hated going away, I thought if I took them away a lot more they would get used to it. It has kind of worked it dd1 often has issues with food and using toilets when we are away.

I'd love to visit Norway 🇳🇴

Lol that was supposed to be the Norwegian flag 🤦‍♀️

I find holidays very stressful. I have food allergies so it’s difficult for me to find safe food to eat, it requires in depth conversations with waiting staff which I find very painful, and sometimes I have to try multiple places before I find somewhere that can cater. This is even worse abroad when there’s a language barrier. I sometimes go without food rather than talk to waiting staff about what I can eat. That’s before you consider the dangers of travel. In some places you have to be constantly alert because there are pickpockets or scam artists and I find that very stressful. And some places are just downright dangerous, people are unpredictable and liable to attack you for no reason. You need to be alert all the time for attackers and it’s just exhausting.

Donra are you thinking of big cities in terms of danger?

Barrow my parents loved Norway.

I love planning and researching holidays, it's my special interest.

Always seem to go where I know though. I'm currently at Butlins for the 7th time.

I get very stressed while away though.

I love holidays but hate the travel to get there. I struggle on trains for a long time and I'm terrified of flying. The airport itself is extreme stressful.
I wouldn't like a holiday that was busy though. I've been on an all inclusive once and it was hell on earth.

I like all inclusive holidays where I check into a hotel and then spend the week sitting by the pool or more recently taking dd to the on-amusement park and then hanging out at the pool. I love the idea of seeing new places in theory, but the reality is just too much. A real holiday for me is someone else taking care of all the details while I get a break from managing the logistics of life and get to read many books.

I love holidays, new places and travelling. But not ones where I am in close proximity to other people. No way could I share a cottage, tiny hotel room or a bed with someone outside of my immediate family. Camping works great for me in that respect. Close but not too close, and only sharing a camp fire.

@MrsWombat

I love holidays, new places and travelling. But not ones where I am in close proximity to other people. No way could I share a cottage, tiny hotel room or a bed with someone outside of my immediate family. Camping works great for me in that respect. Close but not too close, and only sharing a camp fire.

I could camp if there was no one else around

I tend to think of camping as being noisy. Did it about 20 years ago but I get the impression campsites and behaviour have changed a lot since then.

I do love holidays! I haven't had one since 2012 so I miss going away.

We usually drive, and I like planning places to go and see - galleries, menhirs, towns (I can block out any noise for a bit as I am so interested in a new place that I don't feel overwhelmed) I do have to take cyclizine for motion sickness, but I have had that all my life, so being able to travel without vomming is fabulous.

The furthest we have driven is across Europe to visit friends in Budapest we travelled off season in early spring to avoid crowds, via France, Belgium, the Netherlands, Germany, Switzerland, Austria (and Italy via the Alpine border) and then Hungary. The journey back was through Slovakia (lots of wildlife), The Czech republic, the old Eastern Germany and then back to Belgium for the Zeebrugge ferry. On the way I saw so much of interest and I loved Budapest (Gellért Thermal Baths were my favourite) - and the food too - I am lucky not to have food phobias.

Usually we go to France, either the Languedoc in the early 2000s before it got so touristy, or more recently to Carnac where we always stayed at a lovely Camping site surrounded by woodland in one of their chalets. I would so love to do that again, but now MIL lives with us, she doesn't travel , none of the family would have her to give us a break, and it would not be relaxing if we did take her

Donra are you thinking of big cities in terms of danger?
People will attack you anywhere. I once lay on a beach lounger and a random local man came and lay beside me on my actual lounger, I had to run away. I was attacked only a couple of weeks ago outside the local school by a woman who was verbally abusing her small child and thought I was giving her a disapproving look. I was in the town centre last year and stopped to photograph a pretty bird, and some random man went nuts because he thought I was photographing him doing a drug deal or something. I try to keep my eyes down because there are too many mad people who scream “what the f are you looking at?!” That’s before you even consider all the scammers who will harass you in various ways when you go abroad. I went to Egypt once and you literally couldn’t leave the hotel because you got harassed non stop.